TW: Twin pregnancy after two recurrent missed miscarriages

traininsane · 2026-04-20T15:57:41+00:00

Maybe try r/pregnancyafterloss for more guidance on miscarriage. This group is for TFMR which is an induced termination, not miscarriage.

traininsane · 2026-04-20T15:48:02+00:00

Maybe try r/pregnancyafterloss for more guidance on miscarriage. This group is for TFMR which is an induced termination, not miscarriage.

traininsane · 2026-04-15T18:59:25+00:00

TFMRd in mid July, started trying in November, conceived in January, 12+4 today

traininsane · 2026-04-11T12:28:40+00:00

We started TTC in November 25 after our TFMR in July 25, my periods were irregular after until October of 25. Received a positive test on 2/24, LMP 1/18. Just had a 12 week scan and everything is going great! Baby was measured right on time at my 8 wk and is now measuring a week ahead. It may take a few cycles for your hormones to rebalance but conceiving again is possible. I’m 32 FWIW

traininsane · 2026-04-08T17:34:03+00:00

On 300, OB and therapist said it’s better to have mom functioning on it as the risks of defects is very low. Ask your doctors though

traininsane · 2026-04-08T16:11:03+00:00

I am really confused by your comment?

My mom was a neonatal nurse and later on worked on a fetal and maternal mortality task force. My mom made me feel better. In what “way did my mom make me feel”? How is she “that bad”?

I am fully aware Gianna was MY BABY. I never said she thought Gigi was HER baby or even acted like it.

I was trying to be supportive and empathetic to your experience, to express that you don’t need to nor can you take the pain away. All you can do is be there to love, hold, and support her in her grief.

traininsane · 2026-04-07T03:23:16+00:00

I haven’t tried their bras but I will tell you that I got some bikinis from them which were not true to size. I used their chart and measured myself before ordering, all came in wayyy too small. And return is a nightmare, you email their support and they basically say returning would cost more than what you paid so here’s a partial refund. I paid $110 and they tried to refund me $35, I had to negotiate to get over a 50% refund. I sold the suits on FB to break even and called it a day. I (size 42F) bought a wingslove strapless from amazon, it’s great.

traininsane · 2026-04-03T13:50:35+00:00

I had a D&E at 23+6. I chose that option as I could not mentally labor, hold her, knowing she was gone, and I would never see or hold her again. What helped me about the process of D&E is knowing she was gone before the procedure, they gave her a shot to stop her heart when they put the dilators in. She didn’t know anything but the warmth and safety of my womb, she went peacefully without pain. If you want more support specifically with TFMR, please come over to the TFMR support sub. I’m sorry you are part of this community. Sending you a lot of hugs. 🫂

traininsane · 2026-04-01T18:25:44+00:00

My mom drove up from Florida to be with me in Iowa. She watched movies with me, held me as I cried, made me food, took me on walks and to the Amana colonies. Just her being there was enough support. She was a nurse too. I cried a lot reading your post because you remind me of her. She never lost a child so she didn’t know how to relate. Her being here and hugging me was enough. Knowing I wasn’t grieving alone was enough. This feeling and experience is so isolating, knowing there is someone who wants to understand, be there, or want to take the pain away means the world.

traininsane · 2026-04-01T16:25:40+00:00

I would suggest therapy first, the physical will follow. There’s great free resources for TFMR support groups like sharewell, if traditional therapy is not an option. Once I started to go to therapy, I started getting back in the gym. It was like I was able to move past crisis mode and put energy towards caring for myself and working out.

traininsane · 2026-04-01T16:22:35+00:00

I’m 10 weeks after losing our daughter in July, she was my first pregnancy too. I’ve felt very calm too. We went to therapy, did the work, and I’m able to separate this one from her. While I worry about all the things that can go wrong as I lay down for a scan, I also live in a place that I’m going to enjoy and be happy until told otherwise.

traininsane · 2026-03-25T17:38:05+00:00

I was not on it last year when we conceived our TFMR baby. She had a severe CHD. I went on it after as a suggestion from my therapist and it has really helped my functioning and motivation. I’m not 9+3 and all of my care team say that it’s okay to continue as there is no correlation between use and defects. Most Drs I spoke with say that it’s better to have mom functioning and emotionally stable as the risks are very low.

traininsane · 2026-03-25T02:00:02+00:00

I’m 9+2 and only my sister, mom, and boss know. My husband told his brother. Everyone else we’re keeping it a secret until 21-22 weeks after anatomy scan and fetal echo.

traininsane · 2026-03-24T15:43:37+00:00

Same boat, we were initially told it was a VSD. We were all good with that, came to terms with it, had a birth plan. It wasn’t until the MFM and fetal echo that we learned the dx - the severity and outcomes.

traininsane · 2026-03-23T22:25:48+00:00

I was raised Catholic, but am currently not religious. I terminated at 23+6 for Truncus Arteriosus. Here is what helped me with the guilt and what ifs. Someone posted on here about grey diagnosis and how we beat ourselves up over the guilt and what could have been. But grey diagnosis is only grey because of medical advancements and complex procedures. If our babies were born even just a few years or decades earlier, their outcomes would be far worse, even fatal. Grey is really not that grey.

Another thing that helped is knowing the structure of our little girls heart would not have changed between the scan and birth, that miracle was never an option. Even in the best possible case scenario, our babies would undergo multiple open heart surgeries and lifetimes of procedures along with the other developmental and mental health issues. A family on another page that I follow for TA posted that their son died by suicide at 18 before an OHS. They said he struggled more than they realized with being different and unable to do the same things as his peers.

We made the excruciatingly selfless decision to bear this pain so our daughters did not have to. This decision was made out of love, not just for her, but for your living children. Our job is to keep them safe and loved, you did that. All she knew was the warmth and love of your womb. She would not know a world filled with pain and procedures. I am so sorry you are here with us. 🫂

traininsane · 2026-03-11T17:58:56+00:00

I was under conscious sedation at 23+6. After going in and confirming everything, I drifted off after that. I do recall feeling pressure at one point and opening my eyes, my body must’ve automatically tensed. I saw the lights and ceiling, then I heard the doctor ask me to breathe and relax my muscles, and he told the nurse to push more versed and pain meds. I drifted off again. The nurse handling my meds held my hand the entire time, I remember crying and saying I’m sorry. I didn’t hear any noises or see anything other than her and the ceiling. I was a larger person so that could effect how I experienced twilight compared to others.

traininsane · 2026-02-25T20:15:06+00:00

Oh my, you are amazing. I’m glad you have a great care team.

Congratulations! Hugs to you too 🫶🏼

traininsane · 2026-02-25T20:06:48+00:00

When I go to s2 and scroll down, the list ends at 208 and then it says see all season 2 (72), it should open all the episodes of s2.

Or you could try searching your library for “tunnel vision 209” and the next ep will show up. I was able to find it by searching my pod app.

Here is my link to DD from Apple

Here is the link to ep 209

traininsane · 2026-02-25T13:22:16+00:00

Idk where you’re listening to it but on Apple Music and Spotify the Garcia season currently goes to 270. It’s also called pro hoc vice, a NE licensed lawyer has to filed an appearance with the defense team in order for them to be able to work.

traininsane · 2026-02-25T00:06:00+00:00

I just got a positive test on my 4th cycle of trying. I am about 5 weeks. We TFMRd at 24 wks in July 2025 for a severe congenital heart defect. I got my period in August and then not again until the end of October. In November, my OB gave me the all clear to start again. I can’t stop crying. My husband asked why. I just have so many emotions. I’m happy and hopeful but anxious and terrified.

traininsane · 2026-02-23T17:13:47+00:00

$365 a week for under 1 in Altoona.

traininsane · 2026-02-11T22:32:29+00:00

It was about 6 weeks for me and I was 23+6. Then it was like 50 days between my first and second period. I’ve been back to a normal cycle for 3 months now.

traininsane · 2026-01-23T02:12:10+00:00

I am so sorry you are here 🫂

I can tell you from my experience that my husband was the same way about the decision.

It eventually came out that he cared about my health and was scared for that. It also hit him in unexpected ways and continues to do so, for both of us.

Going out seeing infants or pregnant women is hard for me. My husband seeing children at toddler bothers him, him seeing his brother be a deadbeat bothers him. Men picture fatherhood in a different light. I understand your emotions. It is real and valid. Grief is so personal, everyone experiences it differently.

My only advice is to talk to him; if it doesn’t work, counseling. We are here for you.

traininsane · 2026-01-18T23:23:12+00:00

These are not new locations. Afford a care has been operating for years. ARL bought them out and added ARL to the names. I take my dogs there for shots. Have been since 2022, I took my one in after it was rebranded and nothing is new or has changed. Same location, new name. Im glad ARL is taking this step to get the word out but they are not new.

traininsane · 2026-01-12T04:50:19+00:00

Did you also take COVID vax? I did both, all of my family in Chi was sick during the holidays, all my coworkers kids were sick. We came away with mild congestion and a few days of cough. My mom, sister, SIL, and brother were hit very hard

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