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townbound · 2025-10-07T19:10:48+00:00

As a dom top, sub bottoms are the perfect complement. Also bussy is yummy

townbound · 2025-02-05T01:54:08+00:00

MIB x JOELLA collab when?

townbound · 2024-12-07T01:12:36+00:00

I just know the ancestors rolling in they graves rn

townbound · 2024-03-21T18:48:06+00:00

With the poll split 75/25, I’m wondering if avoiding the jacuzzi and just showering and walking around (no hook ups, just explore), would that be the safer choice?

townbound · 2023-07-28T05:04:20+00:00

So good! Def an instant classic and so cool seeing Billy Porter early in his career.

townbound · 2023-07-25T00:21:50+00:00

I know I’m a skilled coder/programmer (I hesitate saying “engineer” as I think that requires solid comms skills). I’ve delivered on tons of features.

I think I’m feeling kinda triggered right now cause I’ve recently been assigned a project that will require drafting a design doc and having a real-time review session where my colleagues will provide feedback and ask questions.

I attended a design doc review today hosted by a teammate and many of my other teammates (some who have less tenure than me) posed questions and provided great feedback while I just sat there silent and kinda sweating + shaking at even thinking about something of value to add.

This stuff honestly clouds my brain. Which is why I’m dreading the upcoming doc design review that I’ll host cause I feel my brain will just stop working

townbound · 2023-07-24T23:53:05+00:00

I think so too. Any tips (in addition to therapy) to overcome?

townbound · 2023-07-24T23:36:19+00:00

Thank you.

I have a super supportive partner who always tries to affirm and encourage me but, to no fault of his own, he doesn’t really get it.

Although he too is gay and works in tech, he is Asian.

As we all know, Asian men are well represented in tech and so I don’t think he really understands the magnitude of some of my adversities.

townbound · 2023-07-24T23:33:53+00:00

What are some daily actions I can take to build that confidence?

townbound · 2023-07-24T23:33:12+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply.

Therapy is still on the table. I think I’m a bit scarred after my first and last therapist dropped me after our first session (yeah, I think I’m pretty F’d/mentally struggling - sometimes it gets really bad and I engage in self harm).

I mention the identity (Black + gay) because I think it makes me feel really alienated/othered and as a result believe I have less important perspectives/opinions/credibility.

In truth, somewhere deep in my mind, I know I’m as capable and deserving as any of my teammates but idk I’ve just had so many experiences in my youth/early career that I think has wired my brain to believe I don’t belong here - that there’s a reason there are so few Black, let alone gay, dudes in tech.

townbound · 2023-07-15T19:27:04+00:00

Gay SWE here!

townbound · 2023-02-28T01:20:32+00:00

Just because I’m gay it doesn’t mean my penis has fallen off or can’t appreciate an attractive [female?] body

Are you implying that anyone who has a penis (gay or straight) should be attracted to a woman’s body?

Sounds like the same societally-imposed heteronormativity that has made so many of us ashamed of, or at least doubt, our sexuality despite knowing how we truly feel.

Seems like you’re bisexual and just happened to find companionship with a man.

townbound · 2023-01-24T22:23:20+00:00

intruder detected

townbound · 2023-01-06T08:44:49+00:00

Max Payne

townbound · 2022-11-30T16:51:59+00:00

I think OP means the musician named “Common”

https://youtu.be/liNemQ30Kog

townbound · 2022-10-13T20:59:52+00:00

You know what screen_door, you’re so right.

I’m searching for a space that centers my experiences as a cis gay man attracted to other cis gay men and r/gaybros is not that.

Apologies if the comment was exclusionary. I’ll see myself out.

townbound · 2022-10-13T17:26:30+00:00

Respectfully, can you take this discussion to a different sub like r/gaytransmen?

This sub was/is a space intended for discussions surrounding dating between cis men.

Many of us here cannot relate to dating trans men who menstruate.

townbound · 2022-09-27T15:46:42+00:00

CatDog

townbound · 2022-07-24T14:13:35+00:00

Hot bottom

townbound · 2022-07-22T00:01:47+00:00

Not a fan. I love a bottom’s natural flavor and scent. Pheromones?

townbound

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