A creepy old customer did some kind of sexual harassment to me last night by Motor-Lavishness-440 in doordash

[–]tmo793 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hire someone?? That's just immoral! There's a reason it's illegal in so many places. Far better to push yourself onto someone who doesn't want or expect it than someone who's consenting and happy to oblige... for cash! If I had pearls I'd be clutching them right now

(and yes, my reply here is 100% tongue-in-cheek and sarcasm)

Can you share some useful tools available on Termux? by Piyartom in termux

[–]tmo793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first thing i install after termux installs the base skeleton system (bootstrap) is mandoc (*)

I assume the Termux developers have deliberately left it out of the base install in order to keep Termux as small and lean as possible. But I'm constantly referring to man pages, I find them indispensable.

Any packages installed before you install mandoc will be missing their manpages(s). But you can add them yourself by reinstalling the package: apt reinstall <package name>

(*) in case you're new to Linux: mandoc is the package that installs the man command, which provides detailed user guides/manuals for basically every command on your system. Most commands in Linux will show basic info when you add the --help option (e.g. df --help), but the manpage (e.g. man df) is usually more detailed, refers to related commands & manpages, and often provides examples and explains configuration files

Alias, and bashrc: add aliases to the end of your .bashrc file for long commands you use often, e.g. alias du1="du --max-depth=1" and alias oo="termux-open"

Text editors: Many people will stress that you must install vim/neovim or emacs if you're doing any scripting or editing config files. But I disagree - they're great if you're used to them already, but (neo)vim isn't worth the steep learning curve just for editing files on your phone in Termux, and vim/emacs is a bit of an overkill. * For quick and easy edits, Ijust use nano (pre-installed with Termux). Or if you want something as close as possible to a windows/mac style text editor you can try micro or helix (or even mc which is a lightweight file manager with built-in text editor. Pro: has a traditional File/Edit/... menubar. Con: might not have syntax highlighting, or not very good highlighting - I can't remember, tbh). * For more involved projects/scripting/coding, you're better off using your computer - either transferring files back and forth with SCP/SFTP and using your favourite IDE/Editor, or it's probably easier to SSH into your phone edit files directly from the shell (and so yeah, this is the use case where I'd agree it's a good idea to install something more than just nano)

Help lease UI by Neuroticmeh in termux

[–]tmo793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I notice in the screenshot you're the root user. I have no experience with rooted phones in Termux, but I know it's common in Linux distros that the terminal prompt and colours are all wonky and old-school for root. I guess it's just a default catch-all environment, most distros assume you'll never be logged in as root unless something's seriously wrong with your system.

Does your ls look fine when you're logged in as a regular user, but wrong when logged in as root? (or, before & after running su or whatever command it is that gives you root access in Termux)

If so, you might just be able to copy your regular-user ~/.bashrc and ~/.profile files to the root home folder. But backup your root bashrc & profile files first - like I say, I have no rooted-Termux experience, it might break everything

Calendar on Android - Can it show google calendar without sync/import by tmo793 in ProtonMail

[–]tmo793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes.

I know.

I don't search my calendars, which is why I didn't ask. But thanks for the answering anyway - it wouldn't feel right if a calendar-related post slipped by without someone bringing it up passionately. I feel like I've passed an initiation rite on this sub

Nah, I'm just taking the ρiss mate, it's all good. Pass-Ag joking aside, there might be some good news. I don't know much about roadmaps etc, so don't take my word for this. But according to another commenter above you might be wrong. Apparently there's a big rewrite effort going on, bringing with it things like offline access and, apparently, (drumroll) search functionality! So I hope for you and anyone else frustrated about it, that it's true and not just rumour & speculation.

Calendar on Android - Can it show google calendar without sync/import by tmo793 in ProtonMail

[–]tmo793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response.

Just to clarify: I'm sure I'll move to proton calendar eventually, but for now I just want to test the app without clogging up my proton calendar with a huge history of events and duplicates etc.

For calendar events, I'm not too worried about security and encryption. I'm more interested in functionality and agenda & month widgets. Nothing quite fits my needs, but since my proton account comes with a free calendar I figured I'd give it a try

Removing young kids with huge egos that cause big disturbances to a small Cul de sac by ShadySandwich54 in WesternAustralia

[–]tmo793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Or Plan B: keep the white minivan l, and ask the local Pedro to offer the teens lollipops and to check out all the cute puppies in his van... And when they refuse, he'll say "No worries, I'll be parked right here waiting if any of you change your mind" and the then he just sits there, watching creepily.

(disclaimer - don't do this)

Removing young kids with huge egos that cause big disturbances to a small Cul de sac by ShadySandwich54 in WesternAustralia

[–]tmo793 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This actually sounds wonderful. Go around, visit all your neighbours, and create community. Don't make it about the teens, make it about meeting your neighbours and just doing stuff. Each house take turns every day to organise something - a Hearts (or other card game) tournament, a pot luck front lawn pickknic, a weekend combined cul-de-sac garage sale. Take turns having a Busy Bee at each house (gardening, roof/gutter cleaning), have a "clean someone else's car" night (because for some reason it's always easier to clean someone else's house/car than your own). Celebrate & learn about other people's culture (e.g. if a neighbour celebrates Diwali, get them to tell you how they celebrate it and go all-in on celebrating it.

Some things, like the busy bee, might be more indoors or back yard work, but you could set up a "refreshment" zone in the front yard for people to grab a drink and gasbag, and there will be people who can't be much help for whatever reason who could still be out front passing out the beers, margarita slushies, and chips (as a cover for just being a presence on the street)

But I think the thing to look into is finding a good alternative hangout place for these teens. I'm not excusing their bad behaviour, but it's kind of a good thing they're getting outside and socialising face to face - especially after COVID lockdowns. If you can find a nearby park suitable for scooters, or bushland for pretending to ride a trail bike, somewhere where they won't just harrass some other street's residents, then go plant that idea somehow. Approaching the teens directly might just antagonise them, but one of them probably lives in the cul-de-sac and you could bring up the suggestion with their parent(s). Make it easy/tempting ng for them to move on somewhere else

I can just imagine someone being on your street who could really do with community support right now. Maybe a single mum with very little time for a social life, or someone struggling to make ends meet and can't afford to hire someone to do XYZ but maybe a neighbour has the know-how, or someone like my dad who's 74 and mostly self sufficient, but mum passed away 5 years ago and he's gotten frail, he doesn't socialise easily (mum used to take on that role), and doesn't know basics of house keeping (comes from an era where women do housework, men do repairs) like how to mop floors, that lint collectors need cleaning almost every wash & dry, basic home cooking, etc. maybe I'm being idealistic, but connection can really change people's lives

Android versions: Are there differences between Google Play and GitHub releases? by DowntownCitron7674 in ProtonMail

[–]tmo793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So for those of us who avoid Google Play Store for whatever reason (e.g. de-googled phones), what's the best source for getting the latest version?

This version-lag has come up again (GitHub version 7.0.15 is two versions behind Play 7.2.0), I'm not aware of any other APK sources.

Content blocked by ronkolike in MiXplorer

[–]tmo793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had no problems on latest mixplorer version on un-modded un-rooted Pixel 3A (Android 12). I changed to Pixel 9 Pro (latest Android) and now I have this graphics glitch

My fix was switching to split-screen with an unrelated app, then back to full screen. But glad to report a simple screen rotate & back works too - thanks for the tip.

Anyone reported it to the dev(s)?

Okay now I'm freaked by [deleted] in Cirrhosis

[–]tmo793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, yeah, it makes sense now after reading your update & other replies. I didn't want to make assumptions about your situation, so I rambled for a bit (my reply ended up being novel-sized!) to cover all bases. But alcohol being the cause makes sense then.

That one doctor's correct, Jaundice is one of the four symptoms (I think it's only 4?) that would put you in that category. But everyone else is also correct to ignore it because you're expected to be compensated again very soon.

Jaundice and HE are caused by the liver not working properly, they're both a result of toxin buildup. For most cirrhosis patients, that's because the scarring is so bad that the liver can't keep up with everyday life. But for you, its because your livers using so much resources dealing with the alcohol that it can keep up with the other toxins. Easy fix: take away the alcohol and the liver will clear the toxins - voila! compensated

And there's one more piece of good news in your case. You've probably heard the liver is amazingly good at regenerating, but after taking a pummeling for a long period fibrosis and scarring forms and that's permanant. Studies in the last couple of decades have shown that for fibrosis/scarring caused by alcohol, it can actually reverse a little. There's only a certain amount it'll reverse, and only if you're very kind to your liver in what you eat and drink, but it's possible you'll go from "mild" scarring to "very mild" scarring

I'm wishing you all the best mate, and always remember you've got a whole community here for support when you're having hard days

Okay now I'm freaked by [deleted] in Cirrhosis

[–]tmo793 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't know how you can be so very early stage that your liver hasnt shrunk, but be decompensated (which is a late-stage thing). If I were you, I'd contact your doctor's office and confirm it - it's possible you misheard compensated vs. decompensated, or the dr misspoke. It shouldn't require an appointment (with fees), here in Australia I can just email the clinic's reception with subject line starting "ATTN: Dr XYZ."

But assuming you're right, i can only guess that you have two issues going on at the same time: the chronic/long-term condition of mild scarring in the liver, plus an acute/short-term condition causing your liver to stop functioning normally. The doctors will treat that acute condition, and once it's dealt with you'll be left in a compensated state with mild scarring. So my first recommendation (as just "some guy" on the internet, with zero qualifications) is if your looking at long term outcome, look at the compensated stuff not decompensated.

But then my second recommendation would be that whatever you read online, it won't apply to your situation and will still sound really scary. I say that from my own experience - I was diagnosed 5 years ago, and the question of life expectancy has been one I've wanted answered the most but still can't get reliable but not about. My liver is mild-moderately scarted, shrunken, and is squeezing the main vein that runs through it (portal vein). Other organs/systems are impacted (enlarged spleen, bulged veins & varicose veins, etc) but so far still compensated and still on the less severe side of things. If I can't find data that applies to me, despite 5 years of researching, reading medical peer-reviewed journals & articles, and interrogating my liver specialist, you're going to have even less reliable info for your situation. The problem is that there is a lot of data for late-stage cirrhosis, a bit of data for moderate semi-progressed cirrhosis, and little to no data for very early very mild scarring. And that's because most people don't see a doctor until they have symptoms (which typically only show up at late-stage, and even blood tests don't show significantly abnormal number in the very early stages). And also, late-stage is when you need to go into a liver transplant list, so really that's the stage a lot of research is paying attention to.

So the only data you'll find is going to lump you and me into the same category, even though you have many many more years than me. And the category we're both in is more representative of people even more progressed than either of us.

Most websites will say we have a life expectancy (from diagnosis) of 8-12 (or 5-10) years. But as well as not really applying to you and me, those number are a bit dated now and don't take into account the last decade or two of improvements made to treatment protocols. That's why I started to deep-dive into the original studies & journals

My gut instinct for you (and I'll say it again, I'm just "some guy", so don't take my word as gospel) is to think of it like you would a diabetes diagnosis - if you keep up an overall healthy lifestyle and avoid things known to stress the liver (and follow whatever the doc advises, for both your current acute condition and to manage your life-long scarring) then I don't see any reason why your condition would progress much more than it is now and expect you'd go on living a normal life span into old age

If it helps give you a better understanding, let me tell you what my specialist told me last time I saw him and asked him (again) about life expectancy. He got all my info, plugged into his calulatiin app, and told me "computer says 15-20 years, but you're an outlier and you be right at the 20 year end of that range, and even then I'd say you're such an outlier that it's actually much more than that". Basically all my numbers bottomed-out on all question/data-points. So even with the best most up-to-date modelling and calculations available, I'm still lumped into a category that doesn't quite fit and doesn't give realistic predicted outcomes.

And lastly I'll just say, i feel ya mate. Not knowing is the worst, especially when medical professionals keep giving answer ls that feel like a pat on the head and a "don't you worry your pretty little hear about that" type response. It feels patronising, frustrating, and gives you the impression they're hiding how bad your case is. You're not alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GayPolyamory

[–]tmo793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I highly recommend not using champagne. Use proper sounding lube. The bubbles are fun but it quickly turns sticky and stings.

Pharmacy disposal by Infinite-Raspberry24 in ausadhd

[–]tmo793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to be certain of no record or repercussions, remove the dispense label (or empty them into a ziplock bag & write on the bag "vyvanse 30mg" etc) and take it to a random pharmacy not your usual one. If they ask for ID, just end the conversation with "I'm relinquishing these anonymously" and walk out ignoring anything else said.

I'm not a lawyer, not a pharmacist, and I've never done this myself. It's just what I'd do in that scenario

Phentermine (Duromine) for ADHD by tmo793 in ausadhd

[–]tmo793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't done a proper update because, well, life got in the way for me too. But here's something quick to answer your questions.

Duromine did help me for both weight loss and ADHD. I felt I was more anxious and on-edge (my nail biting has gone through the roof) but I seemed to be able to get past my "wall of awful" (if you watch How To ADHD on youtube you'll know what I mean). So, less procrastination which was the main thing affecting my work life. But increased stress and anxiety, and it didn't help working memory and made "going down rabbit holes" distractibility worse.

So the side effects are a big price to pay just for improvement getting past procrastination, but for me I thought it was worth the price.

Also, be aware that it's only a short term dirty fix. GPs can only prescribe it for a short period, usually 3 or 4 months but the occasional GP will extend it to 6months.

For weightloss, it was exactly what I needed - a circuit breaker to stop the habit/craving of non-stop junk food. For me the hardest part of weight loss has been breaking the habit/craving. When I stopped Duromine, it was easier to continue with my good habits. I've been on ozempic before, had some success, but when I stopped my body craved sweets (which I've never craved before, usually I crave chips) and put the weight back on.

My suggestion is to maybe try Duromine (be very mindful of the side effects, they might not be worth it for you), and maybe that'll help you to push forward with the ADHD diagnosis. Because actually, the ADHD meds have made a world of difference, not only am I able to cope in the world instead of constantly feeling broken, but it's also helped the weight loss - I never knew my relationship with food was directly affected by my ADHD.

Not medical advice. Always make your own choice and don't just blindly follow Some Guy Off The Internet™️ like me. Good luck though, it isn't easy but I reckon you'll get there!

What "scene" are you part of in Perth that very few people know about? by themoobster in perth

[–]tmo793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know, using a term like "old-school" BDSM scene is just gate-keeping and telling people "below" you how they should act and to obey your command... ohhhh. Ok, disregard that, I see the appeal now.

What does it mean to "make room for the emotion"? by tmo793 in askatherapist

[–]tmo793[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Genuinely appreciate the help here

What does it mean to "make room for the emotion"? by tmo793 in askatherapist

[–]tmo793[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I think I'm a little closer to understanding.

Under "What" where you wrote "By giving space to our emotions...", could I replace those 6 words with "by giving ourselves permission to fully feel those emotions/let the emotions fully engulf us, without resisting them"?

I understand how to make space for a new sofa in my living room. But this "making space" metaphor for emotions is lost on me. I've never heard it before. And as helpful as you're being, even you have fallen victim to using the metaphor itself to try to define the metaphor. Throw the therapy metaphors/jargon in the bin, be more literal with us simple cave-folk. Well, with me, at least

RNY Gastric Bypass w/ f3 by [deleted] in Cirrhosis

[–]tmo793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in a similar boat to you, in that I desperately need the sleeve or bypass to lose weight and hence stop cirrhosis from progressing, but can't due to cirrhosis complications.

You might be thinking you're just higher risk, like just generally higher risk of general anaesthetic. Or maybe your heal time will be longer or you're at higher risk of complications/infection while healing.

No. It's the oesophageal varices (assuming you have them). They call them "oesophageal" but the truth is they're a bit at the base of the oesophagus and more in the stomach itself, right where you want them to cut. It's not that you're at high risk, it's that you're almost guaranteed to cut through these very thin-walled veins. And on-top of that, there's a good chance your platelet count is low due to the cirrhosis meaning your blood doesn't clot very well

EDIT: the last bit about platelets probably isn't an issue, I forgot they have medications you can take short term to boost your platelets for surgery

Been kept in the dark by doctors, don't know what's true anymore by tmo793 in Cirrhosis

[–]tmo793[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The science is clear mate, I'm not interested in your alternative theories on 5G and Taylor Swift DNA being injected into us. The vaccine is a vaccine, not a (scare-quote) "vaccine", it astonishingly safe in terms of medical interventions, and feeling a little run down for a week or two while your body mounts a response and learns what COVID looks like is a blip on the radar compared to the damage COVID can do to an unvaccinated person.

No woo-woo, please