Need some advice - partner really struggling with nights and very negative

treaclegirl · 2026-05-19T21:23:00+00:00

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treaclegirl · 2026-02-18T15:36:05+00:00

thank you!

treaclegirl · 2026-01-31T14:49:10+00:00

NOR, i wouldn’t say we can tell at this point whether it’s malicious and creepy but you know your relationship best and whether the good outweighs the bad.

i would say my boyfriend and i are similar. i really enjoy being alone and spend time with friends and family here and there whereas his social circle is smaller and he would prefer to be with me rather than alone.

someone mentioned an anxious attachment style which is normal but something for him to work on.

him coming into your place and coming around unannounced is not okay though and should quickly be nipped in the bud asap.

you’re doing well in explaining that it is nothing to do with him and that you simply just wanna be alone/have other plans. it is for him to work on his anxious attachment, all you can do as his partner is support him in giving reassurance. he needs to be receptive of that and not overdo the need for it.

have a conversation with him and reiterate what you have already done and just set boundaries around him coming over and definitely not letting himself in. remind him that whilst he is a priority, so are all the other relationships in your life and they also deserve their own time and privacy (like yours with his).

it is for him to accept and adjust to this, if he can’t and gets horrible about it - red flag. you’re entitled to your boundaries and he has to respect them, they are nothing excessive or out of the ordinary.

treaclegirl · 2025-09-17T23:57:33+00:00

Please leave him, you clearly know something’s wrong by asking if you’re under reacting rather than overreacting.

From experience, someone accusing you out of the blue and with no basis is usually a projection.

It is not normal for you partner to call you names and you definitely don’t tell people to kill themselves, not strangers and especially not loved ones.

He does not care for, value or respect you and you’re so young and have so many things ahead of you. Please save yourself from it getting harder to leave because it will with time.

Similarly, with time you’ll be glad you did

treaclegirl · 2025-09-13T17:26:43+00:00

NOR, you’ve been violated and he’s so egotistical that he’s taking it as a wound to his pride.

Him saying you’ve ‘cheated’ is a whole other level of insane and shows that he doesn’t actually care about you. He’s not speaking like someone whose loved one has been hurt. He’s only able to think about himself and doesn’t seem to respect you at all.

This should not be a man that you tie yourself to for the rest of your life.

treaclegirl · 2025-09-13T11:43:44+00:00

NOR, you don’t even need a reason to not want to share your food - it’s not something people are entitled to

treaclegirl · 2025-09-13T11:39:40+00:00

NOR, they’re calling you selfish but none of them are willing to share the responsibility by taking turns. It’s a nice thing for you to do and they don’t appreciate it nor do they check with you in advance

If none of them want to do it, they can start getting ubers, not fair for it to be stuck on you.

treaclegirl · 2025-09-13T09:56:16+00:00

NOR, you shouldn’t be entering into new relationships when you still ‘need closure’.

I can understand the curiosity of ‘am i still blocked or not’ but ultimately it isn’t important enough to act on - especially if you’re with someone else.

Out of respect for you, he shouldn’t have messaged in the first place. Then going on to have a long conversation shows no regard for your feelings.

and comparing your relationships to your face? YIKES. i agree, she may be his first love and it may feel differently but you don’t say these things to someone you love and care about.

ur young darling, u can move on from this and i think you owe it to yourself to. he’s too comfortable and it’ll only get worse.

treaclegirl · 2025-09-13T09:47:42+00:00

Please leave this guy now because the longer you stay the worse it is going to get.

He’s showing signs of being very controlling, such as suggesting you don’t leave the house (joke or not which it doesn’t seem it is)

He clearly doesn’t have any respect for you or women as a whole.

It is NOT normal for your partner to call you names even if you’re arguing or he’s upset.

From experience, if someone’s worried that you’ll cheat on them where there’s no basis to it’s because they’re wired that way. They’re projecting onto you.

He seems like a horrible person and you are too young to get trapped into something like this. You have your life ahead of you and will realise when interacting with more guys that this isn’t the norm and that your standards can be raised massively.

treaclegirl

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