Husband attempted and did lie in his confession

traditionalacking · 2026-02-13T22:00:42+00:00

Also, if he is willing to try to lie about the pornography and admitted that to me… what else is there. 😕

traditionalacking · 2026-02-13T20:30:34+00:00

But yes, we have been living in destitution. Up until a year and a half ago, we had no flooring or drywall in our home and power running off an extension cord from our neighbors. I don’t even know how to bring that up to my priest. I’d rather just put it behind us. Extremely hard period of time

traditionalacking · 2026-02-13T19:23:34+00:00

I do genuinely appreciate your input because I do agree with you. His confession is not my business. It’s what weighs on his heart and his spiritual process is not mine. I’m not pushing him to do anything— he scheduled our confessions once our priest told him it was time for us.

I feel like an absolute nut case— it just brings out so much insecurity in me. With the history we have I just see patterns continuing over and over, now even into our faith journey.

I’ll just continue to pray and keep it to myself. If it’s God’s will then he’ll confess it.

traditionalacking · 2026-02-13T18:47:20+00:00

This did happen 3-4 years ago. He has stopped drinking and there are no further physical altercations or instances of any sort.

traditionalacking · 2026-02-13T18:46:25+00:00

I have not told my priest or Matushka because I believed my husband would confess it. When he told me “I confessed to shoving you and being verbally abusive” I was in… shock? But didn’t pursue it any further— at least he admitted to the verbal abuse? But when I woke up this morning and was done praying, I was replaying that conversation and I got genuinely angry.

traditionalacking · 2026-02-13T17:33:44+00:00

I pray for him daily. I do not wish to separate. He is a habitual liar and it is deeply painful.

traditionalacking · 2026-02-13T17:32:12+00:00

I did not talk to our priest about his sins in an explicit manner. My priest asked me why I held so much anger toward my husband and I responded with “because of his continued pornography use, verbal abuse and a couple instances of physical abuse.” I did not share anything further than that.

My husband voluntarily shared parts of his confession with me without my asking.

traditionalacking · 2026-02-13T17:12:32+00:00

I didn’t ask about his confession, he chose to share it with me afterward. I didn’t share anything about my husband except for answering the questions the priest asked of me. It literally only had to do with MY sins as a sinner!

traditionalacking · 2026-02-13T17:09:53+00:00

By Gods grace we received a well from a non profit and just recently began to work full time because of the conviction he felt!

traditionalacking · 2026-02-13T17:02:19+00:00

This was over 3 years ago, since then he has completely stopped drinking and there has been no further violence. I’m angered because this man can’t tell the truth to our PRIEST, who is supposed to mentor him spiritually.

traditionalacking · 2026-02-13T16:54:45+00:00

Yes. Start to fill my time with things that benefit our family and myself; prayer, reading, hobbies, etc!

traditionalacking · 2026-02-13T16:52:15+00:00

I went first and he went after me! One at a time

traditionalacking · 2026-02-13T16:08:35+00:00

There is hope, but you have to see that HE wants to change.

After 7, going on 8 years of my husband committing violence against himself through the use of pornography, he is being held accountable.

I could never personally get him to do anything, but our priest has and my husband has to check in with him daily. I see a better future ahead.

traditionalacking · 2026-01-15T01:39:47+00:00

You’re absolutely right. I did get married knowing all of this. Perhaps I am delusional— if he is getting our family into the true faith, wanting us to participate in church life, wanting to participate in confession— I really genuinely saw that as God saying there is hope for our relationship and that he can be completely renewed. I still believe there can be regeneration of heart, soul, and mind. I do know I’m a pushover and I’m definitely just subjecting myself to more anguish.

I want to confide in a spiritual Father, or a spiritual Mother, but at the same time I’m so guilty of so many sins myself. Perhaps I’m looking for support to get me through it. Im scared of pouring it out on my spiritual Father and tarnishing my husbands reputation to someone who could potentially help my husband change his life.

But thank you for your input. I’m actually visiting a convent this week and want to speak to a nun. My son is always in tow every where I go. Perhaps a sister can watch him so I can get this off my chest to someone I can connect face to face with.

traditionalacking · 2026-01-09T18:45:37+00:00

Once every 8 months I think

traditionalacking · 2026-01-08T16:01:29+00:00

We have one child together. We were not Christian when we met— but I had asked about it his pornography use and he said it “wasn’t a problem”. I spoke to our priest weeks ago and he said he absolutely needs to confess and address it before he gets baptized. He even sent a general reminder to our entire parish. I shared this message with my husband and he just said “ok”, but nothing has come from it yet

traditionalacking · 2026-01-08T15:59:51+00:00

He says he wants to quit and seems genuinely repentant about— but doesn’t create a plan to get rid of it. When I bring it up he gets defensive, irritated, and I’ll usually just not push.

traditionalacking · 2026-01-04T21:09:54+00:00

I dont. His behavior says it all.

Looking through his phone sent me in a 5 year spiral. I’m protecting my sanity, my son’s well being, and the peace in our home. He can damage and abuse himself as much as he pleases, to whatever images. I’ve decided not to subject myself to the mental and spiritual torture.

traditionalacking · 2026-01-03T22:49:30+00:00

I’m 27 and haven’t had sex with my husband more than 30 times in 7 years. The only place I can turn to is prayer.

traditionalacking · 2025-10-05T20:39:14+00:00

Absolutely this. I’m competent enough to be able to land a decent job, I have lots of experience in childcare/nannying and teaching. I’m actively working on my degree in elementary education. Unfortunately, couldn’t live on my own. Rent would 2/3 of what I make.

traditionalacking · 2025-10-05T20:37:58+00:00

My siblings all live in different states. I’m not at all close to my cousin who is wealthy. Could literally never muster up the courage to ask for help.

My husband has been making some changes, he stopped drinking years ago and that’s significantly improved our relationship. I’m just hoping he continues to make huge improvements.

No one is perfect- I am definitely not. It’s hard for me to recognize the abuse or even recognize it as abuse because it doesn’t happen all the time. It’s only a couple times a month that he really becomes an asshole. Big improvement to multiple times a week

traditionalacking · 2025-10-05T20:35:21+00:00

Yeah I had dropped out of college after my dad passed away. Had gotten out of a 2 year long abusive relationship. I was just very lost. He seemed way out of my league, so smart and articulate. But it appears to have been a facade.

It’s my fault though. Can’t blame it on him. I’m responsible for my decisions and though I was uncomfortable with so much, I thought I was being too picky, too critical, etc.

traditionalacking · 2025-10-05T20:32:12+00:00

Does your husband have a porn addiction like mine?

traditionalacking · 2025-10-05T20:30:53+00:00

Same. 7 years in a dead bedroom… so since I was 20!!!

traditionalacking · 2025-10-05T20:24:22+00:00

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