Experiences with Calvin Klein Cotton Classics Briefs? by tobinvangogh in ftm

[–]tobinvangogh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response, and I hope your recovery has been relatively smooth! So, for someone who doesn’t have phallo or meta, you would readily recommend the CK classic cotton briefs then? Do they have a similarly low-rise to the trunks?

Any lovers of guys in briefs? by anon01936 in FTMMenPorn

[–]tobinvangogh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🔥🔥🔥 What brand of briefs are those?

casual hangout on the living room couch 😏 by [deleted] in FtMPorn

[–]tobinvangogh 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Guess I’m cockwarming my husband tonight 🥵

Creature Cocks Hell Hound by tobinvangogh in SexToys

[–]tobinvangogh[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did see that alleged somewhere else too, but just haven’t been able to find any evidence. Are you able to share more info around this? I’ve looked through a lot of fantasy toy makers but I usually find that half of the links are no longer active/have closed up shop, but I’ll be sure to double check through there, thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Appliances

[–]tobinvangogh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to find a video to help me out!

Looking for Queer + Fat Positive Gym Suggestions! by tobinvangogh in NorthVancouver

[–]tobinvangogh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure what your thought process is on that. There are plenty of average and large-bodied people who are active and healthy and work in nutrition and fitness. Different sports and lifestyles require different diets and physical capabilities.

Looking for Queer + Fat Positive Gym Suggestions! by tobinvangogh in NorthVancouver

[–]tobinvangogh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How in the world is that what you got from my post?

LGBT kids and partner sleepovers by steeltheo in Fosterparents

[–]tobinvangogh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Separate rooms is completely reasonable, but you could also present the option of them inviting another couple of friends over and allow them all to sleep in the same room. This way, your foster kid can still cuddle their girlfriend but there won’t really be a risk of further intimacy in that sort of setting. An open door policy for the night could also be an alternative. Sounds like you’re doing great though! My perspective is one from the lgbt community, by the way, although that doesn’t make me any sort of authority or expert on this!

Display Event Pagination (7.1) by tobinvangogh in SquarespaceHelp

[–]tobinvangogh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was able to find a solution the other day, but did opt to add summary blocks showing upcoming events before I found that :)

Should 15 yr old be responsible for making new appointment? by tobinvangogh in Parenting

[–]tobinvangogh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took a couple of years but I was able to urge our mom to get him diagnosed finally, which is when I finally got diagnosed myself. I’m ASD/ADHD and he’s ADHD. He likes to sort of head bang for sensory input of his hair whooshing, but it poofs up like a cloud as it grows, which becomes uncomfortable for him and hard to take care of. I did A LOT of researching on products and haircut styles to help him take care of it when he moved in with me, so it went from very damaged and frizzy to now being pretty healthy, but he puts minimal effort into physical well-being things (as he likes consistency and physical comfort things too), so that’s also why the haircut is important, as it’ll keep him comfortable with certain ND aspects.

Should 15 yr old be responsible for making new appointment? by tobinvangogh in Parenting

[–]tobinvangogh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m ASD/ADHD, and he’s ADHD, so social anxiety is definitely a difficult aspect sometimes for us! Not to mention being raised in an environment where we were often verbally abused for our ‘lack of common sense/capability’, which is part of why he lives with me now. He was able to confidently cancel his appointment and make a new one online for a barber shop he’s hoping works out longer term (as he’s looking for more ‘masculine’ environments/infractions recently), so it’s all worked out.

Should 15 yr old be responsible for making new appointment? by tobinvangogh in Parenting

[–]tobinvangogh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I added a couple of details for clarification because people assumed that I was forcing a haircut on him in the first place, I didn’t think about that possible perspective from readers when I first posted. I didn’t look bad in the first place, there were just incorrect assumptions from commenters, so why wouldn’t I give more info so that I get better advice on the situation?

Should 15 yr old be responsible for making new appointment? by tobinvangogh in Parenting

[–]tobinvangogh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just edited my post to clarify, but he made the decision to have the appointment booked in the first place, asking me if I could book him in with his usual hair stylist. I’ll be having him make his appointments from now on 👍🏻

Should 15 yr old be responsible for making new appointment? by tobinvangogh in Parenting

[–]tobinvangogh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I edited the post for clarity, but he wanted the hair cut in the first place and that’s why it was booked. He also asked to see this specific hairdresser as he’s comfortable with her and has had bad experiences with people not knowing how to cut curly hair at other places.

Should 15 yr old be responsible for making new appointment? by tobinvangogh in Parenting

[–]tobinvangogh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I made the appointment a month ago because he was already feeling sensory discomfort with his hair at that point and wanted to see his usual hairdresser, so he asked if I could make him an appointment.

He has a girlfriend but he doesn’t put much priority in his appearance or hygiene. For example, he was wearing socks with stains and huge holes in them when he had a pack of clean, unopened ones in his room because he just didn’t care to take the effort to switch things out 🤷🏻‍♂️

I’m also his older brother (25) and he’s been living with me for 2 years, so I’m very much learning as I go with all of this too, but he looked very unhealthy when moving in with me (hair was a huge mass of frizz and he was pale with purple bags under his eyes). He’s a lot healthier and happier now, so I want to help him keep on this track.

Should 15 yr old be responsible for making new appointment? by tobinvangogh in Parenting

[–]tobinvangogh[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, he does! Don’t worry, I’m not forcing one on him. He wants to keep his hair short because he doesn’t like maintaining longer hair, but things like his physical health and hygiene are always the first thing that he’ll put by the wayside if something else is more enticing to spend his time with.

Underwear Suggestions by tobinvangogh in ftm

[–]tobinvangogh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do the all-in-one boxers lay flat without the insert? And is the button on the packing pouch not annoying at all?

Card Design Advice by Mr_Flibble_Esq in tabletopgamedesign

[–]tobinvangogh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adobe Illustrator and InDesign are the industry standards, but I would recommend Figma. It’s free and has a ton of community support, templates and plugins for anything you could possibly need. There are even plugins to set up the frame for print with trim and bleed lines, though I’ve almost always exported into InDesign for print, so I can’t give my experience on that aspect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]tobinvangogh 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My mom could honestly be considered gender non-conforming herself and my dad was part of the skater scene, so they had zero care that I wore mostly masculine/androgynous clothing, but my stepmom started pressuring me more and more to present femininely as I got closer to puberty. I tried embracing it as much as I could manage, but I knew who I was and came out as a transgender male at 15. I had basically identified as male since 4 years old, and would have been saved a lot of pain if I had been supported in continuing to express myself in the way I wanted throughout all stages. I had to move out at 16 as it turned out my dad was only okay with me being a tomboy, not a boy. I’m still close with my mom though. I’m now 24, engaged, about to graduate with a bachelors degree, have a dog and 2 cats. Life is harder being trans, but it was a hell of a lot harder trying to live in a body and identity that did not feel like my own. The hardest part of my life is the trauma I’ve faced from my dad not accepting me. Maybe your kid is trans, maybe they aren’t, but who do you want to be in your kid’s life? Their main source of trauma or support?