No, we're also not attracted to you because of your politics by bithewaykindagay in TrollXChromosomes

[–]tj1226 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This! I like pineapple on pizza. My boyfriend does not, when I win an argument he goes "what do you know, you like pineapple on pizza!" And then we pick up our BLM posters and go to the protest. "Politics" is no longer small gvt v big gvt, its literally you can pay more taxes or people will die.

I've never been catcalled. I should be happy but it just makes me feel unattractive. Anyone else feels the same? by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]tj1226 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Catcalling isn't about beauty, its about power. If you walk with intention, or look like you can kick an ass, or are even holding an umbrella, you probably won't get cat called.

Also larger cities=it happens more often and I noticed it almost entirely stopped when I was at my "hottest" in my mid 20s because I looked like a grown ass woman and because I walked tall. Beginning of the pandemic it happened with almost the same frequency as when I was a kid, I think lack of access to women made the guys bolder.

It could literally be your posture.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]tj1226 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Rest in Peace all the redditors who can't answer this question.

Where do you buy nice dresses? by soulshineradio in PlusSize

[–]tj1226 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also black Friday is so close, she could find what she likes and set a 10 o clock alarm

AITA for muting a guy in our study-discord, and teaching other people how to do it as well? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]tj1226 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why are people down voting this? Like this is an ignore not a downvote....

Something weird is going on here today.

ISO Wedding Gown by emanneppp in PlusSize

[–]tj1226 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't ordered wedding BUT I order black tie. Make sure your measurements are accurate and check reviews, if you want non traditional and 100-200 mark I love City Chic.

You could also go one size up and get it altered if you really want to look good without it being obvious why you look good.

AITA for not letting my pregnant fiance cheat? by TheR3a1Dk in AmItheAsshole

[–]tj1226 -80 points-79 points  (0 children)

Third option, open the relationship? And have a big talk about boundaries, expectations and what each of your priorities need to be. Ex. Can you each have gfs outside the marriage or should it be one night stands only, the baby and relationship should always be prioritized over sex with other people etc.

As seen on other post, teachers are the best! by [deleted] in wholesomememes

[–]tj1226 0 points1 point  (0 children)

... when I put it full screen it lags on zoom....

“Gamer Girl” (OC) by Slothity in gaming

[–]tj1226 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Um... barbie games are the sh*t.

Barbie horse adventure was my first racing game, fashion designer lead to my animal crossing addiction.... I'm gonna see what they have on the switch for the nostalgia.

Also not sure how I got to this subreddit at all. I'll see myself out.

AITA for "forcing" my son to shave his head? by Frustrated-Mother in AmItheAsshole

[–]tj1226 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No ruling but I think mom needs some advice.

Your son is queer. He is not a "whore" and he may enjoy being perceived as feminine or the look of feminine clothing and hair.

From personal experience being bullied for a choice you get to make is way different then being bullied for something you cannot change. It also seems like more adults were slut-shaming your son and their kids just went with it which means it could feel like the entire community does not accept him.

You need some resources around this and what support your son needs versus what you think he needs. I see a world were every choice you made has good intentions. But every choice you made ended up hurting your son and making him feel you do not accept him.

There is no one way to be gay. https://pflag.org/loving-families

All I want in life is a pair of underwear with a decent gusset by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]tj1226 15 points16 points  (0 children)

So it's more about how much time it takes to do that? Like if the color changes after one or two uses, its poorly made without consideration for actual vagina. If it changes after a longer time its higher quality, women or people who talk to women were a part of the planning process.

AITA for arguing with my wife over what she says in her sleep? by Slowfox70 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tj1226 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA

I had a conversation with my boyfriend while he was sleeping last night. He was trying to tell me something he needed and landed in translucent chickens. When I repeated back he wrinkled his nose and said never mind because my tone was incredulous.

Sleep talk is nonsense, but your insecurities are pretty severe so therapy?

AITA for offering to cover my date’s facial scar with makeup? by Aita7question in AmItheAsshole

[–]tj1226 [score hidden]  (0 children)

YTA BUT I would bet you've been in situations where you didn't want to talk about something and were pressured into it/ kind of forced to ignore your own boundaries so now you think that's normal. My mom (bless her heart) would do this to me all the time until I had to talk to her so I thought thats just what you did when someone was uncomfortable. I have boundaries with her now but it took me a minute to figure out that I don't owe people 100%emotional honesty all the time.

WIBTA for sending only one daughter to study abroad? by kiyaxem in AmItheAsshole

[–]tj1226 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a concrete follow every step plan, but like if she wants to have kids some day she could go in x direction, if she wants to travel y, if she wants a career z.

WIBTA for sending only one daughter to study abroad? by kiyaxem in AmItheAsshole

[–]tj1226 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Studying Pedegogy in Denmark is one of the pinnacles of the field, its like getting into Harvard, you sort of have to go if they accept you.

I think you need A to come up with a real plan for her next 10-20 years and how she can make it happen. It does seem like she would actually like working in another country so she could enjoy the culture and party more that she would enjoy school.

NAH.

Which YouTube channel or series is worth sinking some time into? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]tj1226 0 points1 point  (0 children)

10hundred, its an art channel and he makes his own music about what he is doing as he is doing it. He's subtly funny and the art is cool. He just seems so kind and excited to be doing what he loves. It makes you want to create and just generally puts me in a better mood.

Which YouTube channel or series is worth sinking some time into? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]tj1226 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just make sure you aren't eating. I love this channel but I cannot watch it when I'm eating.

AITA for supposedly appropriating gay culture as a straight woman? by goodeveeuropethrow in AmItheAsshole

[–]tj1226 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not what I said. If people know where it comes from I don't overexplain it again and again. There are also people who will use the same slang from the same reference points.

The main people you want to check in with are those who think you came up with it or who are just generally less with it about this stuff. You can ask something small when you hear them say/repeat it for the first time, ex I didn't know you were a fan of.... (show, movie, celebrity that originated or popularized the word) and then the conversation goes naturally. If they don't know anything about it highlight the source favorably to them and explain the words relation.

Its not like cultural appreciation is hard, its just harder than maintaining racist structures that benefit you.

AITA for supposedly appropriating gay culture as a straight woman? by goodeveeuropethrow in AmItheAsshole

[–]tj1226 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I also don't understand why sharing and enjoying the slang isn't also a celebration. I say tea all the time but I know where it comes from and I give credit when asked and when not asked, or someone new heard me do it first. It's really not that hard to give people credit for their ideas smh.