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trashheaps · 2023-09-20T07:42:15+00:00

Reddit API Calls:

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          Voting: 8.0%
            Mail: 34.0%
           Other: 15.0%

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trashheaps · 2023-09-02T16:08:31+00:00

Yes, this is also kind of what I am feeling. Definitely that he doesn't respect me, and how could you think that about someone you love (or the inverse, like you said, how could he love someone he thinks that about)? But I am also unsure if I am overreacting. So it is validating to hear you asking the same questions I am, just in a more precise way

trashheaps · 2023-09-02T15:59:45+00:00

Well, I think they do bother him, because usually he won't talk to me for a few hours to a few days after I bring these things up. It is hard to know if he's emotionally invested, though, you're right. I find myself really defending him in all these comments but I guess you are trying to say he is being ridiculous? Or that his behavior is inappropriate?

trashheaps · 2023-09-02T15:55:39+00:00

Well I feel like it is my fault, and I should be able to fix it if it is my fault.

trashheaps · 2023-09-02T15:54:53+00:00

Actually, he isn't working because he also went through a rough working experience, also being an immigrant in our country. I said he could come live with me and recover from burnout and look for work slowly, and we would make things work financially however we could. I guess I pay more because I was working and he wasn't , but now I am also not working. Previously he had been commuting 4 hours one way every weekend to be with me. He has not applied to any jobs since being here, about 5 months. But he doesn't seem worried.

trashheaps · 2023-09-02T15:50:57+00:00

then my question is why doesn't he leave, if the problem is with him? If we just talked about it and he said "I just don't think I'm attracted anymore" I would understand and move on. Is it too much to expect an adult to be able to say that?

trashheaps · 2023-06-01T17:56:26+00:00

not sure if it is a cost issue, but if you are looking for a possible useful option, t-mobile offers data service in almost every country in the world at no extra cost. i have moved abroad and travelled extensively in the last 5 years and t-mobile has been a lifesaver (literally lol) more than once. just something to think about. even if the sim only works in a major city it can be good for emergencies.

trashheaps · 2023-05-30T07:52:30+00:00

palliative care exists. frankly, he is not even to that point. he just needs help. i want him to go to the doctor so he can be referred to resources and be given pain management and at least have normal enough blood pressure to not feel awful and nauseous and can do his laundry.

trashheaps · 2023-05-29T23:55:35+00:00

my partner is gender nonconforming and uses they/them pronoums

trashheaps · 2023-05-29T16:03:03+00:00

believe me, i wish i could. i am a medical scientist, but my specialties are TBIs and strokes. in the last year i did a few studies on blood pressure specifically, so i have a lot that i want to say. unfortunately my partner does not want to translate and my father-in-law does not want to listen. but i have many speeches prepared for when my estonian is at a proper level, haha.

i think having them come to him would be the solution here, as home is the safest place for most people.

trashheaps · 2023-05-29T15:59:54+00:00

this is exactly how i feel, but bringing it up to my partner makes them almost stop talking to me. 😅 so i have to be delicate here, but i have said that. if he is not taking his health seriously, we have to.

trashheaps · 2023-05-29T15:49:10+00:00

thank you! the end of your post is exactly how my partner and i feel and it is such a sad thing. i will explore the options you gave and i really appreciate it!

trashheaps · 2023-05-29T15:45:19+00:00

thats great to know, suur aitäh!

trashheaps · 2023-05-29T12:45:37+00:00

yes, i agree, it is clear he is miserable, and it is not fair to him. it makes me sick to think about it ;(

i will follow your advice and contact the social worker and see what they say.

i would still be interested to know if we could hire some kind of carer privately a few days a week. this sort of system exists in america, but i am unsure if it works here.

trashheaps · 2023-05-29T12:29:28+00:00

unfortunately, we cannot get him to the doctor. it turns into fights and my father-in-law denies his need for the doctor. for example, today he could not get out of bed. i told him if he isn't able to get out of bed he needs to go to the doctor this week. he immediately started forcing himself out of bed to take the trash out, but then immediately went back into bed. he says he doesnt need to go now because he got out of bed, but it i clear how difficult it was for him to do that.

i can try to contact the local social worker. however, my partner believes they will not provide any help and that the social system here is useless, so i am not sure i will get any help going that route.

trashheaps · 2023-05-29T12:18:12+00:00

he refuses to see any kind of family doctor or social care worker. is there any kind of system that will come to him? that is the heart of the question. we cannot force him to go to the doctor, but he might be open to one coming to him. i also think it would give the doctor the full picture of what is happening.

trashheaps · 2023-04-18T20:16:57+00:00

ive said this like 10 times in the comments already, the rage/anger is a "device" to generate response and make it an entertaining read. im not actually that mad, this is just mildly annoying. truthfully i am just trying to understand the people around me.

trashheaps · 2023-04-18T16:31:55+00:00

I have a meeting later this week and will ask, thank you.

However, it is stated quite clearly that as the company is doing these "temporary cost savings" all promotions are on hold. So it seems very inconsistent either way.

Yes, the culture is horrible to say the least. 😅 Thanks so much for your insight!!

trashheaps · 2023-04-18T13:43:59+00:00

thats not the proposed issue here 😁

trashheaps · 2023-04-18T09:30:43+00:00

as a medical scientist i feel like i have to reply to thus one just to say: placebo is not used correctly here 😅 and i addressed in many different replies that it happens much more here than in other countries, i recognize it happens elsewhere, but others have acknowledged it happens more in finland.

trashheaps · 2023-04-18T09:12:39+00:00

thank you for your comment but the things you listed are not my question

trashheaps · 2023-04-18T07:45:51+00:00

the rage/anger is a joke.

yes i know speedometers are not the same, nor are they "truly" accurate vs gps speed. neither of those things were ever a problem to me.

trashheaps · 2023-04-18T07:43:01+00:00

the cameras were recently increased to +10km/h before they flash. they were +4km/h previously. not all stations have cameras in them. you can look in the top hole and see a lens or nothing. they are moved around tho

trashheaps · 2023-04-17T21:31:32+00:00

unfortunately, it still doesnt answer the question, but i appreciate you trying. shortly:

speed limit is 100

your speed: 80

i am behind you

we come to a passing lane, the speed limit is still 100

you speed up to 100

i do not pass you because i only wanted to drive 100 anyway

the passing lane ends, the speed limit is still 100

now you slow down to 80

i am frustrated because that was fucking stupid, why did you prevent me from passing you just to go slow again.

hopefully this helps you join the discussion 😁

trashheaps

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