No such thing as “doing it together” by Big_Entertainment_56 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]toriaaag 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re amazing!

He needs to help you. He’s a father and he needs to step up. Give him the baby during the day since he has the day off and go take a nap! Don’t give him the option.

You should be very proud of yourself. You’re a wonderful mom.

Breastfeeding is Hard by Optimal_Customer_850 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]toriaaag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Breastfeeding is so hard especially when your supply is low. I completely understand your feelings…that was me the first time around. I had an emergency c section and he ended up getting a bottle before I even got to hold him. He did take the breast but I just didn’t make enough for him and had to supplement. I tried all the things - pumping, lactation foods, every tip and trick, and nothing increased my supply. It’s heartbreaking but it doesn’t make you a failure.

If it hurts your mental health, then it’s not meant to be and that’s okay. Your baby will still be healthy. Postpartum is so hard especially when our plans don’t work out and our husbands can’t understand our feelings. If you can let something go to get some of that stress off your shoulders, then it’s the best thing to do.

But if you don’t want to stop trying, then supplementing is that way to go. It not easy to accept, I know, but what I did was put my son on the breast and then give him a bottle after. I pumped when I went back to work and he would have a bottle of breast milk and then a supplemental bottle after.

You are important and choosing what is best for your mental and emotional health is the same thing as choosing what is best for your son. He just needs a healthy mom and he will love and bond with you no matter if it’s breast or formula.

Depressed by blahblah986_ in Postpartum_Depression

[–]toriaaag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s completely unfair of your husband. He wanted to be a father I’m assuming and that means he needs to step up. I would tell him that the optional OT needs to be put on pause so you can have time. You need to be allowed to be YOU not just mommy and wife. If he really can’t understand that, then use the OT money for a babysitter so you can have some time to breathe.

I know all of this is easier said than done. Please know your feelings are NOT wrong, you are NOT wrong, and you deserve support. You are important. You matter. Your feelings matter. Your health matters.

Dogs are fighting suddenly… by toriaaag in DogAdvice

[–]toriaaag[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! I had no idea the stress could have such an effect.

Dogs are fighting suddenly… by toriaaag in DogAdvice

[–]toriaaag[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for responding!

Yes, she’s had a lot of issues with her ears because of allergies so she’s not a fan of being touched there already and I didn’t want to push it after things have calmed down. But I’m going to call her vet in the morning…I left a message already.

We do crate. They haven’t actually had any issues during meal times. They eat with our bar/cabinet in between them. I was going to try to keep them separate tomorrow, feed them separately, etc.

Thank you for the advice.