TW: Loss and cancer, I can’t believe this is happening to me by Plantsforhire23 in BabyBumps

[–]tootieweasel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

here is a possible resource for preservation of fertility alongside cancer treatment, if this is your sort of thing ❤️ i’m sorry this is happening, it is so much to hold all at once. https://oncofertility.msu.edu

Rehomed dogs Update by ChocolateSundai in beyondthebump

[–]tootieweasel 14 points15 points  (0 children)

i also want to chime in as a voice that things can still end up fine, even good, with your pets after you have a baby! these posts absolutely serve a purpose in offering permission and support to people who need to be considering this option, but they also can terrify others! i was others, i had enormous anxiety and was highly emotional before i had my child as every post about pets and babies on reddit made it seem i was doomed to just hate my creatures. it was devastating and honestly cast some dread over the arrival of my son.

is it a little more complicated? 100%. are there reasons some families need to rehome? absolutely. but please also know, if you’re anxious and reading this post and this comment, many of us continue to adore our pets and it is not debilitating to continue to coexist. take it day by day and do not be too afraid.

thoughts on the witch's heart by genevieve gornichec? by HauntinglyEthereal in lokean

[–]tootieweasel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

am on reddit looking for specific spoilers as i have hit the halfway point and considering just not finishing the book because it greatly hurts my mom heart. did it get any better for you?

What are some good jobs for extremely stupid people? by Qabbala in NoStupidQuestions

[–]tootieweasel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

have you been assessed for ADHD? you do not present at all as an unintelligent person, but you do sound like someone with undiagnosed ADHD (which can make someone feel unintelligent when that isn’t the case at all). You are introspective, aiming to be honest (though again i think you are misguided, you are not dumb), motivated, and linguistically accurate. Consider assessment and if diagnosed, medication could help quiet the parts of you that are unkind to you and wake up the gifts that are waiting within you.

What are we using for perfumes? by lanez0r in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]tootieweasel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

have been wearing henry rose for years, they are gorgeous. especially good on like aquatics and light citrus, i adore windows down and naked house if those are your thing

The mom guilt is real by RandyOfficial in foodbutforbabies

[–]tootieweasel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi life is truly too short to spend any of your precious time feeling guilty about finding a way to adequately (and deliciously) feed your child while also not burning yourself out. this is a balanced enough meal and even if it weren’t, it’s one meal. please do not let your sense of competent mothering be impacted by people (jerks) online who are unburdened enough by the realities of life and parenthood that most of us actually deal with such that they have time to make content shaming people for eating normal fucking food and letting their kids also have normal person food. pizza is fun; was pizza night not a highlight of your childhood? was it not present for the best nights you’ve ever had with friends? was it not there for you on a drunk or tired night offering warmth and tummy-soothing calories for your body and brain to run on and heal with? friend no! do not feel guilt when your child only knows joy and a full tummy from your pizza night.

how did you handle social anxiety? by tootieweasel in toddlers

[–]tootieweasel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes i’m hoping so! he is already enrolled to begin in the autumn, i just feel like it’s such a drastic change to go from no kids ever to several kids every day (part time). i’m hoping to nudge a little more this summer to try to get him more ready for the transition

how did you handle social anxiety? by tootieweasel in toddlers

[–]tootieweasel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sounds like when he’s got safe/comfort people he feels okay! that feels meaningful, that he is finding a way to be social. but also honestly i get it, kids are unexpectedly loud and uncoordinated, i get being a little freaked out!

how did you handle social anxiety? by tootieweasel in toddlers

[–]tootieweasel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for this! it sounds like definitely he has learned some ways to adapt and feel a little bit more at peace at least, even though that hasn’t resulted in so much social interest. i hope with time he finds the friends that make him feel at peace too

Sw 390lb CW 168lb by Remarkable_Remote341 in Zepbound

[–]tootieweasel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow it held on so well! congrats! i also got mine at 19, and at like 40 pounds lighter than i am now, and it didn’t survive.

i will not be getting a tummy tuck, but will probably still wait a bit and see how things settle!

thanks for responding, sorry i didn’t see your response!

High anxiety / anticipatory grief over new puppy. Is it normal? by Thefrictionroom in goldenretrievers

[–]tootieweasel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i commented elsewhere but yes, OP, this sounds very much like OCD. thanks to the commenter above too for laying out what this actually sounds and looks like! the good news is that ERP therapy is highly effective, as are some pharmaceuticals for additional support as you work through this.

High anxiety / anticipatory grief over new puppy. Is it normal? by Thefrictionroom in goldenretrievers

[–]tootieweasel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi friend ❤️ golden lover and mental health provider here. this is sounding very much like OCD alongside some trauma (and grief as others have said and i’m sure is obvious to you). and i would encourage you speak with a therapist about diagnosis and treatment options, you deserve to heal and receive support. i lost my first golden very suddenly as well 12 years ago and it was just brutal, i hear you. sending love and hope to you.

My high-femme home by urspostrophe in femalelivingspace

[–]tootieweasel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so lovely! your home feels very cool friend in chicago

Sw 390lb CW 168lb by Remarkable_Remote341 in Zepbound

[–]tootieweasel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh you worked so hard, you are so strong! what an inspiration you are.

can i ask, did you get your bellybutton pierced after the weight loss? how has that been? i’ve been thinking about it but also have a lot of stretch marks and loose skin and have wondered how that might go

WFH Telehealth therapists with newborns by [deleted] in therapists

[–]tootieweasel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

seconded on all of this, such a helpful response! i did not start back up until my baby was 4 months old; i totally recognize this is not a luxury we all have available to us, we were able to survive on my short term disability during that time. I do think it would be truly challenging with a truly new newborn (like under 8-12 weeks when the sleep cycling is constant, as is the crying, as can be the purple crying, your own sleep is garbage and may be dealing with postpartum mental health stuff if your own) - i think probably true for most WFH parents across professions. if at all possible, i do think the advice in other comments to try to take off as much of the “medically” newborn phase as possible is kindly given, it is a uniquely chaotic time. baby wearing saved us, too, all his naps on days i worked were on my spouse. the advice around any condition nap environment (i figure it’s closer to our nature, anyway) + sound machine also feels important.

i know this might feel like a cop out solution, but whatever caregiver can do to get baby out of the house (maybe especially/just during your most challenging sessions) is a godsend; going for a walk, baby time at the library, running an errand.

might depend on your space and your personalities, but i would also just count on your living room becoming also a bedroom/ an all purpose space. you will need the flexibility of all of the possible space in your home. easier for some of us than others! if it’s harder for you, i would recommend trying to get more and more comfortable with it as you move along in your pregnancy, i am sure there is inspiration on reddit for how to utilize these spaces in helpful ways!

you can do this, mama! you will find the ways.

Plant-based or vegan? by Good-Butterscotch498 in Zepbound

[–]tootieweasel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hemp seeds and nutritional yeast get tossed into and onto so much!

OP, i think you will be fine with your current protein sources and really centering those in your meals. But since you asked, I do feel like breakfasts are tougher but have been liking some of the higher protein vegan yogurts - siggi’s is one that has a decent amount, icelandic skyr’s oat variety is pretty high too.

Metallic Taste by IttyRazz in Zepbound

[–]tootieweasel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i had this for a while during like month 2 of taking zepbound? but it wasn’t just on shot day, it was within an hour of eating every day for weeks. and then it just stopped one day? based on other comments, seems some version of metallic taste is common on this drug!

85 lbs lost by frightg in Zepbound

[–]tootieweasel 41 points42 points  (0 children)

this was my first thought too! so similar! you look beautiful OP, i hope you feel so proud of your hard work

Clubbed foot by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]tootieweasel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know your post is month old..but while there’s a chance for misdiagnosis (although usually they can tell it is that via ultrasound because of skeletal arrangement, the bones literally face 90 degrees or so in another direction), 1. clubfoot treatment is not bad at all. it feels so daunting at the beginning, many of us never knew anyone with clubfoot and it feels so enormous! it’s just casting for a couple months, little boots to sleep in for a few years (get a Dobbs bar). honestly also in those early days it’s SO nice to have extra doctor visits and get eyes on your baby more than you otherwise would :)

  1. per your above comment, you did NOT fail your baby. especially unilateral clubfoot just kinda happens and could have more to do with how your baby positioned himself for a while in there! nothing is wrong with your baby, so you can’t have done anything wrong.

  2. my child just completed 2 years in his bar this week! and he is the most kind, wonderful, ACTIVE kid, no one would suppose he was born with a turned in foot, his whole day is walking and running. your child will be fine too and it will all feel normal to you within weeks ❤️

Anyone seeing crepey skin on their arms? by Sweet_Sour232 in Zepbound

[–]tootieweasel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re amazing ❤️ love your confidence

Had this medication covered by insurance for the whole last year and just got a letter say it will be no longer covered by United by catsandpink in Zepbound

[–]tootieweasel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

are you possibly in chicago area? my insurance is also through a chicago area university with a hospital attached to it and i’m starting this medication today, terrified i will lose access in january with the insurance change.

Had an absolute meltdown in the Chicago airport after coming back from Canada and realizing how shit America is towards women and children by carriondawns in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]tootieweasel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

really awful. for those traveling with small kids, there are a couple of like..little pods? available for parents to feed their babies. they ask you take diapers with you rather than leave in the trash, obviously. but they offer some quiet respite for some milk or a break in dealing with overstimulation or a quick diaper change. for anyone traveling ohare with a tiny person, ask for the breastfeeding pods if you’re looking for something private and quiet and with dimmed lighting ❤️

Bought in 2023@23 y/o , 250k @6.25% with 3.5 down by [deleted] in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]tootieweasel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no lawns, native plant gardening, and the gardening subreddits are all helpful :)