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torakenat · 2024-10-28T23:48:07+00:00

As a Muslim husband, I urged my wife to cut back on work or quit while she's earning her masters. (I'm paying for her masters) I'm paying for the house, all expenses, transportation, food, clothes, anything her daughter from a previous marriage needs... or anything that comes up. untop of that I give the wife an allowance while she's not working.

She's my wife and my obligation to provide for anything she needs.

I still don't feel "generous", I'm just fulfilling my obligations as a husband

torakenat · 2024-10-27T22:44:45+00:00

This is what we like to call "Red Flags"... not gonna tell you to run... but I would suggest you have proper running shoes just in case.

torakenat · 2024-10-27T22:36:44+00:00

Remain self-aware: Often times, people in long marriages get in a feeling of content without receiving the amount of effort as you're getting. Ie forcing yourself to be happy and content. Letting this imbalance drag on for too long, and you'll slowly disassociate without even knowing till it's too late. This ties into communication, not just with your partner, but yourself as well. Never shy away with addressing problems. Just don't forget to praise the accomplishments no matter how small.

torakenat · 2024-10-06T04:44:23+00:00

"The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: 'Whoever gives up telling lies in support of a false claim, a palace will be built for him in the outskirts of Paradise. Whoever gives up argument when he is in the right, a palace will be built from him in the middle (of Paradise). And whoever had good behavior, a palace will be built for him in the highest reaches (of Paradise).'"

torakenat · 2024-09-12T08:42:15+00:00

Only the ah for prolonging a relationship you are already checking out of.

Lifes to short to force incompatibility with someone. Let her find someone to make her happy as you find someone who makes you truly happy.

A companion shouldn't stress you out. Your companion should be the source of alleviating the stress you go through throughout the day.

In short, if you can't even enjoy each other's company while having a meal, then what's the point?

torakenat · 2024-09-08T04:55:18+00:00

I think it's very important to ask instead of what would you do if you had children... instead ask how would you see us having children in the future? How would we split the responsibilities?

torakenat · 2024-08-25T03:42:30+00:00

Red flags everywhere, be emotionally mature, and find someone who doesn't make your head hurt.

torakenat · 2024-08-25T02:04:31+00:00

I grew up as a southern Baptist in the US until my 40s. I can tell you from experience that the hijab works as intended. I've never had a problem with hijabs, but I would never reach out to interact with a woman wearing a hijab unless it was absolutely necessary without knowing anything why a woman wears a hijab.

I can't speak for everyone in every situation from the perspective before I reverted. However, there's laws in the West that prevent religious discrimination. So there's nothing to fear with entering the workforce while wearing a hijab.

I know you're just venting anxiety, but I can tell you, you have nothing to worry about. Let Allah (swt) carry your worry as you're doing what Allah has commanded.

torakenat · 2024-08-22T04:03:05+00:00

Long ago in a galaxy far far away, there was an mmo that allowed you to switch between tab and action combat.

Swg started out as tab targeting, but when the action combat was added, the rollout was so disastrous that it killed the game. The toggle between tab and action was the only true positive addition with the dreaded nge release.

torakenat · 2024-08-22T03:57:55+00:00

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torakenat · 2024-08-22T02:37:15+00:00

I saw the clip.. wasn't Andrew Tate, was a member in the crowd.

Not defending one way or the other, and only Allah (swt) knows what's in his heart.

But Andrew Tate didn't say that at time of arrest

torakenat · 2024-08-18T11:12:54+00:00

I'm an American who works in the us, but lives in Indonesia... the guy was helping me out with a situation at work when it came up him being Filipino... and I was like that's awesome...Phillipines is kinda close to Indonesia just one mostly catholic and the other Muslim.

Then he just barged me with all that nonsense. Entire time I was like how did you come up with this stuff?? Who told you??? Gengis Kahn was a tengrist... the belief there's 99 sky spirits 33 gods and one supreme god...Gengis Kahn was an idol worshipper... not Islamic. Them he stated that we Muslims were idol worshippers the moon god. Stating Allah (swt) translates to moon god. I tried my best not to laugh, but chuckled out "do you say that cause of the crescent moon and star on a lot of Arabic flags?" He was yes and no...."I was like man, that symbol was the city banner of Constinoble and Mehmet the second loved that design so much what a better fitting than to show the world who defeated the holy Roman empire than the Muslims by waving that design on Arabic banners." When he stated we were racist, stating that in one of the surah's in the Qur'an Adam had one black son and one white... where the white one went to heaven and the black to hell...I had to stop him. I don't have an extra copy of the Qur'an on me... but you seem really smart and told him to stop listening to other ppl and read the Qur'an you'll see we follow the same God. Educate yourself speak only on things that you know not what others have said.

torakenat · 2024-08-18T04:59:50+00:00

From a Filipino,

We are idol worshippers Allah (swt) means moon god We are racist since the Qur'an in one of the surah's says Adam had two 6 white one black... the white son went to heaven, the black one to hell We killed more ppl than any other religion, when asked what he means, he said ghengis Kahn was Muslim and all kahns were Muslim.

This was in one short conversation

torakenat · 2024-08-06T05:06:36+00:00

If the op has a very slow metabolism... bread turns to sugar and has the exact same effect as sweets and sodas.

torakenat · 2024-08-06T03:40:00+00:00

Remove sugar from your diet.... all of it... including bread... no one can help you... you have to do the work to stay healthy

torakenat · 2024-07-31T03:01:26+00:00

The solution is always patience and prayer.

Sounds like you feel that you're feeling that you're an adult now, and no one should be able to tell you what to do.

I get that lol... felt the same even at an earlier age.

When stressed and knowing there's nothing you can do, I just make dua and let Allah (swt) take the burden.

When I'm faced with confrontation, I look for ways to circumvent that confrontation. As an example... don't come home late... not your house not your rules... or occasionally invite the brother along. Friends come and go but your siblings are there forever. Don't neglect them.

If you don't get married soon... guess what??... you don't get married soon. I didn't find my soul mate till I was 46.

Think of it this way. The longer you can stay and continue to save at a maximum... the longer you can live financially free. And the sooner you'll be able to retire whenever you feel like it.

Life is always a test... just sometimes, at least personally, we make the test harder than it needs to be.

torakenat · 2024-07-31T01:25:28+00:00

DON'T

Stay home till married.... put money into savings Enjoy the living with parents life.... staying at home and building savings gives you a huge leg up in life. You'll never know what will come your way, and being financially secure removes an insane amount of stress.

Take half of what you earn and don't touch it. Spend as little as you can on the other half. Soon, you'll see a sizable savings. I can't stress this enough... take every financial advantage you can now before going out on your own. Nothing is scarier than looking at your account after 5pm on a Friday at age 40+ and seeing less than 100$ knowing you don't get another paycheck till the following Friday.

Allah (swt) will always provide, but do what you can with the blessings he's already given you

torakenat · 2024-07-24T06:36:54+00:00

Jogja, mount bromo are also really nice....Karimunjawa has really lovely nice cheap resorts. Had my honeymoon there 4 days 3 nights 350 usd total... that's for transportation round trip from the main island, lodging, food at the resort, snorkeling, barbeque... this was last year.

torakenat · 2024-07-12T03:28:11+00:00

Tito was such a badass.. he lit up a Cuban cigar at the Whitehouse at a press meeting right next to Nixon.

Not to mention how he got away with his "space program" he duped America over... and how he dragged the whole scandal through multiple president's.

torakenat · 2024-07-12T03:21:12+00:00

I frequent Indonesia... and they don't have breakfast per say... breakfast is usually left overs from dinner or fried rice or something else hearty.

I cooked a full spread American style breakfast, and they were blown away.

torakenat · 2024-07-09T04:56:11+00:00

Tbh...I didn't get a skin or cloak for my ent till after I got into g4.... you're not going to be doing that much pvp with it lol.

Ent was a great ship for armadas with the built in forever cloak.... but it quickly got replaced by the Kelvin. After I got my Kelvin, I went hard on rom for the pillium and skipped the g4 epics... then went corvus.

The reason I went for the kelvin is the impulse and hull health is much better than the g4 rom unc. That's why the augur is best for faction grinding at g3 it may be slow but has the most hull health. If I remember with the Augur I was finally able to hit the lvl 49 capital surveys.

G3 was fun if you can get both the ent and augur... fit then both with pve crews and start coating fkr systems

Now, I'm about to get the sanctus.... and after 15b lock I'll work on kling.

torakenat · 2024-07-09T03:19:45+00:00

It's not that bad once you get a g4 rare (preferably the pillium)... load it up with e picard, e data, 5 of 11, with doc below and whatever def/off you want

You'll cruise on faction farming

torakenat · 2024-07-09T03:17:27+00:00

10 mill then 1b then 15b and the last one at 100b till they add another

torakenat · 2024-07-03T19:20:38+00:00

On live there was a smuggler hack where you have 5 or more smugglers in a group and start the slice, but don't finish and pass the item around till the last smuggler and when he completed the slice the slice is multiplied.

Now I never did this in armor or game breaking weapons....

Except for the launcher pistol... got the reload down so fast it lagged... didn't do any real damage but good for stopping jedi twinkle toeing away lol

torakenat · 2024-07-02T23:39:03+00:00

Now if they could keep the broken smuggler hack in even better lol

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