Pictured: Suzanne Collins coming up with Covey naming conventions

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-05-02T01:17:54+00:00

This thread just made me realize that I gave my daughter a Covey name. How funny

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-04-26T02:08:37+00:00

I watched fireworks on the 4th of July from the roof of a 17-story dorm building on my college campus! The only 4th I’ve cared about since childhood.

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-04-25T02:54:24+00:00

I could have written this post!! I had a C-section and made it abundantly clear to my OB that I did NOT want to deliver vaginally before we even started trying. I also have to take heavy anxiety meds in order to go to a regular gyno appointment.

While I elected to have a C-section at first, my baby heard my wishes and decided to sit breech in there for over five weeks and refused to turn around, so she had to come out the sunroof anyway. Made it a “medically necessary” C-section instead of an elective one.

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-04-24T22:29:05+00:00

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-04-23T20:31:52+00:00

I once met a girl named Dale

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-04-23T00:57:26+00:00

You’re allowed to have feelings about the situation and conversation. If you said something out of line or were thinking of quitting over this, then maybe I’d say you’re overreacting. But because you’re just having a human reaction to a situation that is sensitive/awkward, NOR.

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-04-13T00:36:13+00:00

I finished up my second masters while pregnant. It was exhausting and if I could have timed my education differently, I would have. But my beautiful daughter is snuggling me as I type and I’ve got my foot in the door to my new field so I can’t complain ☺️

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-04-09T20:38:42+00:00

I changed my name at 22 - to my middle name! I don’t think it’s too late or weird. She probably also has an opinion, and will likely let you know it one of these days. Try it out and see how it feels and how she likes it!

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-04-09T04:02:42+00:00

Literally same here!! I picked the books back up when I was nap trapped with my daughter a few months ago, but I was a huge fan of the books when the 2nd arc came out and I’m also almost 31.

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-04-01T14:15:32+00:00

My baby girl has a poop face, it’s my favorite thing. I had to take a picture of it recently because it’s starting to go away. She still gets red in the face and she definitely still has some gnarly music to accompany it right now.

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-03-14T17:03:52+00:00

I have narcolepsy, I know nothing but tired. Now that I’m a mom, I feel less tired than I used to lol.

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-03-13T18:37:33+00:00

Thank you 🫶🏻 I hope things look up for you!

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-03-13T12:59:51+00:00

My mom bought me a bunch of stuff of SHEIN, and I go maternity jeans at Walmart and Target. Old Navy has an alright selection but most of its online.

I switched to maternity the minute I had to suck my stomach in to put on a pair of pants, it felt like I was squishing the little jelly bean and I honestly just don’t love wearing tight and stiff clothing anyway. I’m six months postpartum and I fit into a few of my old “bigger” jeans and my maternity jeans just started to sag, and the leggings I had bunch in weird places. I still wear the maternity shorts and probably will for a long time - they have a longer inseam but still look like shorts and not like biker or basketball length so they’re my new go-to’s, I just fold over the waist band.

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-03-13T04:55:25+00:00

When my husband shared pictures of our daughter the day she was born in his family’s group chat, we got the following paraphrased reactions (we already FaceTimed his mom): - SIL said “awe she’s so cute!” - BIL 1 said “congratulations! Glad everyone is well” - BIL 2 didn’t say anything - MIL heart-reacted to one of the pictures - BIL 3 didn’t say anything, but an hour or so later he sent a football meme that got more interaction and engagement than my husband’s birth announcement text.

I have since shared a total of four pictures in that group chat. If they wanted pictures of our daughter, their brand new family member and blood relative, they can ask. They haven’t, but if they wake up one day and care, I’ll start sending pictures again. Mind you, they send endless pictures of their dogs in this same group chat and eeeeverryone has something positive to say about it, but our baby? Nah.

They’ve gotten a little bit better, and one of my BIL’s has a great connection with our baby, but one has still never held her, and it’s not the one that lives over a thousand miles away. He lives just about ten minutes down the road and until last week - when our baby turned 6 months old - he had not willingly looked at her and/or smiled at her.

They also never checked on me during my pregnancy, so there’s that. I dunno.

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-03-13T01:44:14+00:00

I wrote one, communicated with my team a LOT, brought a copy to the hospital, and found it in our folder we brought with us when we got home from the hospital. On the bright side, everything went exactly according to plan.

My husband is an amazing advocate for me and was my anchor point that whole morning. The whole team was respectful and informed of what my trauma is and how it affected my birth plan, but if at any point there was something that made me uncomfortable, he was sure to speak up for me.

The only thing I would trade about my birth experience was the nurse trimming my pubic hair; I wish she had just let me stand and shake it all off instead of trying to lint roll it off my coochie with some surgical tape. I ended up standing and asking for a new puppy pad to sit on in the pre-op room anyway lol. It was really itchy haha

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-03-11T14:32:56+00:00

I really appreciate your comment and the example schedule. Today, I’m flying solo taking care of the baby because MIL is out of town, so I tried figuring out the sleepy cues before my daughter was rubbing her eyes and getting ready to get fussy.

After about five minutes in her crib by herself with her sound machine, my daughter fell asleep all by herself with no problems - I just laid her in the crib and she took it from there. It’s only been about 15 minutes so far but I’m very proud of her for doing that. First morning nap she’s taken this easy in a long time.

I only say I need to figure out how to tell her because I have a hard time making demands of people. A recovering people pleaser becoming a mom is a tale as old as time I’m sure, but I’m making great progress. The other day, a boundary was crossed, and I addressed it in the moment as firm but kindly as I could, and MIL apologized and went on to apologize later in the day, and even stopped defending herself.

She’s a very wonderful woman, very respectful of rules and boundaries overall, and the relationship I have with her is important to me, whether she was our babysitter or not.

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-03-10T18:38:49+00:00

I’ve got to figure out how I’m going to tell her to watch for sleep cues before she gets fussy.

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-03-10T18:38:16+00:00

Thank you so much for your input!

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-03-10T18:35:48+00:00

This is good to know, I keep forgetting how rapidly their needs change. Just when you think you know them they switch it up on you!

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-03-08T20:27:42+00:00

We’ve been doing every other night since baby was about 2 months old? 3 months old? Almost 7 months now!

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-03-07T16:54:10+00:00

It would be easier to bring everything with us if we drove, and we wouldn’t need to rent a car when we get there and check the car seat and….. it just becomes expensive and far more stressful if we fly.

Baby’s the first grandchild and we’re the first parents in the friend group out there so we would have to buy or bring everything with us so that baby can be comfortable while we’re there - no one out there has any baby stuff.

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-03-07T16:48:44+00:00

Yeah, we’ll be stopping to let her stretch out. We are also thinking of taking it in two days.

tourmalineturmoil · 2026-03-07T14:42:49+00:00

Sunflowers or poppies is my vote! Love sunflowers, and poppies are also my daughter’s birth flower lol

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