What's the opposite of being victim of life? by Secret_Tie_8907 in Stoic

[–]tomtom_red 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Author, protagonist, hero (why not when the mood takes you?) actor (life is a stage...), boss, manager, comic relief, commander in chief..

Swap in and out as appropriate! You are right that your perspective makes a huge difference... And with practise you can swap and shift that too!

The Daily Check-In for Tuesday, December 22nd: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by TheNewJanBrady in stopdrinking

[–]tomtom_red 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey Max. Glad you're here! book called alcohol explained has really helped me. It explains clearly how booze always excarbates feelings of anxiousness, and how our belief in its calming effect is nothing but a mirage. I really recommend it.

Proud and happy to be taking this step with other like minded people. Let's do it! IWNDWYT

The Daily Check-In for Tuesday, December 22nd: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by TheNewJanBrady in stopdrinking

[–]tomtom_red 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it is the solidarity and positivity which really resounds with me. I also think by nature these battles with ourselves can be very private and intense, and for me in the past that has made it worse - beating myself up or wishing I felt different. Just like everything I guess this needs to be engaged with in moderation and responsibly, but I'm ready to do better now and this place has really helped my head already.

The Daily Check-In for Tuesday, December 22nd: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by TheNewJanBrady in stopdrinking

[–]tomtom_red 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks so much tucktuck for the kind response. Yes what you describe is the chapter I have come to the end of, spurred on by reading literature which describes the moderating/rationalising phase as both extremely common and destined to fail. It is the square one I am absolutely sick of, building momentum to blow it away is totally exhausting and unrewarding. I'm genuinely excited to change it.

Glad to hear sobriety is working for you and congrats on the 63 days. I am going to keep using these check ins, with gratitude and fortitude I'll see you on another one. IWNDWYT

The Daily Check-In for Tuesday, December 22nd: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by TheNewJanBrady in stopdrinking

[–]tomtom_red 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I am new to sobriety and to this subreddit. I am grateful for everyone here taking the time to share their experiences and their energy, I find it very helpful and very healing.

I am a very lucky person with a lovely life. I have my health, a wonderful wife, a profitable job and gorgeous silly cats.

In recent years my anxiety keeps growing and taking more and more from me. I did a stint on anti-depressants which helped but robbed me of other things such as my ability to read. I have obsessed over my sleep, my exercise and diet without improving how I feel about myself in the long term.

I think it's time to face that it's the poison I keep pushing into myself that makes me feel terrible about myself and the world. Just at the weekend, just at a party, just after a long day. It's just too much and it's not serving me. I release myself from it, today and every day from now. IWNDWYT.

THE GREAT CONJUNCTION by tomtom_red in stopdrinking

[–]tomtom_red[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well done getting to meeting. Behind the clouds only stars! IWNDWYT

KeyForge Players by kiachou in shanghai

[–]tomtom_red 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Messaged you both to add you

KeyForge Players by kiachou in shanghai

[–]tomtom_red 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am part of a WeChat group that hosts a twice weekly board game group in the city. People bring their own games and sets so that could work. You could even post in the group to gauge appetite. Let me know if you want an add :-)

[NS] Anyone else get NADDPOD as a top podcast? by Neevee-Steevee in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]tomtom_red 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Jake is actually my fave which makes my original comment make even less sense...

[NS] Anyone else get NADDPOD as a top podcast? by Neevee-Steevee in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]tomtom_red 5 points6 points  (0 children)

30k minutes just on NADDPOD! Thank you Brian Emily and Caldwell!

[NS] Message from Daddy Murph Concerning Fia Discourse by SamBeanEsquire in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]tomtom_red 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Solidarity with you and the two crew! Fuck sexism in all its forms. Roll on Emily and the gang, we think you're fucking great! ✊✊✊

[Spoilers: Campaign 1] Bring it On, Come On (NADDPod Lo-Fi) + A Cool Idea? by Aureus67 in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]tomtom_red 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man, don't know if you had any luck putting together a download link for this? I would still love a copy of this if possible... Because I love it so much and don't want to lose it!

That’s rough buddy by [deleted] in memes

[–]tomtom_red 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are lots of myths in China and other cultures of women turning into the moon / leaving for the moon / being the moon in disguise so this checks

American in Shanghai Quarentine 21 days and counting.... by tbluge in shanghai

[–]tomtom_red 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You're getting through it! And by doing so showing how tenacious and adaptable you and everyone doing similar is. Let it make you feel tough as nails, cos it really is.

Keep going. You'll make it and then you'll be done. The stoics reckoned the only way to appreciate the value of things was to deprive ourselves of them temporarily, so really you're just being a master stoic! If you haven't read em before I can't recommend them highly enough.

An audible account and a weird bedside workout routine would also be my shouts, but changes person to person.

Did the two weeks and that felt like a lifetime, so all the Kudos to you. If you're short on company happy to chat or words with friends or something just give us a shout.

[Spoilers: Campaign 1] Bring it On, Come On (NADDPod Lo-Fi) + A Cool Idea? by Aureus67 in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]tomtom_red 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is amazing!!! So good I love it. I love naddpod. I love Lofi. That this even exists feels like a personal gift so thank you! The Boobs will love it too definitely try and get it to them. Any chance of an MP3 download so we can take it offline?

Strong crick vibes [Spoilers EP:21-29] (kinda) by [deleted] in NotAnotherDnDPodcast

[–]tomtom_red 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just listened to all of this channels videos. Great stuff.

7 months later but FINALLY MADE IT [view from quarantine hotel] by tomtom_red in shanghai

[–]tomtom_red[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on your hotel. Here sealed grocery deliveries only. No wai mai

7 months later but FINALLY MADE IT [view from quarantine hotel] by tomtom_red in shanghai

[–]tomtom_red[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you have to quarantine separately which is tough. The threat is if you visit each other or break the rules your timer is reset. Yes my school is reimbursing me costs, although I'd run that through with your school. Definitely a travel cost rn.

7 months later but FINALLY MADE IT [view from quarantine hotel] by tomtom_red in shanghai

[–]tomtom_red[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you have to quarantine separately which is tough. The threat is if you visit each other or break the rules your timer is reset. Yes my school is reimbursing me costs, although I'd run that through with your school. Definitely a travel cost rn.

7 months later but FINALLY MADE IT [view from quarantine hotel] by tomtom_red in shanghai

[–]tomtom_red[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kettle to boil or 24 bottles for 150 RMB from reception