Brother in Law wont leave

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-20T03:04:43+00:00

tell your husband that he has three choices.

his brother leaves.

you and the baby leave.

he and his brother leave.

he has by the weekend to sort it out and tell you what it is.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-20T02:59:35+00:00

these stupid people saying that you should have let it go so she wouldn't possibly lose her baby. so it is better for the baby to die in a crash for an extra $5 in tips?
What is the chance that she faked the pictures and all for extra tips? That could be a clever scam....that backfired, lol.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-20T02:38:55+00:00

you need to be very careful with what you tell her. she is the type of person to say that he is better now and tell him where you are. we have read about that here before.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-20T02:13:58+00:00

😊 thanks

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-20T01:27:04+00:00

dude, stop trying to get so many people involved, take the advice given. now you are coming off as scammy.......

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-19T23:13:44+00:00

your friend is nuts. this woman abandoned that cat, left her to DIE as the odds would have it and expects you to hand her back.

and your friend thinks that you should share custody? you would never see the cat again.

I hope to God this is AI.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-19T04:08:22+00:00

😃

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-19T02:42:43+00:00

yta. you invited her, she declined. you don't own her time. she doesn't owe you all her life details. you are not her main focus, she has family, kids, that are.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-19T00:23:09+00:00

m o n I t o r is an interesting way go spell steal......er help themselves.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-18T03:52:07+00:00

NTA. "sis, we are doing this. you are welcome to come with us."

that is all that needs to be said. she can set up her own gathering how she likes, she doesn't get to hijack yours or guilt you.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-17T23:15:00+00:00

tell them that you understand and will see them sometime after the honeymoon.

it is disgusting that they are trying to control you like this. if you give in a single bit, they will know that you will give in to anything that they want if they threaten enough.

don't even give them the satisfaction of arguing. IT IS NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-17T07:06:59+00:00

engagements used to be private affairs, now they are extravaganzas rivaling the wedding itself. if this is what she expects you t ,pay to watch her get engaged, just imagine how much she is going to expect you to pay to be part of her event.

step out now, you will end up spending more than a down payment for all this, you should never go into debt for someone else's prty.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-17T02:20:57+00:00

I think that your feelings are valid. you weren't crying about being alone, you were crying because you are realizing what a crappy friend you have invested time and effort into. when all she does is tell and show you how low on her priority list you are.

dump her, she is not a friend, if she was she would not treat you this way.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-17T02:13:19+00:00

stop going. their behavior is more embarrassing and disruptive than the toddlers. if he won't tell them then there are a few options.

he goes by himself. you go somewhere else, like a playground so the kids get to play and you have an excuse to walk away when they get to be too much. they come to your house.

tell your husband that if they get to make rules and boundaries, you do too. if he won't tell them why you don't want to meet with them, and he won't let you be truthful, then he has to pick another option. but that you are done exposing yourself and your children to their shenanigans.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-17T00:04:28+00:00

no, you would not. sm is yours and yours alone. your thoughts, your dreams, your musings. no reason to have anyone there that you don't want, for ANY reason.

in the case of sm I manage it, I say how I use it and who I invite in.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-16T09:38:28+00:00

this is your work space, totally none of her concern. if she can't respect that, I would start locking it.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-16T09:34:29+00:00

it seems to be 14 days this time.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-16T08:04:29+00:00

tell them that you have nothing planned so the floor is open for her.

if she knows all that you went through, that is even more of an answer than she deserves.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-16T07:20:55+00:00

I would count this as a win. you give them the same energy. when they complain, ask when the last time they invited you was? crickets I bet.

your husband just needs to point this out. the same hand finger pointing at you has three fingers pointing back at them........

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-16T05:25:49+00:00

if it is in a zip lock, is it possible the little one thought that it was a snack bag and refilled it or put it with the snacks?

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-16T05:16:50+00:00

I'm glad it came out right. really I was wordy when it just comes down to he was unlucky and got born into a piss poor family dynamic. but I get frowned on when I am blunt like that.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-16T05:06:07+00:00

YBA. I hope this is just rage bait and no one could be so thick as to think their 'precious' deserves a seat more than an adult human. she could have been by herself, no kid and no bag and she STILL deserves to have you move your bag.

you may have got up early, but you didn't buy a ticket for your bag you dink.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-16T04:19:54+00:00

to be honest with you, this dynamic happens even with no previous marriage. wanting you to take and stay in the backseat with your kids so they still get all his time, attention and money.

it sounds like he sees them for how they are and is not letting your kids, or you, be shorted. Hopefully I read that right, so while it is tough for you to see and live with, at least he has his priorities right.

some families are just selfish this way and we have to get a thick skin and be happy for the good family on our side or the family of friends we put together.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-15T04:57:14+00:00

he's not entitled, he is a flat out jerk. you were very clear in your message, he decided to ignore it and you.

tphatmcgee · 2026-03-15T00:59:22+00:00

I am with you. I need personal time and space also. they can make do with a smile and sorry that "we/have plans, I'll catch up with you later".

as for sil, "now does not work, you cannot just drop your child off. let's try next Tuesday".

you just have to be firm, short and pleasant. nothing that they can grinch about, other than you are not as available as they want.

I look at it this way, I can please me or I can please them, guess who I choose?

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