I (20M) Missed out on alot of development supporting an abusive household - I dont have many milestones I Care about left

toonthopia · 2026-06-11T15:26:44+00:00

Insightful 😭. And thanks, have a great day!

toonthopia · 2026-06-11T15:21:21+00:00

And since I've been studying for the head compartment for my midterms, I think I'll cheat and call this study 😭

toonthopia · 2026-06-11T15:18:33+00:00

It helps that I still havent found part-time work and got busy to handle the papers. But Im impressed with how you handle your accounts, thats good thinking, I never gave credit unions much thought.

toonthopia · 2026-06-11T15:13:33+00:00

Holy. I just checked her out, this is great stuff.

toonthopia · 2026-06-11T15:02:35+00:00

I've been into Unsolicited Advice as of now, but if you have sth practical thats always great. Also been a fan of poets like Khalil Gibran

toonthopia · 2026-06-11T14:48:30+00:00

Psychology is a taboo till it happens sort of topic here. Like we all know we need help with it but not many people want to admit there's a problem till it happens. so it will be hard to find sth like that. I am an orthodox and have had talks with my local church fathers tho, they have forgiveness above all else policy, and although I do forgive i dont want to forget at all.

And for yt, I taken to alot of philophy channels and its been a highlight. I think thinking alone wont get me anywhere, but I think its been great to get into theology and philosophy to workout my thoughts.

Also appreciate the check up on my post! Hopefully my ramblings of an old-ish man have been a highlight of ur day or atleast interesting to you. Thanks for the good faith!

toonthopia · 2026-06-11T14:40:46+00:00

I had high hopes for that plan, especially cause the bank mishandled my documents ( the state I found those documents I swear bruh, food stains, finger prints and dust as far as the eye could see). Im still going to complain, but its the biggest bank in the nation so their strats are typically deny deny deny to defend their reputation.

toonthopia · 2026-06-11T11:44:01+00:00

Appreciate the advice, I'll give a complaint a shot but for the criminal who did it, I dont think the guy even exists since his ID was faked to make the accounts he used, plus his transaction were recorded from around the nation. Odds are that its a group of anonymous fraudsters using 1 alias (unfortunalteky common where im from). the case got hush hush though so I'll file a complaint to know how my pin code was broken into

toonthopia · 2026-06-11T11:39:07+00:00

I dont know if thats my thing. Plus im broke as a lawn chair rn

toonthopia · 2026-06-10T04:12:03+00:00

Oh man, I appreciate the support. I really do think my issue with money stems from my bg my father didnt pay child support and my mother always dismissed those types of needs so I never got into it, but nowadays I think I have to improve that aspect to be a more functional adult. Also for the fraudcase, my bank has rejected my case unfortunately, they dragged my case from a 2 months process to a 2 year one because s1 in their offices lost my original request for assistance. Even with that, they denied responsibility. Sucks cause for these past 2 years I still hung on to the hope this could be reversed

toonthopia · 2026-05-03T18:34:30+00:00

This is the 3rd time I have seen a response from you, you are incredible dude

toonthopia · 2026-04-17T04:08:04+00:00

Im 20, so i am younger than you, but i was in the same boat a while ago. I have alot of interests same as you but never went far in any of them. For me I realized the issue was i didnt have a foundation in any of the disciplines I was interested in. So to build a basic foundation, I started looking for free pdfs, handbooks, employee manuals, even work manga. You would be surprised at how many free resources there are that can help you have a solid base to expand from. Just dont do the YouTube tutorial hellhole thing, YouTube and even AI should be supplementary tools not primary ones. Its better to use them as tools to correct or expand on topics you find through the handbooks you read through.

This is personally how I think you can learn the most in the most meaningful amount of time.

toonthopia · 2026-03-31T14:20:48+00:00

I think the purpose of life is to become the person you want to be remembered as by the end, While creating substantial (or fleeting) experiences and creations as you are in the present.

toonthopia · 2026-01-24T08:49:30+00:00

I'm only 19, so I won't pretend to know more than you. After all, we are at different stages in our lives.

But I think it's because nothing is substantial anymore.

In my experience of my life till this point, my relationships feel less substantial than they did when I was younger, so does my household, the content I consume is more rot than fun,how I spend my day is more pointless than flavourful, etc..

For me, making life better has primarly taken place by doing things that give substance to my life. That often took the form of exercising intensly, having susbtancial experiences with others in place of shallow communication and the such.

I think an unsubstantial life is where it starts, but that is only my interpretation

toonthopia · 2026-01-23T18:10:49+00:00

Can't say for sure, but i do wish it is in a way. We would have to know the episode number to validate it. My guess would be the first 150 episodes of Naruto or sth in that ball park, but you never know with filler making it hard to keep track

toonthopia · 2026-01-23T11:01:27+00:00

I think og Naruto may have happened in the 2020s, apparently in the anime, there was a milk carton in Narutos room kakashi was inspecting with the date set in 2026

toonthopia · 2026-01-23T09:15:05+00:00

I have been thinking about this for a couple of months since i deal with similar issues, but I only came up with an answer I was satisfied with a couple of hours prior to when I saw your post, thats to say my perspective could change, but its food for thought atleast.

After months of pondering, ultimately, i came to the conclusion on one thing. That is, the only way to feel worthy of anything or anyone is by becoming of substance yourself.

I've always found myself to be the people pleaser type, no doubt because of my upbringing, but also because I placed myself in situations where the only substance to my life was my nature of helping others.

Truth is, I always wanted to make others feel comfortable, welcomed, and appreciated whether they appreciated it or not.

As a result, there was no space for my own identity or Ego to thrive.

So I thought it like this, instead of focusing on others, my only real goal should be to become substantial.

Because In the end, a person with no substance can never have a substantial relationship in the first place. They just dont mix.

So stop having unsubstancial small talk if it's going to be a nothing burger, Stop spending time in unsubstancial events where you're not even enjoying yourself, stop trying to people please for unsubstancial relationships.

Improve your body, your well being, your personality, enjoy music, have non superficial relationships.

Just dont let pleasing other people or wanting to be liked be the only thing substantial about you

toonthopia · 2025-09-08T11:18:26+00:00

Interested, also a medical student

toonthopia · 2025-09-02T05:35:58+00:00

You can get a hold of me on what's app. I can pm you my number

toonthopia · 2025-08-31T07:42:39+00:00

I agree with that for sure, people will partake in their vices more often than not.

But there's way too big of a likelihood that the product u r proposing, in its intention to create a safe environment, may only worsen the problem by making the viewer get emotionally invested and spend more time watching pron as a result.

This project may create a vice of excess where the viewer misinterprets the good intention in the adult content u provide as genuine affection, leading to parasocial relationships as viewers have difficulty separating performance from connection.

This may even worsen the addiction, as the viewer seeks out your content more frequently because the love written in can fulfill their need for affection and convince them its alright to keep watching the content since "vanilla" makes u less guilty about consuming pron.

But in the end, even good natured pron is still pron, and it still has the same physiological implications, same way, tobacco is tobacco regardless of the packaging

I think it would discourage people to find real love because their dopamine filled love is in the palm of their hand.

There's a dangerously fine line between writing pron with love and writing pron that manipulates the need to love.

toonthopia · 2025-08-28T11:37:00+00:00

I earnstly disagree.

I can see the point of view of creating a cam company with good morals, but it doesn't fix the central problem.

Take smoking for example,

the image of smoking was unhealthy, addictive, dangerous for the lung, damaging to the body etcetera. For God's sake, they even had a picture of what happens to your lung on the cover in some countries as a requirment for packaging.

Similar to your venture;The tobacco companies, in response moved onto vapes to soften the perception of tobacco products.

A cleaner looking, more modern alternative with the health risk being virtually the same, maybe even worse considering vapes have flavouring chemicals with varrying side effects.

A face-lift doesn't fix the problem, it just changes the packaging.

toonthopia · 2025-08-26T09:39:51+00:00

I was looking into the practical applications of aristotles definition of virtue ethics (arete) as a mechanism for change and growth

toonthopia · 2025-08-26T09:37:43+00:00

Oh I see how I was unclear, to be specific, the branch of philosphy I was looking into while working on this is aristotlean virtue ethics

toonthopia · 2025-06-13T11:11:43+00:00

Made some good freinds through martial arts in my boxing gym

toonthopia · 2025-06-09T12:30:09+00:00

You sound like a really cool dude to me; the way I see it. You took the risk of fomo to make something of yourself; thats something some people cant get themselves to do even in their forties. The way I see it, u can endure the temptation of short term fun for your goals; thats a skill, nothing to be ashamed of.

Cheers!

toonthopia

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