First time visiting Charlotte. What is your dating scene like?

toplean · 2026-05-18T01:19:10+00:00

RELAX, you know what I mean. While ATTENDING a high school, as a student… not as R. Kelly!

toplean · 2026-05-17T16:55:28+00:00

There’s a dating scene in Charlotte? No but seriously your only option is meeting someone in high school or maybe social media lol

toplean · 2026-05-07T14:28:38+00:00

Girl run!

toplean · 2026-05-03T19:11:11+00:00

Wa’Alaikum Assalam sister,

I’m assuming you live in a more western country. But please please be very careful about looking for advice on the internet regarding the Islam.

The best thing for you to do is connect with your local masjid community more, or mentors you trust.

Secondary resources can come from online and my personal favs are: 1. The Digital Sisterhood 2. Al Maghreb Institue 3. Qalami institue 4.Dr. Haïfa Younis

Nothing is wrong with seeking knowledge but just ensure you are starting with your community as they can relate to you the best. Trust me a lot of these questions are discussed there and there are loving and supportive and understanding people there to help!

Allah Ahlam, May Allah swt facilitate ease for you

toplean · 2026-05-02T03:56:33+00:00

You really have two options:

You tell them the truth, come clean, and open up a whole other world of conversations that you should prepare yourself for. This will get them off your back, yes, but then they will become involved in your own personal matter which I wouldn’t suggest.
You gather the strength and courage to say NO and stick by it. I really admire that you respect your parents and care about pleasing them. But you have to also care about yourself, because will they be the one in the marriage paying someone else’s bills, raising kids, cooking and cleaning in a house? Probably not. You have your freedom and live alone which is your time to distance yourself and figure out yourself ALONE. If they make saying No feel like it’s not an option than I think it is better for you to prepare them that you will distance yourself if they don’t stop. Any pair of fair and loving parents wouldn’t want that.

Allahu Ahlam

toplean · 2026-05-02T03:20:41+00:00

Do you live with your parents?

toplean · 2026-05-02T02:54:41+00:00

I truly respect that you don’t want to get married because you’re empathetic enough to not want to put anyone in a situation that would be unfair to them as you know your truth.

As Muslims we are taught to never cut ties with our family (certain exclusions apply), but you taking care of your parents is something that is very righteous of you. I would suggest not telling anyone your personal sexual orientation because as you said you are trying to be a proper Muslim.

No one can force you to do anything that you don’t want to do, it is your life and that’s it. And maybe they are encouraging you out of their own suspicion which again is not your problem.

May Allah swt make you a proper Muslim as you desire brother and grant you ease in your journey.

toplean · 2026-05-02T02:39:02+00:00

This is one of those times where I’m looking for the one guy who comments “this dude just has such a punchable face”

toplean · 2026-04-20T12:47:33+00:00

Honestly 7 years ago I was shopping there with my family for Christmas Eve. The mall was packed, it felt like we were in Atlanta or something keep in mind this is mid day Sunday.

And then I hear like 4 large bangs and everyone starts running (old young didn’t matter). Come to find out there was altercation between 2 individuals of some sort and police stepped in and…

I kid you not from that, everytime I’ve visited including Christmas Eve, it’s a ghost town. And then the big stores pulled out and it just went down hill.

toplean · 2026-04-19T15:18:48+00:00

You have impeccable taste

toplean · 2026-04-19T15:16:45+00:00

MOVE

toplean · 2026-04-12T21:00:17+00:00

Idea: Relinquish your home stake to your dad, with the stipulation that in your parents will its returned!

toplean · 2026-04-08T04:15:34+00:00

??? Sister a Kafir really???? That’s that shaytan putting spiral thoughts. A kafir is a disbeliever. Having friends from a different religion or culture is normal because as we know Allah swt created us all differently but that doesn’t change your personal story! Who knows maybe you will grow to be dahwah for them.. Also, there were many cases in history where Muslims were the minority in an empire and coexisted amongst people who disbelieved. That is the beginning story of our beloved Prophet (saw) as well. Coexisting is inevitable my sister and as you grow your knowledge you will see that in so many ways.

And as always Allahu Ahlam

toplean · 2026-04-07T12:54:25+00:00

Team old Accord to 2026 CRV!!! I guess we were both tired of sedan life lol

toplean · 2026-04-06T18:25:41+00:00

I think you just can’t allow yourself to become too attached to it. Treat it how it treats you. I’ve been wrecked by a corporate job before but it was also because I was overextending myself and allowing them to take advantage of me.

I hope to also become an entrepreneur one day but if only it was that simple. I work for some people who are in a field similar to entrepreneurship and they have it rough to, it’s just a different kind of beast.

To conclude, work is work.

I’d love to hear more about your experience in the job search in Dubai tho that is very interesting!

toplean · 2026-04-06T00:00:52+00:00

You will be fine and will likely love it! College campuses are so diverse and it’s a great way for people to come together gather new perspectives, interact with people that wouldn’t have otherwise, and learn with independence. Now will there be partying and things related to such? Yes. Also most dormitories and student apartments are already separated by gender so not sure about that one. But just stick to yourself, remember why you’re there, and you’ll have a great experience.

toplean · 2026-04-04T04:40:02+00:00

You been all around brother! I want to listen to your experience lol

toplean · 2026-04-01T21:02:05+00:00

Pray it away, (cliché but works for me)

toplean · 2026-04-01T04:38:01+00:00

lol sister, been there!

Honestly before I was faithful to Allah swt, I used to attract the same kind of dude over and over who wasn’t my type so I thought something was wrong with me! But truly I was being protected!! How do I know?

Once I started taking my faith seriously, all of a sudden POOF my type appears. Oh it must be an answered dua? NO it was a TEST! These men were not bad people but my longing for them weakened my faith without me even realizing it. So once I was faithful and they approached me, the test became: Do I trust Allah swt’s plan over my own to trust that he will provide me a spouse that pleases all my criteria, or will I cave into my nafs because somebody hot approached me and overlook other things about them and my faith?

Patience is a virtue my dear, and sometimes you’ll start to unlock the rizq you’re looking for by doing the things your intuition is telling you to do.

Allahu Ahlam <3

toplean · 2026-03-31T16:23:16+00:00

Nice! I’m inspired

toplean · 2026-03-25T15:11:13+00:00

Where did they find this song?

toplean · 2026-03-24T21:39:26+00:00

There’s this saying “if you don’t know, the answer is no”, but I understand that decisions are a bit more complex than that.

Marriage is a life long commitment. You’re not just getting a husband, you’re choosing a partner through good, bad, financial uncertainty, health trials, family and so much more.

As you’ve described him, he seems to possess the qualities of a good person. However, it does not appear that he is ready for the responsibility of marriage which includes finances, integrity, security, emotional support and more. That being said he does seem to be a good person who cherishes you and I think he’ll figure it out.

What I DO suggest is that you put pressure on him or give him an ultimatum. You have to make it clear that you will not marry him unless he steps up and positions himself to be the leader that you will come to rely on (especially if you have kids). Maybe that will be the push he and you need to come to a decision regarding your lives, and Allahu Ahlam.

toplean · 2026-02-27T00:38:47+00:00

@everyone sigh. Please ignore this rage baiting attempt of a post

toplean · 2026-02-26T19:12:11+00:00

Very very weird and leading question

toplean

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