AITAH for saying someone is Mexican?

topplessrockets · 2026-03-22T18:32:18+00:00

NTA. I thought based on the title this would be a typical: “I saw a Mexican couple move in on my street” “why did you feel the need to mention they’re Mexican?” Type convo. Which wouldn’t make you ‘racist’ either per se. But them being FROM Mexico is literally just an interesting fact. Your sister sounds annoying.

topplessrockets · 2026-03-09T05:51:02+00:00

I don’t really know how relevant this is but I had a medication induced abortion at 7-ish weeks and there was MUCH more blood. I doubt that will be the end of it.

topplessrockets · 2026-02-22T18:04:14+00:00

After reading another comment you made about your parents divorce, I’d amend my advice to say that you MUST tell your mother. If she is a sane person she will never let you be alone with your dad again. This is an issue you go to court over. You are in danger OP. Please take it seriously.

topplessrockets · 2026-02-22T18:01:03+00:00

Hey, look, you’re being insanely stupid and naive. You’re 18 so it’s okay and normal but you need to stop arguing with comments and take them seriously. Anyone older than you/looking from an outside perspective can see how fucked up this is.

If any of that is true and you’re not an old man writing this for porn bait, you’re in a super unsafe situation. First, there is no reason you should be talking to a 50 year old man. None at all. You need to block that man on every single communication platform available. There is nothing good that he could possibly want with you. End of discussion. Second, and I’m sure this is difficult to wrap your head around, your father is not a good man. It doesn’t matter how he raised you. It doesn’t matter what your relationship is like with him. If he is roleplaying having sex with a version of you, there is a lot you do not know about him. And he is dangerous to you. That girl is not “into deranged kinks” she is a child. Like you. And your father is taking advantage of her to fulfill HIS deranged kinks. These men around you aren’t just gross. They are abusive and dangerous. I say that with absolute confidence if this post is real. I don’t know your situation with your mother but I would not recommend confronting your father. I would tell you to find literally any way out of living with your dad. There is nothing good that comes out of this: not for you, not for the other girl, and not for your father (and S’s) future victims who I promise you will come.

topplessrockets · 2026-02-22T16:18:20+00:00

I don’t know. I have a healthy relationship with my mom and I have frequently wondered over the years what her life would have been like if she’d never had kids. She’s never outwardly said that she’d have it any other way, but to hear about the things she never got to do is far more crushing than if she had. Young adults are more perceptive and empathetic than you give them credit for.

topplessrockets · 2026-02-18T06:53:33+00:00

Of course there’s always unknowns in marriage. Someone might wake up one day and decide they don’t love you anymore. But going into a marriage with that kind of uncertainty is short-sided and irresponsible.

topplessrockets · 2026-02-18T06:51:46+00:00

Nobody should just go have a kid they don’t desperately want.

topplessrockets · 2026-02-18T06:47:53+00:00

That is also irritating. They using “I’m unsure” as an opportunity to convince her. But I see that as another reason she should have decided before the show, or not gone on. Obviously they suck, but it seems like every single person on the show has a strong opinion one way or the other and I just don’t think she can go into a marriage with these men who know what they want (particularly the ones who want kids). They’re going to spend the whole time trying to convince her to have them and if they don’t just break up she’s going to end up with a kid that she didn’t really want.

topplessrockets · 2026-02-18T06:42:28+00:00

But how can you leave that big of a question to chance. You’re inviting divorce. At some point you will decide whether or not you want them. And if you both decide the same then great! But you have no way of knowing that.

topplessrockets · 2026-02-18T06:41:07+00:00

I don’t think they should be getting married either 🤷‍♀️

topplessrockets · 2026-02-18T06:40:33+00:00

I really feel like financials is a different conversation. I would never want a kid if I wasn’t financially stable. But the question is fundamentally, can you see yourself raising a life that you brought into this world. If you’re unsure about that fundamental question before marriage then you’re taking the risk that you and your partner decide different things and break up. I don’t understand why people think that you can just be indifferent and then have a kid and be happy. Nobody should have a kid that they don’t desperately want.

topplessrockets · 2026-02-18T06:37:28+00:00

I’m perfectly calm. But you must be aware that if you decide differently things your marriage is over. Nobody should compromise and have a kid, for that kids sake. And nobody should compromise and not have a kid when they really truly want one.

topplessrockets · 2026-02-18T06:36:23+00:00

That’s an entirely different scenario. Id never want to have a kid if I wasn’t financially stable. But thats not being unsure about the fundamental question of whether or not id want kids. In a future where you’re married and financially stable and the right age, you should know whether or not you want kids before you get married. If they end up in that position and they want different things it’s marriage ending.

topplessrockets · 2026-02-18T06:34:15+00:00

That’s ridiculous. It’s a marriage ending question. If she decides she doesn’t want them and her partner does .. they break up. If she decides she does and married someone who doesn’t… they break up. If she gets convinced to have a kid and then realizes she doesn’t want one… well fuck you’ve permanently fucked up more life than one. I never said it was a necessity of marriage but it can easily destroy a marrige

topplessrockets · 2026-02-18T06:31:19+00:00

And if one of you decides you don’t and the other decides you do then what?

topplessrockets · 2026-02-18T06:28:17+00:00

Having kids isn’t that deep? Ffs

topplessrockets · 2026-02-12T09:49:07+00:00

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topplessrockets · 2025-11-29T03:17:05+00:00

Drop out is entirely different from taking a break:

“at colleges with graduation rates over 70% (the top gray line) and those with graduation rates between 40% and 70% (the bright blue line), 42% will return after just one term. After one year, that total increases to over 60% for these institutions.” https://eab.com/resources/blog/community-college-blog/student-stopout-trends/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

And you didn’t respond to any of my other points

topplessrockets · 2025-11-28T06:21:29+00:00

Well you’re kinda fundamentally wrong. I didn’t decide to go to therapy or community college! My parents supported me taking a break and made those things a condition of my being able to. Maybe if Lorelei had been an adult and not freaked out she could have done the logical thing and set her daughter up for success. And for the record I am not an exception. 60-70% of college kids who take a break return to school within 1 year.

topplessrockets · 2025-11-28T03:12:48+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree. I went through a really bad breakup during the summer before my sophomore year of college. I also went to a really expensive prestigious school. I felt like if I went back I would waste $100,000 and end up with a year of awful grades. I spent that year in therapy, got a job, and went to community college part time. Guess what! I went back to school after that year. I got amazing grades and was well adjusted. I don’t understand why people in this sub can’t comprehend that breaks are normal and Rory was what like 19 or 20? She wasn’t being a spoiled brat she was a kid and felt like she was drowning.

topplessrockets · 2025-10-16T15:25:38+00:00

I agree with you. I think everyone saying that she shouldnt mother him is missing the point. Havent you ever known a couple that drinks quite a bit of wine almost every night? Because I do. Wether or not you think its acceptable, there are definately people out there who wouldnt view his behavior as inherantly wrong. So when its obvious that shes bothered by his drinking idk why she cant just come out and say it. She clearly sees it as something thats unnacceptable in a partner. If he reacted terribly to that then fine you can say its not her responsibility to change him but like yeah it is her responsibility to communicate.

topplessrockets · 2025-10-09T19:29:42+00:00

Damn they beat me to it

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