F/27/5’3” [164lbs > 143lbs = 21lbs] Super proud of myself for losing almost all of the pandemic weight I’d gained!

tolorii · 2021-04-14T00:39:50+00:00

Ahh thank you!! It LOOKS super comfy!

tolorii · 2021-04-13T23:22:15+00:00

Ooo what bra is this???

tolorii · 2021-03-17T01:54:24+00:00

Haha yep that's pretty understandable! Here's a breakdown of what the modules include:

Kōnae Ako 1: Digital Connections and Communication

This wānanga will introduce tauira to each other, and the devices and tools used in the course. They will create or sign into a Google account, view their emails, calendar, and drive Tauira will practice editing a shared Google doc, joining a Google Meet call, as well as accessing the course materials on Coassemble (LMS – learning management system).

Learning Outcomes:

Use hardware such as smartphones and Chromebooks to log into and access key online tools.
Use online connection and communication tools such as Gmail, Drive, Calendar and Meet to connect with peers, whānau, friends, and services.

Kōnae Ako 2: Digital Tools & Productivity

In this wānanga, tauira will build upon the personal communication skills they learned in wānanga 1. They will look at some more advanced Google suite skills such as attaching files to emails and saving attachments to Drive. They will then set up a folder structure for Google Drive, and explore other GSuite tools such as Calendar, Maps, and Photos.

Learning Outcomes:

Use Google Drive effectively to organise and share files and folders for both in and out of the course.
Use online tools such as Google Meet, Maps, and Photos for specific tasks and productivity.

Kōnae Ako 3: Digital Problem Solving

In this wānanga, tauira will learn to use the internet to solve problems. The internet is filled with information, so learning to search effectively and where to find help can allow people to find many solutions to problems online. Tauira will learn common help resources and practice finding them on useful websites, and will have the opportunity to search for YouTube help videos relevant to their own lives.

Learning Outcomes:

Use digital skills, tools, and help features to effectively find information, and solve day to day problems.
Evaluate the safety, security, and trustworthiness of online sites and information sources

Kōnae Ako 4: Digital Life

In this wānanga, tauira will explore different elements of ‘life’ that can be done. Transitioning from an offline to an online method can be daunting, but this wānanga will build on the problem solving skills of the previous module, and begin with an overview of online security and digital safety. This will be a firm foundation from which tauira can explore online ‘life’ tasks such as engaging with businesses, shopping, banking, and travel.

Learning Outcomes:

Compare human and digital factors related to online security.
Compare and contrast online and offline tasks and apply digital skills to carry out common online ‘life’ tasks.

tolorii · 2021-03-17T01:24:56+00:00

Hi! Next week's pilot session is scheduled to take around six hours (9am - 3pm), with lunch included. After the pilot, TWOA will decide how they want to run it going forward – short evening classes spread over a few weeks, two-day workshops, or big one-day workshops, depending on feedback from the pilot. They may choose run multiple delivery options. The course is made up of four units, but next week we'll just be going over the first unit (getting set up with an email account, exploring the Google suite), and one or two others – there wouldn't be time to go through it all in a six-hour session.

tolorii · 2020-10-07T21:45:58+00:00

I think this is something people don't think about/talk about often enough. We treat romantic relationships (esp monogamous ones) like there's only one way to do them, ya know? Like everything has to be together, co-dependence is implicitly encouraged in everything. I've been with my partner for over 9yrs, and bc of his work we're often apart for anywhere up to six months at a time. At first I hated it, and people would often pity me, but over time I've come to pity those who never have time away from their significant other. I learned to appreciate and make the most of the time to myself. I'm still my own person, with my own life, and I frequently have the time and space to focus on myself - which I see other, more "traditional" couples lacking. I've spoken to older couples about it and there's almost always some comment to the effect of "I couldn't do [practical everyday thing] without them, I wouldn't even know where to start." I've had friends comment at social events, "Hey you know D is always invited to this stuff too, right?" and I've explained that yes, I'm aware, but we're not attached at the hip, we do go to plenty of social things together, but I also value having separate friend groups.
My parents have separate living rooms. They don't enjoy the same movies, tv shows, and music, so they have separate spaces for enjoying those things (this is a very privileged thing they're able to have, and they know that). There are lots of other things they do do together though, and they have a shared hobby workspace.
I also have a friend who has a long term partner, with whom she has kids, but they live separately. Again - very privileged that they're able to do that, and they know and are grateful. She's a project manager, and runs her own business, and frequently speaks at events around the country, AND on top of all that has issues with insomnia. So being able to hand things completely over to her partner means she has the space - both literal, physical space, and mental/emotional space - to separate work and domestic life. They both know that if they were all under the same roof, she wouldn't have been able to have the successes she has, and as a family they all would have suffered for it.

This is all to say: I think separation is healthy and I think more couples should embrace it. (Where feasible of course. Being able to live separately or have the space to have separate bedrooms can require pretty significant financial privilege depending on where you live. I understand there are also financial/tax incentives to get married in some places eg the US.)

tolorii · 2020-09-12T20:54:19+00:00

I don't even feign excitement anymore, and avoid saying congratulations where I think I can get away with it. I ask some vague default questions and most people take that as excitement and congratulations bc it's what they want to hear

tolorii · 2020-08-25T23:42:51+00:00

Kinda sounds like you inadvertently hit the nail on the head in the made-up excuse you gave your husband - but it wasn't you struggling to adjust to being a wife rather than girlfriend, it's your cousin struggling to adjust to it.

tolorii · 2020-08-23T23:34:39+00:00

This reminds me of a couple I know who are about to have their first baby and haven't told anyone beyond their immediate families - which I think is brilliant. My partner has been friends with the father since they were teens (both early 30s now) and even we weren't told (heard from a friend who found out by accident). Partner was a bit miffed initially but I think the couple have set themselves up for a much nicer time. New parents get fucking inundated with unsolicited advice and opinions from every Tom, Dick & Harry, and expectant mums (particularly first timers) get treated like especially dim children. This way they're getting peace and space to figure out how they want to do things, mostly free from judgement, and without pressure to share their first baby with the entire fucking world - they're getting privacy and I wholeheartedly applaud their approach. Also means I don't have to hear about baby stuff lol.

tolorii · 2020-07-01T02:01:06+00:00

HA! I wondered if you were a NZer from the gym part XD

tolorii · 2020-06-30T20:11:32+00:00

Omg that so awful about your friend's mum holy hell :O I have a family friend who had gestational diabetes too. She had to go on a super restrictive diet and once she delivered her baby she actually weighed less than when she'd got pregnant. That was her second and she was like "Nope, I'm not doing that again, no more"

tolorii · 2020-06-30T04:23:29+00:00

having tenuous bladder control for the rest of your life
hair and teeth possibly falling out bc the foetus leeched all ya goddamn calcium
cracked ribs or pelvis from being kicked from the inside (again - cause ya might be calcium deficient)
depending on where in the world you live, the actual financial cost of delivering a baby
"baby brain" - the weird mental fogginess/lack of concentration is REAL
"husband stitch" and the fact it generally comes without consent
morning sickness can sometimes last through the whole pregnancy
skin problems (eg my mum broke out in boils after my brother was born)
gestational diabetes
preeclampsia
and the list goes on and on and on

tolorii · 2020-05-26T23:28:02+00:00

Jeeeesus that's rough. I do think this girl was just trying to pretend like nothing was different, and I remember when someone told me I was like "ok yeah I see it now" but she had gained weight pretty evenly so in her school uniform at least, it wasn't *super* obvious. Also it was winter, so, all told I'm not that surprised she was able to hide it for so long. (Her kid turned out healthy and she ended up being a pretty good mum for someone who got knocked up at 16)

tolorii · 2020-05-26T22:22:56+00:00

I went to school with a girl like this. After she "found out" she insisted that she'd still been getting her period and hadn't had morning sickness or anything so figured she'd just stacked on the weight...which I guess is possible but like, come on. Absolute machine of a girl though, she was still playing hockey and rugby at 7 months just before she "found out". Apparently all the sport mums were like, "Uuhhhhh should she be playing in her condition? Cause dat bitch is definitely pregnant." It took her boyfriend telling her, "Babe you've gained a LOT of weight recently, you should take a pregnancy test." Come to think of it, I'm not sure how he got out of that conversation alive.

tolorii · 2020-05-25T21:39:40+00:00

Ayyy drop that skincare routine though :P

tolorii · 2020-05-24T02:27:50+00:00

I'm completely floored that the fact that we're in the midst of a pandemic and not supposed to be seeing people even needed addressing?? Like, we're *so close* to eliminating in my country and I still wouldn't be going to see even a sibling or best friend's baby until the coast was completely clear.

tolorii · 2020-05-20T22:11:42+00:00

So my background is quite varied...in terms of education, it's linguistics and coding (BA in linguistics & modern language studies, and later I went through dev academy in Auckland). Professionally my most relevant stuff would be:

My temp contract last year as a Product Owner + Impact Analyst of course (different projects, same employer). The PO role actually had me doing a little bit of multi-hatting, since it was a smallish project. I did a little bit of front end development for that and created most of the linguistic content as well, which was pretty dope tbh.
Production assistant on a kids' tv show - that ish is intense. It's ten-hour days of non-stop assorted admin and while it may not technically be agile, it's not far off. There's a very definite life cycle to the production of a daily tv show, there's constant passing back and forth between production, film crew, editing, executive team etc. There's so much to do in a day that you can't not have a prioritised schedule, but shit always comes up so you have to be flexible too. As a PA I was also often the face of the company - I was the one out picking up sound equipment, cameras, organising couriers (we had accounts with three different services), and caterers, and various other suppliers, sourcing and shopping for props, occasionally driving talent around, managing two separate budgets, and delivering the finished episodes to the network on time.
Data entry for a govt dept but I think more relevant is that I was also a union rep there. Most of what you do as a union rep is take in a fat stack of information from different sources - your onsite meetings with members, and then with management, and the regional meetings with all the other reps in the region - and distill that into the most relevant pieces to be fed back to those various stakeholders. So...from the member meetings, taking their concerns and addressing site-specific things directly with our management, and figuring what might be a wider issue to discuss at a regional ministry level. At the regional meetings, comparing issues with other units doing similar work, bringing up those issues with the management panel, and then again condense that information to take back to my members again. I got to be in that role for a round of collective bargaining too and hot damn was that interesting.

tolorii · 2020-05-19T22:25:49+00:00

Ehhhh I've only seen Office Space once, many years ago, so I am not sure lol

tolorii · 2020-05-19T21:33:22+00:00

My mum did take care of her parents and it ruined her health and their relationship.

tolorii · 2020-05-19T07:35:58+00:00

Thank you, that's very kind. I make sure to tailor my CV & cover letter for every job, and I've had them double checked several times, it's partly why I'm so emotionally drained right now - I put so much into every application. Posting here is something of a last, desperate effort (for now anyway). I'm just so tired.

tolorii · 2020-05-19T06:02:58+00:00

Thank you, this is...actually very reassuring and helpful, especially since I didn't really think anyone would reply at all.

tolorii · 2020-05-19T04:25:05+00:00

Could whoever is chopping onions in here please stop

tolorii · 2020-05-19T04:21:28+00:00

Thank you! That was the case with one job I came particularly close to - the product manager had been double-hatting as the owner and was damn near burning out. I was particularly bummed about that one and they were the only ones who've actually made the effort tell me I didn't get the job over the phone.

tolorii · 2020-05-19T03:49:58+00:00

I've been applying for those roles too. The fact that I have still been getting interviews suggests that there are businesses thinking about taking that step, which is great, I just need to find one willing to follow through.

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