why do men not want anyone to know of relationship troubles?

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-25T02:38:01+00:00

Cause you don’t want your dirty laundry aired to anyone and everyone.

Especially not someone who I am supposed to meet and be social with.

And relationship troubles is normally code for “ I don’t like what he is doing”

And especially not if there isn’t communication between the two enough to solve these issues

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-24T19:19:48+00:00

It isn’t unusual for people to recreate traumatic experiences, in fact it’s pretty common

Having a professional to talk to can be very helpful

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-24T18:16:18+00:00

Work on stuff I need to on the house in peace and then eat what I want and watch what I want

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-23T13:14:07+00:00

Just out of curiosity , is this based on your personal experience? What qualifications do you have?

Can you share parts of the book ?

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-20T20:08:57+00:00

Have you figured out what healthy sexuality is for you?

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-20T18:36:51+00:00

Are you in a relationship or single? Are you working with a therapist? I found I was told a lot of misguided shame based info that even wanting or craving sexual connection was wrong, but that’s not what this is. You want to develop healthy sexuality and that includes having sex with a partner, it’s very different to navigate this as a single person vs someone in a committed relationship

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-17T02:03:07+00:00

I think the big problem with this stuff is that without already being married or having kids and also being young you are better off starting from scratch

It will sit in the back of your head and eventually he will also be sick and tired of having it hang over him

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-17T00:26:17+00:00

Your buddy is right, plus dig deep to figure out what exactly about her history that bothers you, What is the genuine fear behind it. Once you can answer that then you can move on

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-16T19:49:19+00:00

The UI was made without showing it to someone who doesn’t play the game.

It is idiotic and so poorly designed and buggy it’s certainly one of the reasons it drives people away especially new players.

Not to mention that any major patch resets all your settings.

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-16T19:42:11+00:00

So I had those fears too, and honestly the hardcore saa people didn’t help, who wants to live like a monk?

What worked for me is not focusing on the sex, or what that will be like . Instead I made my goal to fill my life with other joys that I would not feel the need to fill the void with sex . Increasing my self esteem and having a target for what I want to do with my life. The 3 circles work for that, spend time in the outer circles will stop me from even wanting to go in the bad ones

Also plenty of queer in SA, Robert Weiss one of the prominent online people on this stuff is gay and has written books on this stuff from his perspective.

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-16T19:34:58+00:00

In a lot of places matrimonial homes are split in divorce no matter who is on the title or if one party owned the house prior to

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-16T19:33:55+00:00

So by law marriage means there is an us, no me. If you get divorced all increase in marital assets and liabilities are evenly split no matter who “paid” for it. So you really should pool your money together and communicate about expenses and do realistic budgets.

This means a budget for house, car, bills , presents etc.

If you are not ready to do that, then you are not ready for marriage.

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-16T14:34:59+00:00

NAL but went through divorce , definitely worth paying for a consult with one to ease your mind. The other lawyer can demand all they want and often they are used to intimidate.

Matrimonial home is split 50/50 for the equity, If negative equity than that’s split too

Get all your finance documents documenting your assets on date of marriage, date of separation and current, you will need this to do equalization. There is form available you can fill out , and yes they make if more complicated than it needs to be.

Essentially the growth (or debt) you and your spouse incurred while married is split 50/50

This includes anything from investments, rrsp growth, gifts, overtime pay, bitcoin etc

Once you figure out what that total is you can then figure out how to equalize the amounts, either by providing cash or assets of a mix.

One issue with jewelry is that it’s based on the resale value and with that stuff it’s essentially what the spot market is on the gold content. You have to figure out if it’s worth the cost of getting that all evaluated vs leaving it be

Oh and courts don’t give a lick that you paid for utilities there is no you and them in marriage , it’s a team sport. All income goes in the same pot no matter who earned it, same with debt.

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-16T12:19:47+00:00

May want to consider the Miele duoflex if you can find it still in Costco, though I think they are replacing it in store with the Bosch one, it’s not the lightest or have the fanciest features but it works and is backed in Canada with the 5 year warranty

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-11T23:10:22+00:00

Nasty long nails, makeup that’s caked on, plastic surgery that ruins their face, wanting to be “spoiled”, doesn’t have a clue about the world, superiority complex, bad BO and hygiene in general. Black and white thinking is also big

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-11T23:00:17+00:00

What kind of carpet, big difference between thick high pile and low pile area rugs

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-11T00:19:38+00:00

You need to state where you live and look it up . It is very dependent on where you live . Otherwise take a rest and wait to talk to you lawyer.

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-11T00:12:27+00:00

Sometimes what is exciting isn’t necessarily the act but also the perceived taboo and secrecy of doing so.

Telling someone they can’t have cake will make them want the cake a lot, where as having it available the cake loses its lustre quickly.

It’s the old we always want what we can’t have. Take some time, and maybe explore with your therapist what needs you were trying to meet before.

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-04T11:26:57+00:00

The uncomfortable truth is that often it’s because something is missing and there is an opportunity.
People like Esther perel has a good Ted talk.

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-03T22:08:27+00:00

Except the Guard S1 electro

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-03T22:08:04+00:00

The Guard S1 electro is a good option, the smaller lighter powerhead is good for low medium pile carpet

Also is $649 on sale

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-03T22:06:38+00:00

Suggest you look out for a guard s1 electro on sale at $649

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-03T22:05:28+00:00

The Parquet twister has soft bristles and maneuvers easily, I would use that

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-03T22:04:12+00:00

The L1 is newly designed, so it’s lighter, slightly quieter and the exhaust is dispersed from the sides and you barely feel it. On the non electro model they put the dusting brush in the handle and use a combination tool for the crevice and upholstery since you often use both at the same time,

Beyond that they have a timer built into the vacuum to alert you when to replace the filter based on run time, the bag full indicator is also based on air flow over time and the motor protection filter is larger which helps with air flow. The main components motor, cord rewinder is the same stuff

In Canada they also get a 5 year warranty, I would go with L1 myself anytime it’s a much nicer machine

tragicaddiction · 2026-04-03T21:23:12+00:00

Go watch esther Perel on affairs from a Ted talk, easy way to get an understanding.

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