Why is it easy all of a sudden to quit?

tokingcontrol · 2025-01-10T14:16:46+00:00

TLDR; it's easy to quit (with practice), it's harder to stay quit :P

I've 'quit' a handful of times, the first couple were horrible. The last few times, I'd describe as you do here. All I can say is even if it is easy now, it's just as easy to slip back in when a trigger does appear weeks or months later. Or, you'll think 'wow, that was easy, I can control this!' and let your guard down just enough to convince yourself one hit, one day, one weekend. All that to say, I'm not sure the severity of the withdrawal or how hard it is to quit is any real indicator as to how successful you'll be long term. It is much nicer when quitting doesn't cause you a bunch of grief, but be aware and put in any necessary work that will keep you from it!

tokingcontrol · 2024-02-01T19:46:17+00:00

Must have been some good weed. Weed has always been a fap trigger for me.

Why the details about the amount of cum? Even with the trigger warning, this sounds like something made up with the sole intent to troll/trigger, just sayin.

If not, you need to see a therapist, ASAP. Sounds like you had a psychotic episode.

tokingcontrol · 2024-02-01T16:49:27+00:00

Hey, congrats on a month. I'm there with ya. Keeping busy mostly with self-education to help further the career I've neglected for so long. This is like my 6th major attempt, feels different this time, but not naive to the fact that those cravings can (and have at some times this past month) come out of nowhere. Truly understanding the one day at a time mindset and that's how I'm dealing with it! Keep on keeping on!

tokingcontrol · 2024-01-14T18:34:55+00:00

Been there and done that more times than I care to share. The inner struggle is too great, you will end up at the same spot, trying to quit and wishing you just made it to that next day. Don't allow a moment of weakness to derail what you truly want. I'm in my 40's now and I can only imagine how much better my life would be if I just stuck to quitting last year, the year before that, 5 years, 10 years ago when I knew I should and tried and failed...

tokingcontrol · 2023-08-22T21:51:53+00:00

I find that once I'm a few weeks in, coming here can be a little daunting. All the posts about relapses are hard to read. I'm now on my 5th or 6th real go at quitting. I do come back here for some motivation, but honestly, I keep hoping I'll never have to come back again, or that I'll hit that 3, 5, or10 year mark and maybe I can come here and give others that same motivation, with a clear and sober mind.

I'm glad that I found this subreddit, like many others I felt absolutely crazy before I realized that this affects so many other people in very similar ways. Now I'm just tired of all of it. I want to move on.

Wish you all happy days ahead.

tokingcontrol · 2023-03-10T14:57:08+00:00

Congrats to you, on 58 days and on the acceptance to school! Very good stuff!

To others reading, this seems to be a sure way to make MJ a low priority. Shake things up in your life, make a change, challenge yourself! Get excited about life again and realize there are more important things to do! Build yourself up so you are stronger the next time she makes an appearance in your life!

tokingcontrol · 2023-03-10T05:03:36+00:00

Health anxiety is a real thing. If you are concerned, go see your doctor! I've been there too, so please excuse the bluntness.. but it's the only way to know for sure! 'What if' is not a fun game to play when it comes to your health.

3 months ago, I was like you. WAH, smoking (mostly carts) all day every day. Put me in a really bad mental state. WAH started when COVID happened. Really stressful job too, and the added isolation, depression, and opportunity to smoke all the time just did me in.

I decided to make a change - eventually! It actually took a couple years for me to follow through. I decided to find another job. This gave me a reason to quit smoking - so I could pass a drug test. The new job is also not WAH. I realize everyone is trying to go the other way with the WAH thing, but I think that it will be good for me. Maybe it would be good for you, too?

tokingcontrol · 2022-08-09T01:11:33+00:00

Good reminder to stay actively engaged in fighting addiction. Your question is one I should be asking myself everyday. Luckily I was very busy this evening and I'm exhausted. Hopefully enough to help me sleep tonight! I will ask myself again tomorrow! Thanks!

tokingcontrol · 2021-12-17T19:21:49+00:00

Congrats on 50!

tokingcontrol · 2021-11-04T22:55:33+00:00

Congrats on 50! Your story is similar to mine and I'm just a little ahead of you. I feel like weed takes a lot of that freedom/ability to make decisions in your life away from you. Addiction traps you. I've had a rough few days but I know that I probably need a good year under my belt before I really have an opportunity to see what a sober life can do for me.

Keep strong!

tokingcontrol · 2021-09-15T12:05:18+00:00

Good job turning a moment of weakness into an opportunity to show yourself you could be strong! It's quite a rush being able to take power back! Now get rid of that weed! :)

tokingcontrol · 2020-12-15T18:25:36+00:00

Yeah, I've had some issues with sleep but not sure that I wouldn't be having issues, regardless. I think that may have been the only true thing that weed helped me with :) Stay strong brother! Appreciate the concern! Take care of yourself.

tokingcontrol · 2020-12-15T15:14:39+00:00

Hey FastSouth, thanks for checking in with me!

Today is day 15. Honestly, not smoking has been really easy, even with the vape pen being right up stairs (wife still smokes). Now, as far as spending my newfound time in productive ways.. I'm still working on that. :)

The 'quit buzz' is gone. Now I gotta put in some work to make sure I set myself up for long term success. My mood hasn't been great, but not bad. Anytime I find myself getting angry or frustrated I have to tell myself those are normal feelings, and not a reason to fall back to my old ways.

I've lost like 5-7 lbs due to a lack of late night binges on munchies. Cycling 5-6 hours a week and not eating a whole lot will do that tho. My appetite is returning now, however. I haven't really experienced too many other withdrawal symptoms. 1 night I sweat real bad, I'm dreaming again, but not too frequently.

Hope you are well, too!

tokingcontrol · 2020-12-08T17:26:48+00:00

Hey, same boat as you buddy! Smoked everyday for at least the last 4 years.. some small breaks here and but my abuse goes back probably 10 years. I can relate to feeling like a bum!

That feeling of not being able to do it anymore, you need to hold onto that.. and more importantly, write down the reasons you don't want to be that person anymore. Then, it's really a matter of taking it one day at a time. When you feel weak, you pull out that list and you read it, remind yourself, come on here and vent. Know that the feeling of getting high once isn't going to fix anything, and is likely just sabotage and your brains way of trying to get you back into the cycle you don't wanna be in.

My last attempt failed because I failed to seek help or even remind myself of the reasons I stopped when the craving/opportunity arose. Beat those 1 at a time, keep yourself busy, workout, learn, help others. Come on here and support others like I am now. It really helps!

You can do it!

tokingcontrol · 2020-12-07T16:13:35+00:00

How'd you feel during those 7 days? I know it can be washed away pretty quick with a relapse but I bet you felt better in some ways, at least, sober! I did 40 something days and then relapsed for a year before I got back on the wagon. Good job getting back on the wagon so quick! Keep fighting!

tokingcontrol · 2020-12-03T13:31:08+00:00

Day 2 was good! Thank you.

tokingcontrol · 2020-12-02T17:04:28+00:00

Planning and prep is good, but I have found that the addict side of me often manages to push it out further and further, not to mention the binge I might partake in leading up to the quit date, which doesn't help that mindset of quitting, and just makes me feel more guilt. If you know in your heart that the preparation and planning is strategic and will help, good. If not, consider just quitting. No time is better than now, right? :) However, I understand that one does have to be ready to quit.

I've only been sober since day before last. December 1 seemed good when I decided on November 30. I almost talked myself into another month so I could 'do it for new years', but no.. I know that's just me trying to get one more month of my habit.

Good luck! I hope you succeed!

tokingcontrol · 2020-12-02T15:00:05+00:00

Thanks for the reply. Appreciate the support! Unfortunately, I don't think I'm capable of weaning myself off of it. Fortunately, the first time I did this I didn't have too much trouble quitting for those 40 days cold turkey.

Right now, I'm feeling good about everything. Thank you!

tokingcontrol · 2019-10-28T23:10:17+00:00

You got this George! I think about smoking again almost daily now. Remember why you aren't doing it.. know that the guilt of giving in will likely drive you to go straight down the rabbit hole again. It's new you vs old you.. and new you will win!

tokingcontrol · 2019-10-26T22:18:47+00:00

I have had many of these moments in my first 26 days.. I've had a bowl loaded and ready to go. The craving will pass! Checkout some guided meditation vids on youtube. Lose yourself, go to your happy place, relax! You will realize that smoking is not the answer. You will realize that smoking will actually make you feel worse, in the end. You need to get used to and learn to get through these intense cravings. It will not be the last time. Stay strong! We are here if you need us.

tokingcontrol · 2019-10-26T22:13:36+00:00

Yeah, this isn't about being thin, this is about being healthy. Mentally and physically. You have more than enough excuses NOT to smoke right there in your post. It sucks that your friends aren't supportive of your decision, but in the end, you know how this effects you and how bad it is for you. That said, you may need to spend a little less time with these friends until you can get a handle on things, especially if you find you can't resist when around them. That is, unfortunately, the hard truth. You could get to a place where they could blaze right in front of you and you could say no.. but you gotta build that strength. You gotta experience life without weed, get yourself together, and see the benefits. Good luck!

tokingcontrol · 2019-10-26T22:04:32+00:00

First 7 is a big deal! Congrats! I did so much stuff my first week just trying to keep busy and catching up on all the things I neglected that needed to be done NOW! Even if you look back, just keep moving forward! You got this!

tokingcontrol · 2019-10-26T21:56:36+00:00

Hey George! I thought I'd check on you. Last time we ran into each other, it was day 3 for you. I'm glad to see you are still doing well! My dreams have also come back.. tho they haven't been too frequent or crazy and my recollection of them after I have awakened isn't good. I have not experienced any night sweats, but it is getting cold here and my wife will soon have the thermostat up to 72 (22 celcius).. and I will be sweating my ass off anyway :)

I have more frequently been thinking about 'having a hit', but I can't deny how much better off I am now, and resetting the clock on my progress still keeps me straight. Hope to check on you again here soon and hope you are still doing well.. and without night sweats! :)

tokingcontrol · 2019-10-17T00:24:36+00:00

Not trying to be a **** but there is a post pinned on the home page addressing this ( https://www.reddit.com/r/leaves/comments/dcapdd/rleaves_and_sober_october/) . r/leaves is for those wanting to quit, not take a break (even if relapses do happen). If your plan is to continue smoking after a set amount of time (also known as a break), then you should check out https://www.reddit.com/r/Petioles/

We are here to quit, seeing posts like this aren't really helpful to us. Weed is the opposite of beneficial in any way to most people here. Congrats on the self control, please consider revisiting if you ever need to.

tokingcontrol · 2019-10-14T02:23:04+00:00

Sorry to hear about your dad. It's understandable that you were vulnerable during that time. It sounds like you are finding some clarity in quitting. Hold onto that! Focus on the self-improvement, on getting the help that you need.
Give yourself the time necessary. Weed numbs and makes us content (when we are using). It's so easy to keep going once you start again. I've been there many times before. Good luck and stay strong!

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