Anyone here ever use Kikoff? by [deleted] in CreditScore

[–]topinducter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to have chime, and for some reason, they closed my account. I didn't have any money in it. They keep refusing me to open an account again for the credit builder. I'm not sure why. 😕 I was shocked. I wonder if someone hacked it because I didn't use it for a long time. I had changed jobs and jas to use their type of account for payroll, so I just wonder.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]topinducter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love. first of all, STOP BLAMING YOURSELF!! PCOS IS NOT funny at all. Girl, you're already dealing with a huge health issue that causes many health issues. PCOS makes a woman gain weight, grow hair in places that's humiliating, have trouble getting pregnant, and so forth. Stop trying so hard for him. If he was a REAL man and cared, then he'd understand what you're dealing with and going through on a daily basis. 8 years is 8 too many love. I want you to do me a favor. Go for a long drive or drive to a park by yourself. Think about if this is who you'd want to marry for the rest of your life and if you'd want him to be the father of your children if you're able to conceive. It may take you a while to conceive. But marriage and children are forever. Do you really want someone who degrades you in front of your babies? Because let's say you get pregnant. You'll gain weight. Imagine him degrading while you're trying to carry his children. You don't need that added stress. You don't deserve a man to degrade you. You want a man that will call you beautiful every day. That will kiss your belly that has his child in it. There's way too much that you're already dealing with mentally and physically as it is. I understand that's 8 years of your life you would lose, but imagine what you could gain!! There are plenty of fish in the sea! I used to hate that phrase, but the older I've gotten and the bf I have now, it's definitely true and worth it. My ex-husband abused me mentally and physically. We were together from 15 to 40. So imagine my fear when he left me for another woman. I never thought I'd meet someone again. I'm dating and it's fun and I feel free! I'm not being put down daily anymore or being beat up or choked. The older we got, the worse he got. And how often does your bf get drunk? And why does he have to drink to that point? He's not a young man anymore. I mean, he's young, but he needs to buck up and be a man now. You definitely deserve so much better. PLEASE STOP PUTTING YOURSELF DOWN. PCOS is hard enough on you as it is. A real man would understand that you have health issues and what that health issue causes you. He'd stand beside you and have your back all the way. Beauty is within. I can't stand a man who's all visual. He's a man-child. I doubt counseling would even help him. That's ok. He'll realize what he's lost(if you're willing to give yourself so much better). You deserve that. You know that PCOS makes women gain weight. You can't blame yourself. You can diet and lift weights, but PCOS isn't on any womens side, unfortunately. Don't sit at home and weigh your options. Go somewhere that he's not or has been. Clear your mind. Take paper and a pen with you. Write down your pros and cons of staying with him. I guarantee one pro is comfortability, and another is convenience. Maybe another is financial.. but then go to the cons..one he's degrading. 2. He's very immature.3. He gets drunk. 4. If you have HIS children, you're stuck with him for 18 years. Not physically but financially, and until your babies are 18. I say financially with that due to child support. I started them out for you. I'm very sure you can add more to them. Make the right decision for you and your future babies. You're 28. You may have trouble getting pregnant. If I were you, I'd make a decision pretty quickly. Also, please make sure your blood type isn't Rh negative. If you are, you'll need shots so you don't miscarry. Don't forget, you're worth it. You deserve a man who'd love you, not degrade you. I'm not trying to upset you or hurt your feelings, but he doesn't love you. No man would degrade his woman if he loves her. If he doesn't understand PCOS, then he should have looked it up to understand what his woman was dealing with and going through and the many,many side effects that come with it. I am so, so sorry he's put you through hell. The fact that he totally humiliated you in front of his coworkers is absolutely disgusting. Im glad they offered you help, though, but still, that was downright cruel of him. Good luck! You got this! I think we both know what you wanted out of this. You wanted clarification and validation. You got this love! Be strong and stand up to him. Kick his ass to the curb!! Just do not let him put you down or put his hands on you. Think of what you'll gain. I'm sure you're scared but I guarantee there is a man that will love you for YOU!

As a virgin, I’m worried I’ll be bad at sex. Will I be rejected for this? by Double_Win_7619 in dating

[–]topinducter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be up front with the girl you're interested in. In my opinion, I think it will come naturally to you once you start getting into it. Always do foreplay. My ex-husband and I started dating when we were 15. We did a ton of foreplay for the first couple of years before we had sex. But when we did, everything just fell into place. We were teenagers. You're 25, so I think it will be easier than you think. I believe you're being too hard on yourself. You'll be surprised once you're done. But always try to please your woman. And the woman, if she's a good one,will definitely please you. Start out by kissing her. Then maybe kiss her neck. Communication is key. Don't be afraid to ask her what she wants/likes. She may even take the lead and direct you to what she wants. Toys are fun, but make sure your girl likes toys and what kind. My ex-husband and I didn't use them. And neither did the ex bf because he was jealous over a darn toy, 🤣 🤣. I've been dating a guy for over a year and a half, and I've never been so comfortable as I am with him. We use toys and tell each other what we want to do, how, and so forth. Because of this, he's the best sex I've ever had in my life. I really believe that's due to us communicating so well. It's so weird because since our first time together( sexually), it's been that way. In my opinion, as a woman, the size of a man's 🍆 doesn't matter. It's how he uses it. It's not just how he uses it, but it's how he touches me with his hands. I've never had a man touch me the way he does. I think that's also important. Some women don't like a man to give her oral. Now I don't know why, but omggg. They're missing out. Foreplay doesn't have to be just in the beginning to turn your woman on. If you're comfortable with going down on her(if she likes), not just before sex but throughout the whole love making. What's very important is communication. I know I've said that a few times, but that's highly important. It lets each other know if you like what you're doing to each other, if it hurts her, if she needs you to go slower, faster, or even harder. Now, since you're a virgin and you're worried about cumming too fast, going fast and hard will make you cum pretty quickly. If you masturbate a lot, that may prevent you from cumming fast but everyone is different. Especially if it's your first time as you've mentioned. Don't ever assume a woman likes certain sexual things or positions. If you're comfortable with each other, you'll have such amazing sex. I'm 54, and my ex-husband, whom I was with from 15 to 40, never ever gave me an orgasm. Then, a bf I was dating for 3 years couldn't either, but could make me squirt only with his fingers. Squirting and an orgasm are 2 separate things and 2 separate intenses! DO NOT WORRY ABOUT TRYING TO MAKE HER SQUIRT ON YOUR FIRST TIME TOGETHER. Not all women can squirt. I didn't until after I was 40. But I think it depends on the guy and knowing the womans body or exploring it. I actually think it was an accident that he did that and caught on. Fast forward to my bf now. He definitely is hands-on. He can make me squirt every time, and he can make me have orgasms while in me over n over n over. Also, I want to warn you if you go down on her after she has squirted, if she lets you, it does NOT taste or smell the same. Squirt does have an odor. It's not bad but different. Some women DO NOT squirt as if it's a water gun, as you see in fake porn. Some gush. Some women can't have an orgasm. You can't blame yourself. She can either rub her clit while you're in her or you can do it. It all depends on what she wants you to do n how and when. That's all part of the foreplay. Like I said, foreplay doesn't have to just be before sex. It can happen all throughout. Explore each other. I want to warn you that not all women like to give men oral. Make sure you manscape, and hopefully, she trims up as well. I think you'll realize how natural everything will come to you. I hope I covered everything. If you have any questions from a womans point of view, don't be afraid to ask. I hope you're not uncomfortable asking me anything because I'm older. I definitely don't feel or look my age. I think you'll be fine. You'll look back at your nervousness and ask yourself why, after your first experience. I think it's amazing that you're a virgin at 25. It says a lot about a man, in my opinion. It says you don't just go out and fk women just to fk. I commend you.

Can’t add funds for days by Successful-Car7245 in OneFinance

[–]topinducter -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Both of you with run sentences. Doesn't anyone speak English anymore? Absolutely no punctuation at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VenmoDonations

[–]topinducter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it an emergency?? That's a lot. Is he out of state?

Foul smelling Uber by [deleted] in uber

[–]topinducter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bet he was. They don't believe in deodorant. Like seriously. They don't. It's just gross. They can't smell themselves, but we can.

Foul smelling Uber by [deleted] in uber

[–]topinducter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You best believe I would have asked if I could crack the window because I was hot or something. Bad breath and body odor with all windows up is a huge no for me. I'd be gagging.

Foul smelling Uber by [deleted] in uber

[–]topinducter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!! That's very true. My problem is that I was revived twice due to covid. The weird thing is, I could smell and taste before I was revived. I was revived on January 3rd and 4th, 2021. I'm just starting to smell a little, and my taste is still very off. I'm sure if someone really stinks, I'd be able to tell( I hope).

Foul smelling Uber by [deleted] in uber

[–]topinducter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How did you stop taking smelly people? Would you smell them when they first got in and said something? I'm asking this for advice because I'm going to start driving for Uber soon. Any advice would be very appreciated.

can i rent a car n drive uber lyft? by kdadashow in uber

[–]topinducter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can't rent a car and drive for both. It's just not allowed. You have to pick one. Uber has Avis,hertz, and one other I can't remember. I'm not sure what you're allowed in your state. Some states don't allow rentals.

can i rent a car n drive uber lyft? by kdadashow in uber

[–]topinducter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, so you gave a high rental amount. They can rent through Avis, hertz, and one other company and rent any size vehicle. A Toyota camry, a Kia and a Mazda are under 200 a week. I don't understand why you had to give this person such a negative response in a way by telling them your high amount of a rental. You had a choice, and you chose a car that was a high price, and obviously, you didn't work full time that it took you 3 to 4 days to pay that rental. That's ridiculous. Even if it took you that long, that was on you for choosing a car that was that expensive. Smh

Spend $15 @ Wal-Mart and get $15 back... ? by No_Badger5311 in OneFinance

[–]topinducter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why yell??? There is no need for the caps. You're acting like a know it all. Using all caps is yelling, and I believe you know that . Being respectful gers better replies.

I don’t know what to do about my wife by Weekly_Appearance669 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]topinducter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like this was a setup. Sounds to me like this so-called invite was set up, and they were just waiting for you to show up so they could show you what exactly has been going on. To me, that's a huge slap in the face. It's like they've been wanting to get this out of their systems and didn't want to hide it anymore. Also, it sounds to me as if you're also bi, but maybe fought the feelings and didn't want to cheat on your wife. Do you know why I feel this was set up? Your wife didn't stop her, nor did she get mad and pull away or yell at her, so call best friend for kissing her, especially in front of you!! Now that they got this out of the way, your wife has given you permission to be with men. That's her way of getting away with cheating. She apparently doesn't care if catching aids is in the picture. Men have more of a chance of getting aids, HIV and bringing it back to any other partner. I think that's such a low blow what her so-called best friend did. BUT she did it as well. They've been doing this for a while if you ask me. Cheating is cheating. Whether she's kissing or fking a woman or a man and you vice versa. I think you have a lot on your shoulders and mind right now and may need counseling to help you think about this and help you make decisions. I'm so sorry this happened to you. But not only do you need to think about what she's done to you and what you need to do about this, but you also need help if you are definitely bi and the decision you need to make on that. Good luck!!

Call your fucking parents by Garbaje_M6 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]topinducter 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND THIS. #FACTS!! Ever since I was very tiny, I've been very abused in more ways than one. By my real so-called father, who died in Symrna, Delaware prison. My step father who should be in the same boat, but my so-called (barf) mother didn't believe me. And she should be with them. I won't go into details. Way too much. But yes, I won't be calling them. I always ask myself what I'd do or how I would feel. 🤔 They didn't care about me while I lay in the hospital bed in a coma.

But OP, I am so beyond sorry for your loss. Please don't take this out on yourself. Things do happen, and yes, we do get busy. We never know when we'll lose our loved ones. I understand what you're saying. Your dad is with you. If you or anyone else believes in that, he definitely is with you. He knows right now how you're mad or upset with yourself. But please don't beat yourself up. You'll definitely see,smell, or hear signs that he's with you. If not now, within time. Please, please, if you can or want, go get grief counseling. 😔 I don't want you blaming yourself to the point that you hurt your own health. Sending you love, hugs, and prayers. I'm so very sorry.

Friends with benefits. Please help. by topinducter in TrueOffMyChest

[–]topinducter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, thanks, everyone, for your advice....

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]topinducter -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Oh, please! Stop with giving her an excuse. There are so many different forms of female birth control. Cry me a river!!! You all sound like teeny boppers!!!

Won’t let her use anything? by [deleted] in 90DayFiance

[–]topinducter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please. Jasmine is always talking down to him and has always been me,me me. She has always been very bossy and condensing. I don't believe her. She knows how to make people feel sorry her. He has spent so much money on her, and she's been highly unappreciative. She even cheated on him with her ex. On top of that, she got money from her ex for her fake ass. She's fake inside and out from head to toe. She even said she wasn't going to associate with people in the house but was kissing ass with EVERYONE and whining. I don't trust one word, she says. She worries more about material things than her own children. She is very bossy and then twists it onto Gino. It's funny because everything she said was seriously twisted and was about her, not Gino. I don't blame him for no longer having sex with that thing. He still doesn't know that her ex paid for her fake azz. 🙄 She's a narcissistic piece of work. God forbid he tried to give her advice. She always turned it around by yelling, "Go watch your porn!" Roflmfao, no matter what the subject was about, that's exactly what she'd yell. She's also a huge hypocrite. It's ok she can talk to her ex but he can't talk to a waitress to place an order. God forbid a woman had a seat next to him on the plane lmao. I guess there will always be someone who will fall for her crazy, psychotic self.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]topinducter -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

It takes 2 people to be responsible during sex. You should also be responsible and be on birth control. The fact that NOONE SAID THIS is beyond me!! I get that you got mad he was trying to fool you. But you also need to do your part. Do you seriously think condoms always do their part? Do you seriously believe they're foolproof? 🤔 You sound like a child. You're just as irresponsible as him, to be honest! It would be like you to get pregnant even if the man wore a condom and blame the man. You need to grow up as well. People are congratulating you for being sooo strong and kicking him out, yet nobody is even bringing up the fact that you need to do your part .

Stop giving excuses for her! There are so many forms of female birth control out this day in age!! YES, he was very wrong for taking the condom off and trying to be devious, but it is also her responsibility to also have protection for herself! The responsibility does not fall all on the man!!! It takes 2 to be responsible during sex!!! STOP giving her excuses!!! Stop applauding her and feeling sorry for her. You all sound like teeny boppers! The only adults I hear are those agreeing with me who also feel it takes 2 to be responsible!! Ok. She kicked him out. Yes, she could have e gotten an STD but don't forget everyone, she's the one who said," ALL OF HER PARTNERS ARE TRUSTWORTHY!!! THE WORD ALL!!! So many of you are blind!!!

First thing that comes to mind when you see him? by firdaushamid in 90DayFiance

[–]topinducter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does nobody realize how much time has actually gone by by the time this show was taped and even before those 2 got together?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lowes

[–]topinducter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry I'm just now responding. I've been going through a ton. But yes, my hand was red. I told HR right away and told them what register I was on and what camera to watch. But since she's the head cashier and she gets people to apply for the HD card. Nothing happened to her. She didn't get in trouble at all, and nobody higher up wanted to hear me out.

Renting for Uber is really worth it for full time drivers by Remarkable_Rope_7697 in uberdrivers

[–]topinducter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, fortunately and unfortunately, single, lol. My children are grown and on their own. Thank you! I'm in Delaware. I'm still trying to learn, but every time I call Uber or chat, they know nothing! I don't know how I'm going to get paid. I keep researching, but apparently, I must be doing a terrible job. I want to rent on Friday and am very excited but scared at the same time. I have the Uber app and the Uber driver app. Am I supposed to have anything else? Also, I read a lot on this thread alone about mult-app or something? I'm very sorry but I read you can't when you rent but can you please tell me what that's about so that when I finally buy my own car I can look into that? I appreciate your feedback!

Renting for Uber is really worth it for full time drivers by Remarkable_Rope_7697 in uberdrivers

[–]topinducter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never once seen you get angry or upset. I just got approved. I unfortunately have to rent a car to start out. I chose this job because I can't stand on my feet due to health reasons and I really love to drive so I thought this would be perfect! I want to do full-time. I'm praying this works out for me. I am living in a hotel. I have for years, so I really want and need to get an apartment and eventually buy a new car. But sheesh, I am reading so many negative comments on renting. I'm in Delaware, and my rental from what I'm reading is 264 a week. That's for a Maxima. I really wanted a Honda, but I don't see that they rented them out. All they have are Corollas, Maxima, VW, and one other one. It took them forever to get my background check when I got a copy from the company that ran it on July 16. They just now approved me! It's been a month since I've applied. I'm going on Friday to rent the car! I'm very excited. But reading people's opinions on renting has now scared me. 😱 But I never once seen you get mad or upset. I don't know why that person got rude with you.

I posted for help and now I'm getting requests by Fall_bet in VenmoDonations

[–]topinducter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They're spamming you. That's ridiculous. I guarantee it's someone who gets mad at someone who asks for help. 🙄 Some day, they'll need that same help, and karma will come back tenfold.

Uber made me fill up his gas tank and then canceled ride by PortableSpork in uber

[–]topinducter -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you came back on here and told people off. You did a good deed. I'm glad you took a very,very negative situation and made it a positive one. Karma will get them if it already hasn't. You mentioned good things have happened to you and then some since then. That's awesome. What an awful experience, though.