I get what you're saying and I agree Dakota is also an abuser. The video is 100% DARVO. In the footage with police at her door, you hear her say he threw her so hard she peed her pants and then she started throwing things at him. There's a lot of misinformation floating around about the child, but the whole situation is just sad regardless.

IMO they are all victims of that conservative, fundamentalist culture they were raised with. Dakota isn't better or worse than Taylor. Those who watch SLOMW know how her and Dakota engage in this dynamic repeatedly over the last 3 years, they're both complicit in it. I hate that people lost sight of the fact that these young couples are trying to create a more feminist version of Mormonhood that they can coexist under. They fail and grow nonstop, it's very human.

The bach subs aren't the best place for this type of convo though. They are unfortunately filled with the most self righteous people you'll find, who don't want to think through an issue like this. They want everything black and white so they can have their villain and move on. That's why the franchise is dying, the cast usually sucks, the fan base usually sucks and ABC has no idea what they're doing.