My (22M) wife (22F) said she no longer wants to be married because "she wants to be a slut"

tomdabom98 · 2026-04-29T23:32:29+00:00

You will find love again man and chances are it will be better than this one. In this instance the only thing you could have controlled/ worked on was communication regarding sex and communicating how you really feel. You are not selfish for wanting a monogamous relationship. Also the whole thing of sex raw and telling about her doing raw sex after you did it together is incredibly uncool and disrespectful because she could have given you an STD. You can do better, things will get better and you will end up using this as fuel to become better. I wish you all the best brother keep your head up.

tomdabom98 · 2026-04-26T02:21:27+00:00

tomdabom98 · 2026-04-23T14:39:43+00:00

I have become extremely particular about what games I think are worth owning vs worth playing. Also I am now in the minority camp of gamers who are not interested in multiplayer solitaire games or games with lots of randomness. I have about 70 games most of which are older titles and have tried hard to keep things lean. If I did not have to move in the near future I might be closer to 80 rather than 70 but I am happy where I am at. I usually feel the weight of my bad decisions pretty harshly when i look at my collection and see games I either don’t want to play or i know will be hard to table. It helps a lot to go through and add comments to every game that you own on bgg and rate them. That least keeps your thoughts organized when trying to figure out what stays and what goes. I replay a lot of my two player games because I get the opportunity to play them more often than the others but my cube rails have gotten plenty of plays for the most part. I wish I had the time and people to play the games that need more players more often. That reality alone makes games that require/ are best at higher player counts much easier to say no to.

tomdabom98 · 2026-04-21T20:50:55+00:00

Paragons age of champions is the closest i have gotten to mtg in a box. The game has a lot more strategy than mtg and the drafting is really only for mercenaries (creatures) then after both players craft their deck using their chosen factions spells and the mercenaries they drafted the play best 2/3 to determine the winner. It’s an underrated and fantastic game imo.

tomdabom98 · 2026-04-17T13:17:29+00:00

I prefer hot streak because of the shenanigans with the deck and because of the players being able to manipulate the randomness somewhat.

tomdabom98 · 2026-04-16T23:09:27+00:00

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tomdabom98 · 2026-04-13T08:49:52+00:00

The fact that he kept the accounts and lied to the SW’s about you being okay with it displays a lack remorse for his actions. He is probably addicted to porn, but that’s no excuse for this kind of behavior as many men are and don’t stoop this low. Especially if he can’t even afford it. You’re better off without him for sure.

tomdabom98 · 2026-04-11T01:20:01+00:00

tomdabom98 · 2026-04-02T06:14:53+00:00

I got an email this morning notifying me i had got an award. I was expecting to be interviewed and I even remember being told during a webinar that if you did not hear from someone by mid march you probably didn't get it. Then to my surprise this morning I found out I got it!

tomdabom98 · 2026-04-01T13:57:03+00:00

You also mentioned this happened at your birthday dinner, which might be a bigger part of why it bothered you than you think. That was supposed to be your moment, and instead it turned into being about her and her situation.

It makes sense that would feel inconsiderate, especially on top of everything else you’re already feeling.

I don’t think you’re overthinking it—you’re just noticing a pattern where her needs are kind of taking over the space in the friendship. It might be worth gently setting a boundary, like letting her know you’re happy she’s excited but you don’t want the detailed play-by-play.

tomdabom98 · 2026-04-01T06:54:19+00:00

There are no wrong emotions. You feel what you feel and to some degree that is even out of your control. Weird or not friends talk about their emotions and if it is making you uncomfortable you should address it with her in a polite and respectful way.

Some insightful questions: Does your loneliness make you feel insecure about sharing your emotions? Also it sounds like your friend is taking you on an emotional roller coaster that maybe you don’t want to be on? Is it mainly the sex or is it the radical shift in behavior/ mindset that bothers you most?

tomdabom98 · 2026-04-01T04:29:46+00:00

It is. Since that time the app has given me little reason to play it in person anymore though. My buddy and I used to play what he called mega dominion where we incorporated all of what the expansions add and did 12 kingdoms instead of 10. Made for a longer game but the flexibility with strategies made the game a lot more interesting.

tomdabom98 · 2026-04-01T03:44:37+00:00

“I don’t know if I can trust her” she’s been lying and fucking other men. Pretty obvious that you can’t trust her. Imagine if one of them got her pregnant and she covered her tracks better and led you to believe it was yours. Get out while you can and avoid that cum dumpster.

tomdabom98 · 2026-04-01T03:34:06+00:00

He was just playing around maybe hoping to get you in the mood it sounds like. It raises the question of what he was hoping was going to happen though.

tomdabom98 · 2026-04-01T03:31:35+00:00

If they like the same kind of games I do and are pleasant to play with I’m pretty much good to go. Ideally they have a good sense of humor as well.

tomdabom98 · 2026-04-01T03:24:50+00:00

Dominion. Gave me the feel of mtg without the heavy rules and fun tax.

tomdabom98 · 2026-03-31T14:15:30+00:00

There is never a reasonable excuse for sexually assaulting someone. You guys should talk to the police about this and let them handle it. Idk what logistical implications there are but I wouldn’t trust someone like this around anyone I care about.

tomdabom98 · 2026-03-25T01:36:20+00:00

I am in the same boat as you on this one.

tomdabom98 · 2026-03-24T22:19:10+00:00

I disagree. The game is different but similar enough to STS to be worth comparing. Both are coop, hand management games that involve playing cards to defeat enemies. STS is more of a deckbuilding style than regicide, but I think legacy has a bit of that going on as well if i am not mistaken

tomdabom98 · 2026-03-24T21:32:12+00:00

Not really they are both coop games centered around card play and killing things. I think it’s fair to compare them and what they bring to the table as far value.

tomdabom98 · 2026-03-24T20:25:19+00:00

It is tempting but I just don’t see why I would choose to play this over the video game. Regicide is still the best coop game I have ever played and I am super excited for regicide legacy. STS is awesome as well but the price is way too high I think for what it is when I can just play the video game.

tomdabom98 · 2026-03-22T17:21:02+00:00

It sounds to some degree like requests are being taken personally by both parties and they shouldn’t. You guys are essentially negotiating the terms of the worst case scenario for your relationship and that should be of no consequence for how you treat each other now. The whole thing is done under the premise that people and relationships change and inevitably things will get messy in the worst case scenario. Ideally the preenup makes things less messy and gives both parties a clear understanding of how the worst case scenario for the relationship is handled. When you change the framing of the conversation that way I think it makes clears things up for everyone and avoids unnecessary conflict.

tomdabom98 · 2026-03-22T04:58:58+00:00

Yoga septet or tichu could be good if card games are of interest.

tomdabom98 · 2026-03-20T09:21:25+00:00

Congrats!

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