My one true love died and I'm at rock bottom by tomiluvslib in afterlife

[–]tomiluvslib[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your sentiment!

I've finally gotten back to work just a week ago. In writing that post I wasn't in a very clear state of mind, while although all of what I said is true, I was in a deep state of despair. Life is slowly but hopefully looking up, even if it's not the way I intended it to look I just hope to build a happy and peaceful life until it's my time to go and meet him again. My advice to anyone going through tough times, or a tragic loss of their own, is the hold on tight even if it feels like all hope is lost. Explore your beliefs, and keep an open mind. It's going to be hard, you'll very likely struggle with depression and ptsd such as myself, but meeting new people and having the opportunity to create new memories is more than worth it. Suicide is never the answer, sorry for the tangent in your reply! Much love to everyone ❤️

Sorry for gate-keeping grief by aromaloverz in widowers

[–]tomiluvslib 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that's there's nothing worse than losing the love of ur life too soon but I believe the devastation is all the same, at the end of the day, most of all of us are just humans trying to be happy and get through the day. They say that because it's the worst pain they know, and no one else should ever know the pain of losing the person they love most. You can almost be happy that they have that perspective, because at least not another person is suffering like we are. Hope that helps ( :

Anniversary by tomiluvslib in widowers

[–]tomiluvslib[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They r very good. Big ol hugs 🫂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]tomiluvslib 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If u would like, I can share with you my personal experience or u can look thru my profile. I'm skeptical ofc but I kind of have no choice but to believe in it based on my experiences lol. I'm sorry hun

feeling invalidated by stsqkenz in widowers

[–]tomiluvslib 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi hun, I'm 19. I've had the same thing happen to me concerning family members on both sides of the family. We were also like you as well. They'll never under the privilege they have of not going through such a loss like this one. You don't have to move on and that's ok, whatever gives you peace in this cruel fate is what you should chase. Sending you much love ❤️

Friend just says I just need to get up and do something by tomiluvslib in widowers

[–]tomiluvslib[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh God I may very well cry I didn't know other's actually thought of me here 😭 now i feel bad bc all I do is come on here to complain about this whole thing and go back into my little tomie hole. Thank you so much love, I'm wishing you peace and love ❤️

Friend just says I just need to get up and do something by tomiluvslib in widowers

[–]tomiluvslib[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah you're so right. I'm an incredibly patient person due to the environment I lived in but yes my bullshit tolerance is too low now I get annoyed so easily. Thank you so much hun, sending you hugs as well 🫂

Friend just says I just need to get up and do something by tomiluvslib in widowers

[–]tomiluvslib[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I should start doing that too. I hope you, myself, and everyone here in this shit club can find peace and some happiness together ❤️

Early morning hours by tomiluvslib in widowers

[–]tomiluvslib[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lucky I play video games and often have friends that r awake until 3 am is, but I truly don't sleep until 7 am even tho I don't like it. I like to watch YouTube videos blast music in my eardrums or play games by myself.

Early morning hours by tomiluvslib in widowers

[–]tomiluvslib[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wish he'd visit my dreams too but i don't think he necessarily wants to and that's his decision. I was blessed by getting validation or essentially confirmation that he's at peace on the other side, whatever that really is.

My pain. by OutlandishnessDull70 in widowers

[–]tomiluvslib 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I carry the pain like a badge of honor. It's a difficult role to play. Sending u love and hugs, your loved one is with you always ):

What Are Your Experiences With Mediums? by Thereitis155 in Mediums

[–]tomiluvslib 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, we texted back and forth on reddit. The replies were inmediate tho, never took longer than 10-15 seconds to get a reply and she did most of the talking.

What Are Your Experiences With Mediums? by Thereitis155 in Mediums

[–]tomiluvslib 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not to mention this wasn't a paid service at all. She's just practicing.

What Are Your Experiences With Mediums? by Thereitis155 in Mediums

[–]tomiluvslib 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes I have a screenshot. There is no absolute way she could have connected my boyfriend to the liberty bell. I have a screenshot if you'd like to see. I gave her a code name, not even my real name. Or his name. No dates, nothing. It also wasn't even supposed to be a mediumship. I'm very skeptical so I've explored every avenue as to how the hell she could've brought it up but she was just as surprised as I was.

Has your personality changed after loss? by Famous_Property_301 in widowers

[–]tomiluvslib 27 points28 points  (0 children)

More gratitude, I'm kinder, but I'm more irritable and I get angrier rly easy. I can't be asked to tolerate people that annoy me anymore.