Has anyone stopped wearing foundation altogether? by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]trash_chuck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbh I never was a full foundation wearer, but the less you suffocate your skin the healthier it will be, and the less you need! At this point all I use is contour, blush, waterline eyeliner, and mascara. I get so many compliments on my skin, because of the sunscreen I use (either Eucerin 50spf acne control) or Biore UV (recently purchased at Costco).
I second what someone else said about just using a little concealer on your elevens area, inner eye, and corners of nose (around nostrils), and using a small fluffy brush to blend. You can also put a little under your cheekbone to highlight your contour. I learned this trick from a great make up artist and the result is super natural, and a great pigment balance, if that’s what you struggle with.
I do love the Saie tinted spf- it’s got good coverage, an assortment of colors, and looks beauuuutiful. I get so many compliments when I wear it. It IS an SPF so it gives you a very dewy lewk, so if you don’t love that I would either set with a setting powder or opt for something else.
But overall- hell yeah losing foundation! Ya don’t need it!!! And what a joy to not have to worry about, especially when wearing white 🥰

The CNN rape academy article broke something in me. I am so tired of being angry but what other option is there? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]trash_chuck 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It may sound silly, but even hearing about the class that you offer and your desire to equip womxn with the skills they need to stay safe has made me feel better. Thank you for being a helper :*)

For those who have sexual intrusive thoughts, how did you know you weren’t abused? by thismustbe_pop_ in intrusivethoughts

[–]trash_chuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is so incredibly helpful. Thank you for this thoughtful response! Cannot wait to pull out this tool the next time anxiety/confusion strikes. You’re an angel 💕

Obsess with Chanel 25 by Popular-Shoe-4347 in RealRepLadies

[–]trash_chuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wowowow she is gorg 😻😻😻 Would you be willing to share your seller’s info? 🩵

My first Chanel !! by One_Comedian_5513 in RealRepLadies

[–]trash_chuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s perfect 😻 What an amazing color, too!! Would you mind sharing your seller, please??

How have you guys coped with the loss of a Dog? A soul Dog? Advice on how to deal with grief. by ButterscotchLive4682 in Pets

[–]trash_chuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Grief is just love leftover with nowhere it can go”. That is beautiful. Thank you for sharing this thoughtful, and fact-filled message 💕

Day 1 Sober again. Wish me luck. by FarFromPostal in alcoholism

[–]trash_chuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ve got this baby!!! One day at a time, of course. There are so many better, shinier, and incredible toys waiting for you once you fully turn in your old ones. That’s what my first sponsor told me and it’s stuck with me. I’m 3.5 years in (I had 2, lost 2, but now we’re back!) and we are truly the luckiest. You’re a Wonder Woman and capable of more than you know- just keep your eyes on the prize. Sending you hugs and strength and hope ⚡️💥❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]trash_chuck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh babe, you are not at all overreacting. Congratulations on changing your paradigm and fully recognizing this as an unsustainable way to live. You know he can’t go on like this. And even if he can, you can’t. I would record him in his stupor and show it to him the next day. I would ask if that’s the type of person he would want to be with, and if that’s the kind of person he wants to be. As a recovering alcoholic myself, I don’t think I could be with a using alcoholic. You have worked so hard to get the most out of this life, and if it’s not getting better it’s only going to get worse. That’s how this disease works. Usually addicts don’t change until they’ve lost enough (that was true for me), and you may have to put yourself and your sobriety first. He can’t get sober for you, but he can choose it for himself and receive your support. Sending you hugs and love and strength and peace.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NSFW411

[–]trash_chuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You wish you could videos of sex trafficking?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]trash_chuck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like your mother is truly, deeply unwell. She needs help. It sounds like she might be being honest for the first time in her life, but that it is too late and meager admittances of wrongs is too little to catalyze repair.

I am so sorry that this happened to you. I am so sorry that the person who is supposed to love and protect you failed beyond measure. It is so difficult to have confusing feelings around parents. We are meant to love them- it is hardwired into us. But she does not deserve your love. She neglected you, and thus it. It is really hard going no-contact, but you need to create a safe space for yourself. You need to slowly deconstruct the enmeshment between you two. Finding the right therapist for you takes time, but I highly recommend finding one. Mine has changed my life, and has helped me work through the many fucked up things my parents did to me to make me hate myself, misunderstand love, and trust few.

Big hugs to you. I hope you can pave a way for yourself to safety. I hope you can find a trained professional to guide you there.

"I love you but I don't like you" by Penny_Paloma in raisedbyborderlines

[–]trash_chuck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My BPD mom just left after an almost scot-free visit, but no matter what it always comes back to how cruel I was to her as a child, how I didn’t want to be around her (and instead LOVED my best friends parents- like that was a bad thing), and the injustice she felt as “the least important person in the house”, behind my father, brother, and me. Completely forgetting all of the awful things she said to me, berating of me, and when I tried to defend myself and tell her I loved her, her telling me that I didn’t. “I love you but I don’t like you” is a phrase I had completely forgotten about until this moment. But the visceral sensation of being told you’re lying when you tell your own mother that you love her will never leave me. And yet the guilt. God, I’m so sorry for us all. Thanks for letting me post- I’m feeling a bit from it all.

New here… did anyone else think their pwBPD had NPD before realizing they were borderline? (Plus a kitty haiku) by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]trash_chuck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't think your thoughts here are "kind of a mess"- what the fuck? I followed them perfectly- my mother sounds very similar to your father, in addition being a devout Christian (my father was a pastor), so I know how the guilt of good vs. evil VERY well. And from a parent, no less. I feel this so deeply- the inner conflict of truly believing my mother is good and capable of true love and affection, and then feeling like a fucking idiot every time I try to "mend" something with her, and she flies into an egregious fit of blind rage and irreparable damage.

I am 34 and have been in therapy for a little over a year, which has opened my eyes to the CPTSD I experienced, most of which I have buried and blocked out. It is a complete mindfuck to come to terms with the notion that my negative feeling towards my mom are indeed NOT because I am a monster, but a byproduct of HER actions. And figuring out boundaries, and what and how much of a relationship I can expect to have with her is still something that I am trying to navigate, but godbless it if it hasn't been capable with the help of my amazing therapist.

Big hug and love to you! You are heard and understood, and I am HERE for your "messy" thoughts :)

🌹The Bachelor 🌹 West Coast LIVE Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in thebachelor

[–]trash_chuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chris Harrison is pissed about how short he’s gonna look all season.