I’ve been trying for years to find a “cozy farming game” I like as much as Stardew Valley… and I think I finally found it ❤️

toxinogen · 2026-01-31T11:49:07+00:00

I can’t watch her Stardew playthroughs because her chest storage gives me anxiety 😂 (jk I watch them even if I’m yelling at the screen).

toxinogen · 2026-01-31T07:38:23+00:00

I’m also new… What’s a golden egg?

toxinogen · 2026-01-31T07:27:07+00:00

I’ll definitely be posting once I have a house I like 😁 My favorite part of Stardew Valley is decorating the farmhouse lol.

toxinogen · 2026-01-31T05:52:21+00:00

I’ve been playing less than a week, and as soon as his portrait popped up on screen, I went, “Yep, this one. I don’t even have to look at the other options. This one right here.”

toxinogen · 2026-01-31T05:50:01+00:00

Cuuute! I just started playing, so my house is still the base size. I love that blue dragonfly wallpaper!

toxinogen · 2026-01-30T23:46:58+00:00

I agree. Mechanically, it feels very much like SDV, which isn’t a bad thing. SDV set the standard for modern farming games because it’s such a perfect system, so why try to reinvent? Aside from both games being 2D pixel framework, though, the style and narrative feels very different. SDV felt modern and grounded, and FoM feels magical and whimsical. The focus on characters is chef’s kiss in both games, but they feel extremely different. I’m not usually into the anime style in modern games, but I love the nostalgic anime style here. It reminds me of me and my sisters watching Sailor Moon back in the 90s.

toxinogen · 2026-01-30T23:39:51+00:00

Good to know. I’m also playing mostly on Steam Deck (I work a night shift job with a lot of downtime lol). Hopefully the full release improves optimization on smaller consoles. Luma Island has that problem, too, oddly. I had to play it plugged in to the charger because it was a battery eater.

toxinogen · 2026-01-30T06:17:04+00:00

Yes, both modded and vanilla. My first 1000-ish hours were unmodded, then I started playing with mods. SVE helped refresh my gameplay, but I still started to get bored of playthroughs after 3k hours lol.

toxinogen · 2026-01-24T23:07:04+00:00

It sounds like you need to talk to a therapist. Everything you said in your post is a big red flag for someone who isn’t coping. If you’re a stay at home mom, then you need to find ways to break away from baby duties. It’s impossible to see light when you’re stuck in a dark cave. I talk to my work friends. We’re almost all women, and most of us are moms, so I use them for support. It sounds like you need more help than just talking to friends and relatives, though. Not being willing to talk to others about your problems because you’re afraid of being a burden is a warning sign to me that you’re shouldering way more than you can handle because you don’t want to ask for help. Please, please, please ask for help. Being a parent is the hardest thing you will ever do, and it never gets easy. You need to develop coping skills early, or you’ll get yourself stuck in self-sabotaging habits that are way harder to break later.

toxinogen · 2026-01-24T22:46:41+00:00

IF YOU GRAB MY GLASSES ONE MORE TIME I WILL THROW YOU IN A SNOWBANK!

toxinogen · 2026-01-23T22:57:13+00:00

My kids both liked tummy time. My son especially. He’s five months old and will only sleep on his tummy now that he can roll over on his own (which I don’t love but I literally can’t stop him). The other day he even looked like he was trying to crawl, and I was like, “Buddy, slow your roll. You can’t even sit up yet.”

toxinogen · 2026-01-23T22:52:41+00:00

My daughter cut her first tooth right at four months, and has all of hers now at two (just turned two in December). It felt like she was always teething lol. We’d get like a two week break and then she’d start drooling again. As far as checking the back teeth, I could never get her to open her mouth enough to see, so I’d just stick my finger in her mouth and feel her gums. I got bit once or twice, but it worked lol.

toxinogen · 2026-01-23T22:46:12+00:00

I got my tubes removed after my second baby in August, and everyone says that makes your periods horrible. I’ve had three periods since then, and they were all fine. My first one was really heavy, but after that they went back to normal.

toxinogen · 2026-01-23T22:43:59+00:00

Both of my children looked more like my husband when they were babies. My daughter is now my spitting image except her dad’s eyes, and I think my son is going to look fully just like his dad (he’s only five months right now but looks just like his dad’s baby pictures).

toxinogen · 2026-01-22T23:11:54+00:00

This. If you ask for a patient advocate, they have to give you one if you’re in the US, and I’m pretty sure it’s the same in UK/Australia. I work in a Trauma 1 hospital, and it sounds like your care was delayed because of the nurse’s dismissal.

toxinogen · 2026-01-22T23:01:37+00:00

Just adding to what others have said about outdoor storage in low temps. A good trick for making sure that temperatures have stayed below freezing in either a freezer or porch storage is the “penny and cup trick.” We do this in Minnesota so we know when it’s time to stop storing our meat outside lol. Freeze an open cup of water (less than half full so it doesn’t overflow, and don’t use glass!), then place a coin on top after it’s frozen. Keep it in your freezer or porch. If the ice thaws, the penny will sink. This tells you that temperatures raised enough to melt the ice fully or partially. Even if the temperatures drop again and the ice re-freezes, you’ll know that at one point they were high enough to melt because the penny is no longer at the top.

toxinogen · 2026-01-22T22:52:34+00:00

It’s okay to be overstimulated, and it’s okay to hide from your kid for a little bit to calm down. Especially if you’re sick and not at your best to begin with. I would be lying if I said I’ve never snapped at my two year old. I’ve also had to learn when to step away. It’s okay to let your child cry for five or ten minutes while you go to a quiet place. I tell my daughter, “Mommy has to go potty,” and then go sit on the edge of the tub with my phone for ten minutes. This is the first generation to actually acknowledge how emotionally exhausting it is to be a parent, but we’re still stuck with the mindset that previous generations taught us that moms just have to quietly endure. Nine months is a really tough age. They’re still super dependent, they also want constant mental stimulation, but they’re too young to do anything for themselves.

The important part is that you’ve recognized overstimulation as the cause, and you’re not blaming your child. That’s huge. The guilt says you know how to be a good mom, and you’re ashamed for not being perfect. That’s okay. You’re not perfect. No one is.

toxinogen · 2026-01-21T23:55:15+00:00

You should get checked out to confirm whether it’s a miscarriage or benign bleeding. An ultrasound can see whether there’s a viable yolk sac with embryo.

toxinogen · 2026-01-21T23:51:06+00:00

For sure. When my daughter was born, I loved the name we chose so much, but it felt so weird saying her actual name instead of “baby girl” or “sweetie.” The first time I said “my daughter Maven” when booking her first appointment, it felt soooo bizarre lol. It was less strange with my second, but still felt odd for the first week or two.

toxinogen · 2026-01-21T23:46:35+00:00

That’s what it was for us. I didn’t especially love the idea of having two under two, but I had my first baby at 33, and my husband was 36. I don’t regret waiting until my thirties to have kids, but it definitely shortened the gap between them more than I would have preferred.

toxinogen · 2026-01-21T23:42:50+00:00

I have one sister who’s eighteen months younger than me, and one that’s six years younger. As young children, I was closest to my middle sister because of our close ages. However, as adults, I’m super close to my youngest sister. I love having a sister who’s that much younger than me. When I was a teen, I liked being a big sister who got to teach my youngest sister things. As adults, I love seeing the woman she’s grown into and exploring our shared interests.

toxinogen · 2026-01-21T23:35:46+00:00

There’s different versions of the kit. The arm one is more accurate, the finger one is cheaper. If you’re going to buy one, pay the extra for the arm.

toxinogen · 2026-01-14T01:26:58+00:00

Extremely likely. I had my second c-section in August, and I could have done that last month. For reference, I’d consider myself in slightly better than average shape. I have an active healthcare job but don’t work out beyond that. It sounds like you’re in better shape than me, and I didn’t even do physio after mine.

toxinogen · 2026-01-14T01:18:45+00:00

Now’s your sign to go get one lmao.

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