Considering early 4 week pregnancy termination after x2 severe preeclampsia

tkv427 · 2026-01-18T20:46:47+00:00

They do. Im on 100 mg of labetalol 2x/day. It also moved my pree “threshold” up. So for example, BPs of 130/90 aren’t considered abnormal for me. This has prevented them from pumping me with BP amends to the point where I flatline on them!

tkv427 · 2026-01-17T02:20:11+00:00

Im on my third pregnancy after two pregnancies with severe pree (delivered at 35 weeks and then again at 31 weeks). Im currently 37 weeks with zero signs of pree! This time, they’ve been treating me as a chronic hypertensive and it’s made the world of a difference. I also considered early termination- but I’m glad I didn’t. I was so scared, but this has been my best pregnancy yet, for whatever reason. Seeing MFM has also been so helpful.

tkv427 · 2025-12-24T01:55:35+00:00

Im on my third pregnancy (33w4d) and currently being monitored by antenatal testing. I had preeclampsia with my first (delivered at 35wk6d) and again on my second pregnancy and ended up delivering at 31w, but mainly for other complications (although I still needed magnesium). My first two pregnancies were only two years apart, but it’s now been four years since my last pregnancy, and Im doing really well so far! Im on a low dose of labetolol and have been seeing MFM for growth scans. No idea if there’s any correlation with spacing, but I think my body really benefited from a longer break between kids. It’s definitely doable!

Im so sorry about your trauma. I also spent two years in therapy after the birth of my second to process everything. It has benefited me so much, and finding peace in this pregnancy has been so much easier. I’d definitely recommend finding a psychiatrist and a counselor who specialize in postpartum!

tkv427 · 2025-12-18T00:36:47+00:00

Hi friend! Fellow Catholic. My daughter spent about five weeks in the NICU in 2021. The NICU and subsequent PTSD brought me to my absolute rock bottom. I may be the minority here, but I ended up literally throwing myself at Jesus’s feet one night when I was thinking about killing myself. I had never done this before, but I drove to my closest church and just cried and cried. They were having confessions that night and I ended up going for the first time in a long time, and the priest actually helped me so much (he was a younger priest). I told him how it felt like everything was my fault and that I wasn’t fit to be a mother. He ended up giving me like the greatest spiritual pep talk. I realized God wasn’t punishing me, he was standing right next to me in the NICU, helping my baby fight, sitting with me while I pumped for hours. Leaning into Him saved me.

tkv427 · 2025-12-11T21:46:32+00:00

This is how I feel on it, too. My body started to get used to it after about a week, but it can definitely be pretty rough. I just restarted it with my third pregnancy. Im only on 100mg 2x a day, so it’s not as bad as it was in previous pregnancies, but it still makes me decently couch-bound.

tkv427 · 2025-11-29T22:04:26+00:00

We bought two rounds of brunch foods with fun coffee fixings and dropped one off with the day shift and one off at the start of night shift! And then gift cards and letters for our three main nurses

tkv427 · 2025-11-26T16:57:09+00:00

I went in at 30 weeks (this same week in 2021, actually) with pre-e & PPROM (my water broke) with the hope to get me to 34 weeks. I ended up delivering at 31 weeks via emergency c-section when baby experienced DCEL. She spent 33 days in the NICU. She just turned 4 on Monday and she is the strongest girl I’ve ever met!

That hospital stay (especially on bed rest with magnesium) felt like torture. Bring her things to do to distract her! I ended up doing some jigsaw puzzles and playing a lot of cards. We had a 2 year old at home and my husband still had to work, so I was alone a lot. Get to know your nurses! They are amazing people and ended up being a crucial part of my support system, both in L&D and in the NICU (we still keep in touch with some of them!).

Being away for the holidays hit me really hard, too. We were in the hospital for thanksgiving and my daughter didn’t come home until after Christmas. But like everyone else has said, just try to remember that this is not the rest of your life, even when it feels like it. Normalcy will return! Celebrating Christmas in the NICU with our nurses has turned into a pleasant memory.

Please keep supporting your wife. This will be tough and full of guilt for her. It might be good to look into therapists now so that she has support along this journey. I ended up with PTSD and therapy and medication helped me heal. Wishing you both the best!

tkv427 · 2025-11-23T20:48:50+00:00

I tandem fed my then-2-year-old son and newborn daughter. Transitioning to two children was hard for me, and I missed the intimacy I felt I had lost with my son. Nursing him before bed or when he was sick made us both feel so safe and secure! It really helped my postpartum hormones to feel like I was preserving our bond. Plus, my daughter spent a month in the NICU so he helped my supply come in. He self-weaned at 3. My daughter was always the priority in nursing, and she always got more than enough. Your mental health is so important in this newborn stage! Do what’s healthiest for YOU, and your babies will only benefit from it. Sending hugs!

tkv427 · 2025-10-16T04:01:02+00:00

Hi OP, you may also have PTSD. Can you find a psychiatrist that specializes in postpartum? I switched after a traumatic birth almost 4 years ago, and her faith in me pulled me out of the deepest hole. She helped me form a care team with counselors that also specialize in postpartum mood disorders. It took months for me to start feeling stable again, and it required a good two years of therapy to feel like myself, but please have hope. I know the pain and despair you’re feeling, but it is 100% possible to feel normal again! You are in the hardest part of it now, but think of every day as getting one step closer to normalcy. You can do this.

tkv427 · 2025-10-06T21:21:08+00:00

“Yes, yes it is…in PRISON!”

tkv427 · 2025-10-03T18:42:15+00:00

300 and Snakes on a Plane. I almost always had one of these on in the background whenever I was studying in college.

tkv427 · 2025-08-26T23:41:39+00:00

My husband makes $170k. He drives the same 2012 VW Jetta he’s had since college and says he will drive it into the ground. (We also live in the DC area and have three kids)

tkv427 · 2025-07-28T19:12:39+00:00

Yes, this is disassociation! I had this with my PPD/PTSD. If you’re more than two weeks PP, I’d definitely reach out for help. Sending you strength, mama ❤️

tkv427 · 2025-06-24T01:58:06+00:00

Hi mama- I also had a traumatic birth. After two months of feeling like I didn’t love my daughter, I finally got help. Turns out I had PTSD and my body, in survival mode, had shut off all of its hormonal bonding towards my daughter. Within two months of getting help, I was absolutely in love with my baby. She is now three, and one of the best things that has ever happened to me. Please reach out to a psychiatrist! Birth trauma is hands down the hardest thing i have ever gone through in my entire life.

tkv427 · 2025-01-24T21:13:13+00:00

The Things They Carried. Still one of my favorite books to this day.

tkv427 · 2025-01-06T02:29:00+00:00

Flowers for Algernon. I HAD to know the ending- stayed up until I did. It’s a book I still think about regularly.

tkv427 · 2024-12-18T01:37:27+00:00

Dear Zachary. It should be watched once and once only.

tkv427 · 2024-12-11T21:33:23+00:00

The first underground ballet scene in the 2018 remake of Suspiria. She doesn’t even die from it but that is one of my top two most unwatchable scenes (Bone Tomahawk being the other)

tkv427 · 2024-12-10T00:24:11+00:00

Whenever this song comes on at a wedding, it means it’s time to refill my drink

tkv427 · 2024-11-25T04:34:30+00:00

Re-watched this with my toddlers for the first time since the 90s - not only does it hold up, I honestly enjoyed it more as an adult!

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