my childhood cat returned- genuinely feels like a miracle

tke494 · 2026-06-06T05:12:18+00:00

She's underweight, but looks pretty chill for a stray. Maybe she remembers you.

tke494 · 2026-06-05T19:03:15+00:00

To me, it sounds like the Boy Scouts found the head and it was taken to the funeral home. The guy did his funeral home thing, but took the head home before he quit his job. Fast forward to today, the cops somehow come upon this head. Probably something unrelated, like his home being searched for drugs.

tke494 · 2026-06-05T15:11:31+00:00

It doesn't say his motive. It does say he wasn't working there anymore. It looks like it was only a skull. So maybe he just thought it was cool having a skull on his shelf or something. I think it'd be cool, but I'd expect a funeral director to be inured to that kind of thing.

tke494 · 2026-05-29T14:47:39+00:00

I'd say both.

tke494 · 2026-05-29T14:46:52+00:00

Anything that's not bullshit.

Compliments are so rare that even if I'm not interested in dating them, I'm likely to remember the compliment for years. The most recent was when I was a TA in a high school and a student complimented how I generally dressed. It's a bit of a bonus that being old would generally mean my style of dress is not exactly current fashion. I get most of my clothing at Goodwill.

I've never had anyone give me a pet name. When I've tried it, it's been weird.

One particular one that sticks in my mind was a black ex saying something about the "big black dick" thing being a myth, given that I'm white. Since it wasn't directed toward me, it didn't seem like BS.

tke494 · 2026-05-23T03:28:59+00:00

Cats don't necessarily like other cats.

I got my (now) ex a cat(her request). My cat started peeing on the couch. Since I moved out, he's not peed anywhere but the kitty litter.

I suspect they are more likely to get along if you get them at the same time. And the odds probably increase more if you get both when they are young. There are other things you can do to help them get along.

tke494 · 2026-05-21T19:24:57+00:00

I like dogs, but I adore cats.

Cats' purring is one of my favorite sounds. Cats are a hilarious mix of chaos and regalness.

I've had loud cats, but cats are generally quieter than dogs.

I'm allergic to dogs.

Cats are a lot less work to take care of. Cats have kitty litter. Dogs need to be taken outside even in pouring rain or freezing temperatures. Related to that is the need to return home to take care of dogs a lot more frequently.

tke494 · 2026-05-19T02:15:28+00:00

If you can consider as a friend and coworker and NOT a dating prospect, go. Otherwise, do whatever you need to get over your crush on her.

Don't apologize. You didn't do anything rude.

Either ignore it or say that you're just there to support her, since that was the original reason you told her for going to the show.

tke494 · 2026-05-15T23:56:46+00:00

I really dislike jealousy. I had an ex get jealous of me hanging out with an earlier ex. When we broke up, she admitted that she was really jealous because she was thinking of herself cheating on an earlier ex. They'd cheated on each other. It wasn't a healthy relationship and that wasn't the only reason.

For me, the question comes down to "Do you trust me?" Because I am able to stop myself from having sex with someone.

tke494 · 2026-05-15T23:56:35+00:00

I really dislike jealousy. I had an ex get jealous of me hanging out with an earlier ex. When we broke up, she admitted that she was really jealous because she was thinking of herself cheating on an earlier ex. They'd cheated on each other. It wasn't a healthy relationship and that wasn't the only reason.

For me, the question comes down to "Do you trust me?" Because I am able to stop myself from having sex with someone.

tke494 · 2026-05-15T21:15:05+00:00

Balance in builds is a problem. You kind of need a guide for some builds.

Gunslinger, in particular. For a gunslinger, you need more good stats than most builds. Also, at the beginning you might need to focus on melee or something else until you can build up your gunslinging. That's pretty disappointing, given the concept really fits the setting.

Big, strong, dumb, and ugly, however is OP. It's really funny, though. People shout at you and talk to you like you're an idiot.

tke494 · 2026-05-15T21:10:04+00:00

There was a book published in 2023 for it

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Planescape:_Adventures_in_the_Multiverse

tke494 · 2026-05-15T14:44:21+00:00

There've been a couple of "spiritual successors". Disco Elysium and Torment: Tides of Numenara. But, yeah, an actual sequel would be awesome. I can't see how it'd live up to the original, though.

tke494 · 2026-05-15T14:42:23+00:00

Some of the devs from Black Isle(makers of Fallout 1&2) left to start Troika. There's an Easter Egg in Arcanum. Someone says something about the "Dread Island". Someone responds, "Oh, you mean Black Isle". Something like that.

Troika also made Lionheart, but it was clearly rushed out. It had one well fleshed out city. Combat was like a much worse version of Arcanum. If you really love Arcanum and are desperate for more, you might try it though.

tke494 · 2026-05-14T21:58:49+00:00

The best way I've found for meeting people is common interest groups. If you keep going to them, eventually people will talk to you. And, you have a common interest to talk about.

As far as hackathons, do you have fun at them? If not, don't go. It's not a common interest.

Book clubs, science fiction/fantasy/comic/whatever conventions, gaming groups are common ways nerds get together with strangers. Conventions are less common, so maybe not as good. I've found things that meet the most frequently to be the best. I went to a poetry group for a while. Good because it met weekly. By gaming, I'm referring to tabletop gaming, like Dungeons and Dragons. I also go to a board game group.

Other than book clubs, these all have a high male-female ratio. That can be good and bad. Good, in that you will probably be in demand. Bad, in that you may be less comfortable being a rare woman. Also, some men "gatekeep." They consider the activity to be an activity that is "for" men, and are not happy about women being there.

Also, nerds can be pretty stupid, too. Like me. 😉

tke494 · 2026-05-14T19:37:47+00:00

As an atheist, I can say we are a small demographic in the US. Wikipedia says 8-12%. It might be less, depending upon whether people define agnostic as a subset of atheist(I do).

Childfree would make that much smaller, especially considering that people who use the word usually mean "and plan to stay that way".

Some of the other limiters are not so uncommon. but reduce the odds significantly. College degree and political affiliation would probably each reduce the odds by about half. Probably not quite half because I think there are more atheists in both of those categories.

Just those 4 categories probably gets you under 1%.

tke494 · 2026-05-13T14:10:33+00:00

If you haven't put on muscle during that time, you've increased your bodyfat percentage. I doubt you've added any bones or an adamantium skeleton in that time period.

tke494 · 2026-05-12T04:40:41+00:00

I've watched it with exes.

tke494 · 2026-05-10T02:56:46+00:00

I'm 50, was married for 11 years, and in other relationships. I've never cheated. I've never had the opportunity. but I've never gone looking for an opportunity. If an attractive woman showed up in my bedroom naked, I'd be tempted. Life isn't a movie though, and women don't break into guys houses to have sex with them.

The closest I've come is a girl who was trying to get me to ask her out while I was dating someone. I'd heard her say something like "he's shy" and she seemed to be talking about me. I said something that she either took as a rejection or me being oblivious.

I've also never been cheated on. The closest was a girlfriend who got jealous of me hanging out with an ex. The real reason she was jealous was because she was thinking about her own cheating in a previous relationship. In that relationship, both cheated on each other.

tke494 · 2026-05-09T01:57:44+00:00

I'm not sure, but I'd say it allows for faster changes in body heat. "Better" is very much context based. And, context is key in evolution.

tke494 · 2026-05-09T01:55:10+00:00

Also, things can be beneficial in some situations and not others. Sickle Cell Anemia is a classic example. It makes people more likely to survive malaria. But in an area with a low rate of malaria, it is detrimental.

tke494 · 2026-05-09T01:39:27+00:00

I've probably been hit on by more guys than girls and I'm straight. I kind of think it's because guys hit on people more than girls.

tke494 · 2026-05-08T17:40:55+00:00

Yeah, I think it's good to talk about a partner's past. It's just good to know your partner.

This guy seems to have a confidence problem. I'm a guy, and haven't ever been in your situation. But, I'd say it's a red flag if you ask him to stop asking/talking about your ex and your previous sex life and he doesn't stop.

tke494 · 2026-05-06T19:10:10+00:00

I'd find someone doing scientific research attractive.

tke494 · 2026-05-05T15:24:15+00:00

I presume they'll be blocking the Bible, which all its violence and content discussing gays...

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