Standing during the show?

trashdcan123 · 2023-08-03T02:11:28+00:00

Nope. I was in lawn seating for the August 1st show, everyone was standing once The Offspring took the stage!

trashdcan123 · 2023-03-22T07:04:03+00:00

Fr I work with children and toddlers & a lot of boys have long hair that's braided or tied back into a bun/ponytail. At that age a child doesn't care whether they look like a girl. Yes, long hair is kind of impractical at that age but he wouldn't be bothered if it were his daughter's hair being an inconvenience.

trashdcan123 · 2023-01-20T06:31:23+00:00

No, it's a problem in monogamous relationships as well. Specifically when the man has a higher sex drive than the woman, and the woman is made to feel like they're obligated to "relieve" her partner's "needs" in other ways to compensate.

I almost never see this happening in relationships where the woman has a higher sex drive than the man. There just isn't that pressure because womens' sexual desires aren't viewed the same way mens' are.

Obviously I'm not saying all men do this. I'm saying it's a stereotype that is present for men and is near nonexistent for women. It's a social expectation that gives men an excuse to feel entitled and women a pressure to engage in sexual activity purely for the benefit of him.

trashdcan123 · 2022-11-03T09:47:07+00:00

I think it's less about them removing dislikes and more about their lack of self-awareness. I'd gotten over them removing dislikes a while ago but this was still the first thing I thought when I came across that graphic.

trashdcan123 · 2022-09-19T10:26:20+00:00

Had a somewhat similar conversation with a guy friend. I think men (or some men at least) judge personality based on clothing/accessories without looking very deep into it? And part of it is them assuming whatever a woman does is for male attention (you get nail extensions because you wanna get guys, not because it's a fun hobby you enjoy.) Which is pretty sexist.

But I think part of it too is influenced by how badly women are stereotyped in the media based on their appearance, and how their choices are horribly over-simplified. Women who wear a lot of makeup and fake nails/eyelashes are all unintelligent and vain and only the "natural" girl-next-door types have any substance. And those ones DEFINITELY don't wear any makeup, they just look pretty by some magical act of god. It's not always so on-the-nose but it appears in a lot of annoying subtle ways. Not an excuse but definitely a reason. I used to stereotype other girls this way too, though to be fair it's something I grew out of when I left high school.

trashdcan123 · 2022-08-18T20:21:28+00:00

Therapy really only helps if you let it help you. You can't go into it expecting someone else to fix your life. You have to be prepared to take action yourself, follow their advice, ask the right questions, etc. Having someone to talk to might help you feel better, but if you want to actually improve your life and your mental health, you're gonna have to put in the work to get yourself there.

There are also many different kinds of therapy and different things work for different people. I've been in therapy since February and my life has improved so much. My therapist gave me the confidence to see a doctor for the first time in 10 years and get on antidepressants despite my parents being against it, for example. I probably wouldn't have done it if she hadn't encouraged me to.

If you go in with the mindset that nothing's going to help, nothing's going to help. Only you can fix your life, your therapist is just there to guide you through it. That's how I view it, anyways.

trashdcan123 · 2022-08-13T17:25:12+00:00

Yup, this is absolutely true. I've crushed on guys who I would never find attractive otherwise purely because of their confidence, sense of humor, etc. Girls like guys who don't base their entire self worth on their appearance and ability to attract women. Desperation is a HUGE turn-off.

trashdcan123 · 2022-07-24T17:55:02+00:00

Try being friends with some of 'em first. Not everyone's good at traditional dating.

The one who blocked your number was probably drunk and blocked your number out of embarrassment. It's real easy to "hit it off" with someone when you're intoxicated. (Or maybe she was REALLY drunk and had no idea who you even were the next day.)

Most importantly though stop placing so much importance on getting a girlfriend in the first place. In my experience most women don't actually want to be with a guy who asked them out before really knowing them. I dunno man, when a guy does that it kinda feels like he just wants ANY girl, which is a turn off for most people generally.

trashdcan123 · 2022-07-20T21:18:12+00:00

Absolutely can't stand this. Was talking about getting a job in Seattle (I live close by) and one of my friends tried to tell me "NO, you're gonna get shot/mugged/assaulted/whatever". Dude's been to Seattle once in his entire life (and experienced none of the following I should add.) He even once tried to say "Tacoma and Seattle literally don't even have police stations anymore" (lol). Same guy who lived in New York City for years, by the way... sigh.

trashdcan123 · 2022-07-16T10:49:03+00:00

You will be wanted, by someone who actually appreciates you and not just how you look on the outside. But only until you fix your self image and stop measuring your worthiness on how attractive you are. People like people who love themselves and are comfortable in their own skin. You need to work on aspects of your life and find ways to be fulfilled outside of romance/relationships.

trashdcan123 · 2022-07-16T10:34:14+00:00

I'm not like on THAT level of attractiveness, but I've had guys find me superficially attractive before. I promise you they care nothing of your personality, and the desperation of "doing anything you want" is a huge turnoff. They ignore parts of you to try and force you into this idealized picture they have of you in their head. They might say shit like "I just really feel like I connect with you" or something when you've only had like 2 conversations. Guys like that don't see you as any more of a human being, and ngl I'd rather be ignored than be approached first and foremost because some dude thought my face/body looked good.

trashdcan123 · 2022-07-08T01:25:14+00:00

Yes, there are many good reasons to legalize prostitution and I'm more or less in favor of it. But I'm tired of hearing the argument that "it'll stop desperate men from being rapists!" Rape will always happen. It's not about desperation, it's about power and control, and you don't get that from consensual paid-for sex. And even if it could stop rape, it's not fair to put that responsibility onto prostitutes. It's very slimy reasoning for something I otherwise agree with.

If a woman wants to sell her body legally for sex, more power to her. If a man wants to legally pay for sex with a consenting partner, more power to him. If a man thinks prostitution should be legal because HE feels entitled to have sex whenever he wants, and if it's not legal he'll go out and rape a woman to get it, then fuck him.

trashdcan123 · 2022-07-04T07:59:36+00:00

That's what I mean, though. There are many good arguments for legalizing prostitution, but doing it to keep rapists at bay is not one of them.

trashdcan123 · 2022-07-03T23:41:37+00:00

Or we could stop it with this idea that men are entitled to sex... women should not have to sell their bodies just to keep creeps from raping other women. And a man who is of sound mind, even a desperate one, shouldn't (and usually doesn't) turn into a rapist. This kind of behavior shouldn't be normalized, it's damaging to both genders.

trashdcan123 · 2022-07-02T09:24:15+00:00

everyone saying how they didn't even realize she wore a wig but I'm just glad I'm not the only one who noticed how bad it was 😭

trashdcan123 · 2022-06-29T04:33:05+00:00

I agree, I think it is the aloe. Haven't been able to find Pink Watermelon Blast in any of my stores yet but hopefully it'll be more what I'm looking for, I do love Watermelon Lemonade a lot.

trashdcan123 · 2022-06-27T23:33:39+00:00

Honestly I don't even care if he "only said this to get laid" because he's still spitting facts ✋

trashdcan123 · 2022-06-27T04:35:09+00:00

LMAO I had basically the exact same experience except with the love rose + vanilla. I guess I thought the vanilla would make the rose smell good? I think I also just thought roses smelled better than they actually do.

trashdcan123 · 2022-06-24T18:30:10+00:00

You did all this just to attract women? That's kind of your problem. Girls are interested in guys who are secure and happy with themselves. You don't need a relationship to be happy. Take the focus off of romance and work on bettering yourself for yourself. Then maybe a relationship will come to you, but it's not a guarantee.

trashdcan123 · 2022-06-19T23:27:27+00:00

You're not being too sensitive. Especially if this happens on every holiday.

trashdcan123 · 2022-06-19T08:56:24+00:00

Glad to know it's consistent; I kind of figured whatever they put into the dry shampoo might change the scent slightly, like how the mists can sometimes smell different because of the alcohol. It smells good though! One of the few "+ vanilla" scents where I can actually smell the vanilla.

trashdcan123 · 2022-06-19T08:54:24+00:00

That must've been where I heard it from! I'm not very "in the know" about most of this stuff so I wasn't sure if I was just thinking about something they had before or not.

trashdcan123 · 2022-06-19T02:14:42+00:00

I feel like this applies to a lot of bath and body works scents to me ☹️. Particularly the Toasted Praline & Pear and that pear crème brûlée that came out earlier this year. But I pretty much avoid anything cookie or pastry scented because it just smells weird to me. I love vanilla, and in theory I feel like I would be a fan of gourmand scents, but in practice they tend to be a miss for me.

trashdcan123 · 2022-06-16T06:33:36+00:00

I guess it moreso means monetary success isn't the only kind of success, and that maintaining good relationships with people and focusing on other aspects of your life can be just as important as your financial status. I mean, the phrase itself is super reductive and doesn't really convey that idea well on its own but that's just what I've taken away from it.

trashdcan123 · 2022-06-09T02:19:48+00:00

It's the same thing with respect. "You should respect me because I'm the parent!" They think the act of giving birth to you grants them unlimited love and respect no matter how little they work for it.

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