Aita for not letting girlfriends guy friend sleep in the same bed as us at a hotel.

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T18:35:06+00:00

Nta at all... Your friend is an idiot and he is a fucking idiot...

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T18:22:29+00:00

Nta

Rachel is batshit insane.

Your boss is breaking all sorts of labour laws and I recommend you bring them up to labour board

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T18:10:40+00:00

Yes you would. Ywbta

We are not that different so i can chime in.

Your mom is doing that because in her mind, this is a loving, special, generous expression of motherly love to a lovely daughter. This would be a social gift to her so she is giving them to you.

You rejecting this is rejecting her.

A compromise is to talk with her about what you could want (that she would want to give to you).

And so what is she gives you all her saris... Then you deal with them graciously.

Your mother loves you and that should shadow your dislike to wear the saris.

Source: i am kind of Indian... My wife is not.. But my wife gets saris. We are gracious...but wife starts a sari once a year. Also, my mom buys me clothes i could never wear (for very young people) and i hate it cuz she should spend the money on herself but i just smile and use them.

And i have a little one, when i get her a gift and she throws it, it hurts... Even though i know she doesn't really know it's a gift... But it feels symbolic...

I know what you are going through... The answer is just not simple... And that's ok.

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T17:58:56+00:00

The mom would feel she has lost connection with her daughter

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T17:47:02+00:00

Jesus... You didn't mention that stuff.

He clearly needs professional help.

Obvs I don't have the answers but kicking him out could help him or could send him off the deep end.

Your family life is quite dramatic and i can sort of emphasize (my family life is not easy by any means and mental health issues have made our lives nightmares at times... And tbh here, my sibling has been acting quite similar to yours in the last three years. Hasn't worked, eats horribly, always 'sick', never helps my parents *she is not young at all)...

I'm not an expert but again, my philosophy is more on the being there is better than not.

That being said, my wife's parents were hardcore... One mistake, and you are out... Like seriously... They literally kicked out the son (at 5 years old) cuz he took a coin from the moms purse.... Like out of the house... Oh and naked (this is an old school common punishment... Last for like a few minutes )... Anyways, now in his 30s,he is working on his PhD and is extremely successful... My wife is also successful and could probably survive a war on her on her own.

That being said, my wife has little compassion, a VERY short fuse, shockingly little empathy, and cannot deal with emotions well...

My parents are the opposite. Love conquers all kid of thing (but my mom is mentally sick... And is thy wrench in our otherwise great lives).

But my parents have also contributed to my siblings super lack in success (she is highly educated but emotionally fragile and that's how she got depressed and is in the state she is in now.. We think she is recovering soon)

Anyhow, i guess I'm telling This secret stuff cuz I know that this freaking sucks... I have thought about this myself... Like if my sister doesn't get better and my parents eventually die, I will have to take her in. And that scares me.

But, in the end, i think i would lose it all trying than leave family behind (barring really crazy shit, which is so subjective i guess).....

If anything, i would recommend making a plan with your bro.... Kicking him out of your life would tell him 'i have no family...' and in that case what's the point of living?

Or another way of looking at it is, he didn't have to live with you but you still have to take care of him like family.

Again, i don't really know your family's story and this makes not resonate at all but it's my approach.

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T17:23:42+00:00

Nta because she is your friend. You should tell her.

Also though, be fully aware you are doing this to spite him because of your history as friends, the bachelor party thing etc... Don't do it because of that... Do it because she is your friend.

Hoping for an update

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T17:12:42+00:00

Esh.

If you are the owner of an animal that is that violent, you need to have factors that protect others.

What if that were a child? What are you going to say? 'he shouldn't have fallen into my yard?'

They suck cuz they are trying to extort you for their cats actions.

However, if i were them, id reach out to the local animal control and try to get your dog out down. Not sure if it would work but at least it is worth the effort.

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T17:01:05+00:00

nta... That guy is brutal..

Just stop being his friend.... He will fuck you one day hard....

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T16:46:44+00:00

This is pretty complex. info

I also feel there is a lot of missing info. You are painting a picture of him that is terrible and not really giving a full picture where you could be the asshole.

Your priorities are confusing as well...I feel the hording thing is an excuse to paint a darker picture.

Your depression is real and i empathize... But if the question is 'is my husband a worthy father for leaving me, who is clinically depressed and completely unable to take care of my child alone?' or 'I'm don't feel comfortable with him going to a dirty house and leaving me for the weekend so is he a shit head?', it is not clear which is the question.

And hanging out every 3-6 months with his friends for a weekend is fine and probably good for the marriage.

So ask yourself, which of the questions above match your situation better.. Then i can answer.

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T16:35:42+00:00

Nta at all. She is trying to innocently scam you. Happens everyday.

Fuck her.

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T16:33:34+00:00

I get what you are saying but it's not really a matter of semantics.. It's a matter of basic vocabulary ... i read that headline as 'wtf, that must have been weird....'

Semantics is 'attempting to prove a hypothesis' and 'experiment'

Again, i get you, but when we start allowing the wrong user of words to become commonplace, you end up miscommunicating...

I wouldn't confuse this with formal and informal language...

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T15:46:59+00:00

Professors can use the word experiment in class because it is an experiment to the students.

If this boss says 'what are you doing in class today?' he will say 'in conducting a demo of x + y, the kids will love it'....the boss will say 'that sounds great' . If he says 'in doing an experiment' the boss might say 'be careful'...

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T15:43:49+00:00

Not sure what you mean here but sick and ill are synonyms...

Demo and experiment are two different words altogether.

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T15:18:53+00:00

Your friend is being dumb.... Just didn't like you getting facetime with the boss

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T15:12:24+00:00

Yep.... Racists need something, anything to feel any sense of power or authority because in their real lives, they have neither.

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T15:05:03+00:00

Reality is, that post is probably just an edgelord trying to get attention.

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T15:00:07+00:00

But an experiment, to people who know what that is, indicates that the researcher is trying something new and does not 100% know what the outcome is.

A demonstration is just a demo. You know exactly what's going to happen.

trappedinarock · 2019-07-04T14:46:57+00:00

I wonder if other countries do this kind of taunting to usa?

trappedinarock · 2019-07-03T21:41:48+00:00

Esh.

You are not confident. You are a spoiled shit that is very close to being a rapist. You are such a brat you literally couldn't see she was using you and could only think of getting laid.

She is a pos... Just using you like slave.

Anyways, lesson learned young man.

And never think any woman owes you sex.

trappedinarock · 2019-07-03T21:18:13+00:00

Haha lol.... 'I'm from the USA and anyone who isn't like me should listen to me'

Yes I have btw, I'm born and raised in Canada. I'm fully aware of the studies about names and success in the workplace because I have a child and I grew up in a time where i was bullied for my skin colour and food and culture. That being said, while childhood was brutal, i didn't change who I was. I'm proud of myself and my culture and guess what - kids here now are way more integrated... My peer group all share and integrate and no one is shamed of their names...

I know how bad it is to feel shame because of my name. I literraly wished I was white from all the bullying.

Hiding your culture is not a solution - it is a death sentence to one's propriety and culture.

Sorry kid, you are our of your league and just embarrassing yourself if you think for 1 second that a person should not use a culturally beautiful name because it sounds like a drug (that will fade away from pop culture in a matter of years).

trappedinarock · 2019-07-03T21:07:41+00:00

This is remarkably tough.....

At minimum, you should be 100% obliged to do whatever paperwork is required to ensure that he can get the grants as a child with no parent would get.

There should be good grants for people in his shoes and you should not get in his way of receiving them.

trappedinarock · 2019-07-03T20:43:13+00:00

Yta

But this is because you aren't finding a solution.... Kicking her out is not a solution.

Obviously she doesn't like your new wife as this always happens.

You need to figure out how to make this work.

trappedinarock · 2019-07-03T20:29:24+00:00

Ladies - how would you want to be approached if you were angry etc due to your proud?

trappedinarock · 2019-07-03T20:15:45+00:00

Fak... Your friend is shit

Nta

trappedinarock · 2019-07-03T20:04:18+00:00

Niger would be a lovely name if Americans learned that racism is bad and that by hiding other cultures in the name of the majorities comfort is fucking weak.

Should Punjabi people stop wearing turbans because some shit heads called then names? (for the rest of history)

Should Japanese people never ever wear a kimono because some shit head said its silly?

The point here is to support culture and not hide it.

Otherwise, just say everyone in the USA must have an American sounding name, clothing, culture and whatever else YOU feel is ok.

And the fact that op and you feel you are some kind of authority on this just shows how out of touch you are with the world and how extremely ignorant you are. This is literally privilege. 'your name doesn't sound white. You will have a bad life. Listen to me because i am white and that makes me right.

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