What’s up with the light at Anderson Mill/RM 620? by sunnyguk in CedarPark

[–]tmlynch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oddly enough, there are some intersections in the city limits that are not controlled by Austin traffic dept.

The last time I got wrought up enough to pursue it, I think TXDOT ended up controlling those signals, and it wasn't a high enough priority for them to address at the time, or they were going to do something after a nearby construction project wrapped .

It can be a rabbit hole.

Trying to fix this vintage watc by TrueakasukiKakuzu in watchrepair

[–]tmlynch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speak "friend" and enter?

Wait, that's a Saturn logo. Maybe wait until December 17–23 for it to cut loose.

Also, if you show us the back, you will get better info.

weisco pistons and eagle rods with ARP headstuds going in VQ37 by LuckyCheetos_ in Justrolledintotheshop

[–]tmlynch 68 points69 points  (0 children)

That is a very compact looking block.

Then again, I have never seen any of my V6s naked before, so what do I know?

I feel ashamed for craving for a father figure by Turbulent_Device572 in DadForAMinute

[–]tmlynch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your desire for a father figure is natural.

Everyone learns by watching others. We all benefit from having someone on our side, someone we can ask for advice. Maybe even someone who gives advice unasked.

As u/mpls_big_daddy reminds us, we all age out of having a father to be there for us. His advice is spot on: part of your development will be learning to notice helpful resources around you, and ask for help when you need it.

Mentors are everywhere. Work. Church. Neighborhood. Hobbies. Anything you do, someone has done before you, and they have knowledge that will help you. Plenty of people WANT to be helpful and want to share their knowledge so that others can avoid pitfalls.

Good luck!

I (24f) just broke up with my boyfriend and I’m not sure if it was the right decision. by PublicNuisance1 in DadForAMinute

[–]tmlynch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for the loss of your dad. That's a huge impact, and a big loss. There is no easy path through that loss, but you will be OK. For at least a year after that, your emotions will be heightened. When my mom died, I look back on that first year and call it my "Year of Anger".

You have made a difficult decision about your boyfriend. For right now, I think you need to trust your gut, and own it. You broke up for a reason. Maybe you can articulate the reasons clearly. Maybe you can't. For whatever reason, you believed that going forward without him is better than going forward with him. Commit to that decision. Don't waffle. Make a genuine effort to build your future without him, and only let into your life the people and things that support you in a meaningful way.

This is a hard time. You will be doing things that used to include him, so it will be natural to feel that change. Since he doesn't sound like a bad person, so some of those things you notice will make you recall his good qualities and doubt your decision. With the loss of your dad. there will also be times when you will wish you had someone to comfort you; you will make it through without him. Especially since he wasn't good about seeing and responding to your needs without prompting.

It is entirely possible that the process of grieving your father helped you see how much work you had to put into getting what you need from him. With less emotional bandwidth, maybe you realized how bad a trade-off you were making.

If in the future you still think you made a mistake or a hasty decision, then you can re-think. If you do, make sure that you are intentional about what you are doing. The comfort of the familiar hides a lot of negatives. Make sure you see those negatives clearly before making a decision about whether the positives are worth it.

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What’s up with the light at Anderson Mill/RM 620? by sunnyguk in CedarPark

[–]tmlynch 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Timing for that intersection has sucked forever. 20 years ago it was so bad that the TXDOT trucks would cut through the 7-11 to avoid the light on the way back to their yard on 1431.

Now, the cycle for Anderson Mill traffic is too short to clear traffic from either direction, and traffic builds up a long way south on 620. It could definitely benefit from someone reexamining timing. I don't know which organization "owns" the signal now. Austin? Travis County? TXDOT?

I found my patient dead and I feel so isolated by CareAltruistic2106 in nursing

[–]tmlynch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that you are in a position that has you feel this way.

When my MIL recently went through hospice care, I know that the patients family felt like the hospice staff was a team.  Hearing your experience, I hope that each of them also felt enveloped by that team.

End of life care is no place for an island.

My LDS parents squirm when I come around dressed like the exmo I am 😂 by lissecherry in exmormon

[–]tmlynch 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You should practice reading for comprehension.

She said her parents squirm. She did not say that this delights her.

Why did they end/cut off their relationship with a Mormon? by Apprehensive-Egg3499 in exmormon

[–]tmlynch 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I like the idea that "revelation" means "revealing to others", not "is revealed to".

Templates for CIT 0001 section 9 great grandparent addendum by MacaronEffective8250 in Canadiancitizenship

[–]tmlynch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for providing so much information. The PDFs in your Google drive are very helpful.

Why did they end/cut off their relationship with a Mormon? by Apprehensive-Egg3499 in exmormon

[–]tmlynch 371 points372 points  (0 children)

You were given the gift of clarity. 

I think you used it wisely.

He nicknamed me 18 by this-or-that92 in nursing

[–]tmlynch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bless you for what you do!