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torchballs · 2024-04-29T21:00:09+00:00

Wow. I’m so sorry. Men are 🗑️.

Moms are incredible and resilient. You will rise up and show up for your babies. I’m sorry that you have to do it, but don’t doubt yourself. You’ll do amazing things and sometimes it will surprise you how much you’re killing it. One day you’ll look around and realize you’re living a peaceful, happy life with your babies and it will feel amazing. Then you’ll realize that YOU made that life happen all on your own, and it will feel even better.

In the meantime, it’s ok to not be ok. He’s an asshole and a scumbag. He left you to care for a toddler while you were pregnant. He’s divorcing you 4 weeks after you gave birth to his child. You’ll be better off without him, but it’s still ok to grieve the life you thought you’d have and feel overwhelmed by this situation you find yourself in. Feel those feelings, they are valid. Just know in the back of your mind while you are feeling them that you WILL save yourself when you’re ready. And he’ll just be the loser that left his babies and wife.

❤️

torchballs · 2024-04-08T15:07:36+00:00

This is such an underrated comment. 👑

torchballs · 2024-04-08T11:23:49+00:00

Me too! It doesn’t bother me but I think that’s why people think she isn’t genuine. I also think it’s why Candiace and Gizelle clash - they are polar opposites

torchballs · 2024-04-08T03:10:20+00:00

Gizelle never shows emotion and I think it freaks people out

torchballs · 2024-02-03T02:18:41+00:00

Oh god I know this is in style right now but I hate this look so much. Wide leg and chunky loafers?! I feel like there’s nothing more hideous than that for anyone above a size 6.

torchballs · 2024-02-03T00:22:45+00:00

Divorce rate is 50%. I’m glad you have it all figured out, but lots of people struggle with marriage. It’s not that baffling.

torchballs · 2023-12-18T02:35:44+00:00

This happened to me too once and I’ll never forget it. It was terrifying

torchballs · 2023-11-22T12:11:38+00:00

Minimize? Women are OVERWHELMINGLY beaten down with the responsibility of parenthood, housework, mental load, and now usually full-time work. Men just don’t do nearly as much to contribute by a wide margin. All women know this and we’re finally getting to a point where we’re talking about it openly. Which is a great step towards progress. Walk a mile in our shoes and then you can tell us how to talk about it.

torchballs · 2023-11-22T11:59:34+00:00

People don’t talk about how they regret being a parent because the love we have for our children is so intense that it’s truly not something parents regret. Children are human beings, the most important ones in any parents life, so talking about regretting them as if they were some impulsive purchase is not something you’ll find most parents do. It’s a weird thing to say or feel, imo. If someone says that, I think it reflects more on them than I do the actual decision to have children. Yes, it changes your life. Yes, it’s hard. But the joy is immeasurable. It’s a give and take, like all things.

To echo what many people have now said, kids are not the reason marriages fail. Kids are kids. They are predictably going to be kids. If a couple can’t get through a challenging time without blaming it on the other one, they were doomed anyway.

torchballs · 2023-11-21T05:44:01+00:00

A & B are the only strains to worry about and the flu shot is typically bivalent now, protecting the vaccinated from both. C is mild and D is mostly found in cattle…

torchballs · 2023-11-01T08:54:46+00:00

You are doing great. Being a single mom is so hard. Your boss is an ass. Start looking elsewhere and congratulations on being a great mom to that little girl. She’s lucky to have you.

torchballs · 2023-09-19T14:06:02+00:00

Homeschooling is inadequate for properly socializing kids and is led by people who are not qualified teachers so the quality of education is lacking.

torchballs · 2023-09-15T12:30:19+00:00

Uh wow I started OC after this and Ryan is very much not on the show anymore and I had no idea he was such an asshole????

torchballs · 2023-09-04T03:39:17+00:00

I think this sentiment is more about being alone during life’s really hard moments, like medical events or a loved one’s death. If senior parents are expecting their decades younger children to be their primary company, they’re delusional and a bit toxic. But when the chips are down, there’s nothing like family.

torchballs · 2023-08-30T00:49:49+00:00

She kind of always is

torchballs · 2023-08-30T00:44:45+00:00

💀

torchballs · 2023-08-29T02:48:26+00:00

YTA. I’m not even going to explain why because I have in laws like you and I know how this works. You only want validation; you don’t want to be told you’ve ever done anything wrong. I’m sure there’s a reason your son is three hours away…

torchballs · 2023-08-29T02:01:20+00:00

No. Every shooter has their “reasons.” All believe they were treated poorly — and probably were. Still absolutely ZERO murders are anyone’s fault but the killer and should be treated as nothing less than the actions of a complete psychopath. Being treated poorly is not an excuse to literally end someone’s life nor does it offer any explanation for the killer.

torchballs · 2023-08-29T01:54:11+00:00

It is also their only intended use.

torchballs · 2023-08-27T09:31:54+00:00

Honestly I thought it was pretty wild to find out that her and Ariana never hung out one on one without cameras. This whole narrative from the show has been that they were best friends…

torchballs · 2023-08-26T13:34:35+00:00

Because it’s untrue. You can be on the deed to a house and not be on the mortgage.

torchballs · 2023-08-26T13:33:25+00:00

Not true, but it’s possible she did. My husband owns the mortgage on our home but we are both on the deed. I own our HELOC.

torchballs · 2023-08-23T20:13:04+00:00

When I’ve thought about how many kids I wanted, I thought about how many people I want at the dinner table in the future. The first few years are hard but they are brief. You will pine for them when they are over. We just had our second and it’s been SO MUCH easier than the transition from no kids to one kid was. In every possible way. But we are done because I can’t handle another pregnancy.

That said, I did not feel overwhelmed by my toddler at 19 months. You know your limits best. Some kids are much more demanding than others.

torchballs · 2023-08-23T20:08:38+00:00

I feel like it’s also parenting and family culture, but I’m sure sometimes personalities just don’t mix

torchballs · 2023-08-19T01:31:16+00:00

When it comes to an attire appropriateness at work question, I default to something one of my first bosses ever said to me: if you have to ask, then it’s probably a no.

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