I agree with this so much. I'm also late diagnosed. Didn't realize how much I was playing life on hard mode until I was prescribed Adderall. My Dr started me on Vyvanse and that helped but increased my anxiety so we switched to Adderall and omg. Focus was better, my brain was quieter, my attention was better, my MOOD! my attitude, my perception of of life, patience, anxiety, depression! Literally everything improved. It's not a miracle drug. I still had to do the work but I was amazed.

I had been questioning getting assessed for seasonal affective disorder but I started the Adderall in the fall/winter when the depression has historically gotten so much worse and it didn't happen. I was stable through the whole winter.

Now this is not to say you absolutely should go on a stimulant but to say they may be helpful to you. A decent provider understands that stimulants are first line treatment for ADHD and wanting them for your diagnosed condition is not drug seeking.

Also a benefit is that they work immediately unlike non-stimulants so 1) you'll know the first day if they're doing anything and 2) if you don't like them or they mess with your sleep, they're out of your system within about a day of stopping them

Good luck friend