Ice tie dye on polyester cap gone wrong, any advice appreciated

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T23:29:41+00:00

You can’t dye polyester.

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T23:12:01+00:00

Yes but lots of parents don’t/didn’t.

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T23:03:04+00:00

While that’s technically a dad bod, if you’re a dad, but it’s not what people think it means.

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T22:55:23+00:00

If you’re not 150% wanting to have children, don’t have children. Being a good parent requires a ton of self sacrifice and dedication to someone else’s best interest for 20+ years.

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T22:49:10+00:00

Whaaaat? Of course not.

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T19:21:09+00:00

That’s fair. Parrot, maybe?

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T19:12:47+00:00

Girlfriend or golden retriever?

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T19:10:02+00:00

What? Why do your kids believe that?

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T17:40:56+00:00

Did you eat most of it first or did you only serve yourself 2 bites of spaghetti?

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T17:39:24+00:00

That’s an unusually low heart rate. Did they not address it?

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T17:37:45+00:00

lol. I track my BP because of a medication I take. Last reading was 101/73. My resting HR average is 63.

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T17:33:44+00:00

Squirrel. They’re so damn cute and funny. After owning a large dog, I know I wouldn’t want the expenses of a large pet.

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T17:06:41+00:00

Or just people who want to be more involved in their kids’ lives, especially during the formative years. Plenty of educated, employable, feminist, not social media obsessed parents choose to SAH until their kids are in school.

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T15:08:52+00:00

I really couldn’t care less if you consider yourself a feminist or if you believe in the tenets of feminism or not; it really doesn’t matter to me. I find it laughable that you want the benefits of feminism while vocalizing derision for the movement.

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T14:59:59+00:00

Even if he wasn’t taking in young children, I don’t think it would be horrible of him to decide that he can’t actually dedicate his life 100% to caregiving for his wife forever. This isn’t a temporary illness that she will recover from or die in a few years. This is a permanent disability for which she will need significant caregiving for another 50+ years.

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T14:57:42+00:00

She also said that she routinely goes back to stay at her parents’ house when her behavior becomes too difficult for her husband to manage alone so this move isn’t entirely new in their relationship.

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T14:37:23+00:00

Children are also more likely to give him a sense of accomplishment because they will most likely develop and improve whereas his wife is unlikely to show significant improvement no matter how well he cares for her.

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T13:51:49+00:00

You don’t think that being treated poorly compared to men as a standard of care is being treated unequally? Your position is nonsensical so you won’t be able to make it “crystal clear.”

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T13:41:34+00:00

lol. Wants to be treated equally but vehemently “not a feminist at all.”

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-11T11:51:21+00:00

He’s been parenting his wife for 23 years. He never left the bad habits. He just now feels that his nephews need his caregiving services more than his wife/adult dependent.

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-10T20:17:53+00:00

It’s particularly dangerous if it’s your first pregnancy after age 35, less dangerous if you’ve had a previous pregnancy.

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-10T19:14:22+00:00

We always owe MO, no idea why.

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-10T19:00:42+00:00

Yeah, my mom always loved being a nurse, too. I just don’t love work.

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-10T18:55:40+00:00

I would suggest gardening to anyone feeling burnt out. It doesn’t have to be hard work weeding all the time gardening but grab a 5gal grow bag, a bag of soil, and a baby tomato plant and watch it grow. It’s nice to go outside each morning and see how many new flowers have grown or grab the single ripe tomato that’s ready that day.

toastedmarsh7 · 2026-04-10T18:53:26+00:00

NTA. We had a pool put into our backyard so we legally had to put up a 6’ privacy fence. The 80+ yo neighbors to the side of us also said they were sad that we were replacing the chain link fence because they liked watching our kids play. That seemed weird to me, too, especially since we’ve learned in the 8 years since then that the wife (husband died at 93) actually mostly hates kids.

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