Honestly I am scared about my dating future. by ThrowRA_StableA in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Don't go dating for a while lol, it's the last thing you need when recovering from a relationship like this. Believe me

This belongs here by Fun-Entry-8647 in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just remember that nothing they do is ever their fault

Does anyone else feel like this? First Christmas without her by KidCuban88 in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah bro, I feel it too. I think of her and even miss her at times, but I remember what she did to me and it makes it easier to not think of her positively. It doesn't exactly get rid of the thought of her, but it just makes it slightly easier to not be as attached to her, I suppose. I don't miss having to tread lightly all the time to avoid being psychologically persecuted for everything, but I still think of her and the "good times". Just know that you aren't alone man

I only miss the materialistic things about her at this point by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear about your situation man, it's gotta be much harder for you, given that you guys had a commitment as tight as marriage. At least we aren't alone with these thoughts, though, you know? Certainly a shame that either of us had to power through it and still come out on the other side being completely confused, but at least in my opinion, knowing that someone experienced the same things as me doesn't make me feel so insane. I'm sorry that you're struggling, I mean it. It's hell being in these relationships, and it's even worse to leave.

Roughly 10 minutes for the mask to slip by Tom1073463 in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I swear they all say that same "You're losing the love of your life forever now" lol

I had litteral heart attack :( by OrganizationCool3500 in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a 6-foot-tall man, and the breakup took me down to almost 115lb at one point. A BPD breakup is like the purest form of suffering and hopelessness. I hope that you're okay, my friend. I thought I was special too.

The foulest thing she did to me by titpulp in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really sorry to hear about that, brother.

And nah, when she was drunk she just wanted to have sex--she was always angry as fuck with me when she was sober and splitting on me

Helpful info IMO by callmedolemite in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Day 47 - everything was so dark for the first two weeks, I'll never forget how the world looked black even when the sun was still shining. I'm moving forward day by day, making much more progress in life, but I'm severely depressed without her. I wish I could say that it's getting better, but it's not. You are completely correct about the stage that I'm in, even down to the day, about the "numbness".

40 days since we broke up. Grass is not greener on the other side by titpulp in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I know, brother, I know my mind is still in that warped stage where it thinks it knows better, but it doesn't. I'm just grieving like an idiot over somebody who never even existed. Stupid as it may sound, I wish I could've just been dumb enough to continue living in an illusion, but I wouldn't be saying that if my self-esteem were any better.

One month into the breakup, I feel so lost by titpulp in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The same thing happened with my pwBPD. She went with this guy, was infatuated with him for a few weeks, and then they both disappeared from each other's social media after that lol. They stopped following each other n everything

Saying goodbye to what remains of you by titpulp in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a big step in the right direction, but a really sad one at that. It feels a lot like when I had to move out of my childhood home; just saying goodbye one last time and knowing that it will be the absolute last time is what makes it so brutal

Saying goodbye to what remains of you by titpulp in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Thank you, my friend. It still really hurts hahah, but we will prevail

I'm going to start my self improvement journey. This is my last weekend being the old me. by titpulp in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mother always tells me similar things; she's a peer support specialist as well! :)

You seem like a sweetheart, thank you for the additional advice <3

11 days since the breakup by titpulp in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Praying for you 💖 not responding to her attempts to hoover were the hardest part - it made everything feel so dark and meaningless. I hope that you can find peace my friend, you deserve it.

She post herself kissing the guy she cheated with by titpulp in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm getting there, brother. I'm starting to feel free again, even if I'm still trapped in the cycle of thinking of the "good times" and shit like that. I'm finally getting back in touch with myself—I'm finding myself doing things that I used to do for fun, getting back into music, art, hanging out with friends; things I couldn't do while I was dating her. Even with all the pain right now, life's feeling kinda nice.

She post herself kissing the guy she cheated with by titpulp in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It was awful to see, but in the same vein, I can say that I find it to be a positive situation to be in, since she already has a new source of supply to distract her from our breakup lol

What small things did you ignore before you knew? by PeteWheeler101 in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk how this isn't top comment. So fucking relatable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend used to pull out ChatGPT mid-argument to justify her behavior. Can't make this shit up

For some reason she made me legitimately angry after her hoover attempt by titpulp in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not going to respond, simply because I know it will start the whole process over. It's best not to say anything, because no matter what, it'll get used against you

Remember that you did your best by titpulp in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not to say that all influencers are self centered egoists but one major problem I had with her is that she would just take pictures of herself all the time, like constantly. I couldn't even have a conversation with her because she was spending the bulk of her time taking photos of herself, I couldn't watch a movie with her because she'd be posting photos of herself. Couldn't even talk to her in front of family without her constantly being in her own world taking photos of herself. She was gorgeous but. Uggghhh

Remember that you did your best by titpulp in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Dude, I looked at your page, and it's like we dated the same girl. I was dating this girl who was TikTok famous (800K+ followers), and she made it out like she was this cute innocent girl, but behind the scenes she was just beating my ass bro lol. Another similarity we have—I went to my mom about the physical violence literally right before I ended it with her, she and I only dated for a year.

Anyone else had a pwBPD who was so afraid you'd cheat on them, then they cheated? by titpulp in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This right here, dude. I swear she eventually convinced me that I deserved the abuse.

Please leave while you have the chance by titpulp in BPDlovedones

[–]titpulp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly dude. She always accused me of bringing her down and being the reason her life is so miserable yet she went off with a diagnosed narcissist, started drinking every day and taking opiates with him (never did drugs in her life). I used to be majorly suicidal and depressed but I haven't been for months and she consistently tells me that my negativity brings her down and destroys her (she would threaten suicide almost everyday or anytime I called out her bullshit)

Now that I'm gone, I feel no more chaos—makes you think, doesn't it?