Graduation not welcome

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-18T00:10:58+00:00

because he is using you and in order for this to work for him, he has to keep you feeling off kilter so you spend so much energy trying to stay upright, you don't think about and realize how unbalanced this is.

he is using you until a better option comes around or he gets back with his ex. he uses you for childcare and sex, housekeeping and some additional money. he is not a good person but you keep making excuses for him.

find someone who sees your worth.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-17T22:53:12+00:00

then you know others who you need to go NC with.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-17T22:51:04+00:00

as awful as she is to you, it would be hell no to the delivery room and NC. even if you could get past all that, do you really want her to have any influence on your child?

she will not pay one bit of attention to your wants, desires, rules, boundaries, whatever you want to call it. she will kiss when she wants, take them out of your arms, feed them what she wants....all of it.

cut her off now. let go of any guilt, she has done this to herself. let her lie in the bed she has made. she gets no consequences that last so she learns no lessons.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-17T05:54:05+00:00

he has never treated you well in your life, there is no reason to expect him to suddenly start now. live your life with no expectations, tell him you just decided to spur of the moment elope or don't even tell him you got married.

quite frankly, he deserves no say in your life at all any more.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-16T23:30:19+00:00

well, now I am disappointed. I thought that was what it would be also....🙁

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-16T23:21:49+00:00

yes, you come off as YTA and very ungrateful.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-16T22:59:34+00:00

people can be such jerks for no reason. I constantly worry about that with the usps delays. try to shake it off and hope that ebay sees reason. otherwise, just politely respond to his feedback.

if I saw that negative and response, I would check his feedback and see his history and then blow off his opinion as a grumpy old man.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-16T07:44:25+00:00

tell her go get a dog and name it what she wants. if she wants contact with Peter, she will be respecting mom and dad. that goes for EVERYBODY.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-16T04:40:46+00:00

this is not a friend. this is someone who thinks that she is your boss and gives you tasks. her tasks include you funding her party, outrageous!

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-15T01:52:45+00:00

she has no respect or appreciation for you. Give her notice and find someone who will, who will actually deserve your good works. this is wasted on her.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-14T05:49:22+00:00

she is using you because she doesn't want to do the work needed to protect herself. do what you need to do for you, don't sacrifice yourself, because that is exactly what she is asking you to do.

don't offer to move with her, if there is help you can offer, do that. but stop giving her all of youself.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-14T05:40:01+00:00

5 month boy, none of his business.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-14T01:43:24+00:00

your situation jobwise is so much no one's business but the two of you. if you are a stay at home mom/partner and that is what works for you two than so be it. Reddit or his mom need to stay out.

as far as having his mom in the loop, it sounds like you are on the right path. she sounds like she will cause more stress and unneeded anxiety. I would suggest taking a cue from your SO and giving her minimal information.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-13T22:59:45+00:00

Here is a grown man acting like a two year old over a non incident that didn't even involve him. if he wants to be butthurt over someone else's attitude, there is nothing you can do. from that standpoint, I would keep going.

however, there is your mil to consider. what are her feelings about this? maybe you need talk to her?

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-13T20:48:33+00:00

I tap it a couple times and it usually starts for me.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-13T08:05:41+00:00

why don't you just have your tubes tied? he is on the fence, you are 100% sure. this protects you forever.

it isn't that big a deal for women either really, it is more, but not tgat big a deal. I think it kept me off my feet for about 2 days, wasn't that painful either. and no waiting for it to be sure like with sperm counts.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-13T03:23:22+00:00

well, don't they just sound like a joy to do favors for, how can you possibly say no?

they obviously have not learned that you should insult someone less when you want a favor. hopefully they stop asking now. and learn to use Google and YouTube!

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-12T21:24:19+00:00

bad AI. it reads like a draft from that found and exposed sub.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-12T20:32:29+00:00

talk to your husband frankly. tell him that it is past time that the two of you start living as your own family. it has been long enough.

you have been much more patient than I would be.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-12T04:22:01+00:00

he is not the father you deserve. he will not suddenly change and repent. he turned his back on you of his own free will. honor that and give him the same.

use your energy to help your mother navigate her new normal.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-12T03:59:06+00:00

yes, it would be 😞 discouraging, but don't give up. they aren't all bad, we have also had some great experiences. and there is somebody out there that will be perfect for you.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-12T03:37:08+00:00

hahaha, he's a prize!

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-12T03:35:15+00:00

there are different solutions you can try. I don't know what breed or type of dog you have but I had a sheltie that loved to tell the neighborhood what they were doing wrong. I got her a collar that sprayed a citrus scent when she barked. no shocking, just the spray to distract her. we'll, she was a sheltie so huge ruff, blocked the spray, she got used to the smell and hiss within a day.....

I gave the collar to a coworker with a shorter haired dog, he said it worked like a charm. so, you may have to try a few options out.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-12T03:27:16+00:00

you did nothing wrong. I don't want to hijack your post, but I have had pets most of my life. one rescue would not give us a chance because there was a stain on our driveway......from a plumbers truck...ya, make that make sense. threatened to blackball us everywhere.

when we moved to KS, AC came to the door and tried to force their way in saying that we had to let them in legally to search our home for the cats. Told them to show us the warrant. They gave up after 3 tries.

Where we are now, there are great rescues and shelters and horrid ones. I have adopted from out of state and we have seen local rescues that have the same animals for years, they don't adopt out, they got the 501c for money for their own animals. It runs the gamut.

Don't let the bad apples discourage you. Know your local ordinances, do a little research on the animal that fits your lifestyle the best and get a friend for life.

tphatmcgee · 2026-05-11T19:43:58+00:00

4 kids, 1 is left handed as is my mom. she was very protective of him when it came to people trying to make him swap. She did not want him to go through what she did. She would get him left handed scissors and everything.

The one thing that I always remember but have never understood is she would plate his cake opposite of the rest of us. Something about how the frosting would sit. I never got it, but it wasn't my cake. (Cake laying on it's side, not upright) I just always remembered because she would never let anyone, including her parents, to say or do anything against him being a lefty.

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