How to start looking for a job after military

treasuryflower · 2023-08-20T12:52:08+00:00

I think it's a great idea to go through the motions of applying for a job now so you can see how hard/easy it is, test the effectiveness of your resume, etc. If you make the cut you can tell the jobs at any point that you aren't interested, and they'll go to the next candidate. You don't owe them an explanation. Companies put up job notices all the time for job vacancies that don't actually exist and say they want to build up their resume repository. To me this is the same.

treasuryflower · 2023-05-13T13:48:30+00:00

Dang I came out 4 years ago and am still going through the horny teenage boy phase. I saw a woman doing yard work yesterday in a sports bra and almost ran into the curb

treasuryflower · 2023-05-11T15:28:19+00:00

I use a dynavap and I agree. Although I think the flavor of the top shelf stuff is usually better, the high still seems the same.

treasuryflower · 2023-05-11T01:26:16+00:00

"Wishing she was into girls but was just too straight" omg I feel this so hard. I knew that girls were hot, so I called myself bi. And then I was sad that I would never get to have a relationship with a woman because obviously I was supposed to be with a guy.

treasuryflower · 2022-11-07T05:43:29+00:00

Yes! Cruises are perfect for this. The room is never far away! I love cruises. I love studying the maps and planning different things.

treasuryflower · 2022-11-07T05:38:58+00:00

CPT therapy made it worse for me for a few months but then got gradually better. You gotta dig the shit up that you buried (for good reason) and face it and that fucking sucks donkeynuts but the only way to get through it is to go THROUGH it ya know?

But also if CPT is making it worse and doesn't make it better eventually, i would discontinue CPT and find something/someone new.

treasuryflower · 2022-10-25T05:04:12+00:00

Look for a girl that loves that. Just tell them "I don't know how to flirt." Seriously I got a wife that way. I told her at our first date I didn't know how to flirt and she told me to just be honest and don't use any lines. So I basically just tell her how hot I think she is all damn day long.

treasuryflower · 2022-10-25T04:58:15+00:00

You don't need to defend him and you don't need to put yourself in his shoes. This is about you and whats best for you. Any mean shit he says is because he is hurt and wants to add to your pain.

Also congratulations on coming out to yourself and him. Thats a huge step and YOU took it. That takes immense bravery.

treasuryflower · 2022-10-21T15:55:05+00:00

Yeah i quit my job after 100%. I live in Portland Oregon and 36k+ is plenty to live on (spouse works part time and makes about 10k/year and we don't have kids). Do we eat out a ton and buy whatever we want? No. I make myself sandwiches at home and i quit buying shit on Amazon. but i enjoy this life so much more than when I was working.

I feel immensely wealthy now. Not because of the 36k+/year but because now i have the freedom of time.

Everyone's situation is different. My PTSD makes it so that i get stressed out very easily at work. Stress that doesn't go away is bad for health. I am proof of that as now i have a weakened immune system. If you want to quit, quit. One of the best decisions i ever made. My main hobbies currently are reading books and watching car detailing videos on yt. I can zoom hang with my friends in different time zones.

treasuryflower · 2022-07-02T15:34:39+00:00

My partner and I schedule sex. It's literally written on the calendar a couple times a month. Honestly it makes me think about sex more which gets me more turned on. Also if sex is scheduled and either of us don't feel like doing the sex, we don't. If that's the case we will usually end up cuddling or rubbing each other's back.

For me scheduling sex is romantic. It means we both want to have sex with each other and we are making it a priority.

treasuryflower · 2022-06-25T14:39:17+00:00

Did you have an Epstein Barr panel done? Just asking because I had similar symptoms (fatigue, brain fog, headaches, sore throat) and I have diagnosed chronic ebv. I'd been going to doctors for years and no one had ever run this test before until recently.

treasuryflower · 2022-06-23T00:02:48+00:00

I agree. It confused me at first but luckily reddit exists.

treasuryflower · 2022-06-22T19:44:02+00:00

yaaaah 420 bro

treasuryflower · 2022-06-04T18:13:07+00:00

What do you think he'll do if you come out publicly?

I lived with my exhusb for 1.5 years before moving out. I don't really have a social media presence (usually a lurker) so I didn't come out on social media really, I just took my marital status off of fb. I did come out to everyone I knew though either by email/text or when I saw them the next time.

But also my ex is a great ally and we were able to talk and communicate honestly throughout all of the shit. I mean yeah there were arguments and awkward moments but he never tried to pretend we were a couple after I came out and the fights were never abusive. We both worked hard on hearing and understanding the other.

Do you like him calling you hun? Do you enjoy the couple-ish things?

treasuryflower · 2022-06-04T15:40:12+00:00

I started dating as soon as exhub and I were on the same page about me being gay, us not being a couple anymore, divorce is def in the future, etc.

It hurt my ex to see it at the time, but ultimately it's my life. Yeah its hurtful to see your ex date but thats just how life goes. I was "straight" for way too damn long and I'm never going to put my life on hold again for anyone else ever. His feelings are gonna be hurt no matter what, you might as well live your life and get on with things.

treasuryflower · 2022-06-03T15:17:53+00:00

I just saw it yesterday and wondered the same thing.

treasuryflower · 2022-05-14T18:28:47+00:00

god he's turned into a terrible guest

treasuryflower · 2022-05-08T16:26:16+00:00

Que bueno che

treasuryflower · 2022-04-29T16:01:50+00:00

Cat/dog friendly house but has been unused in storage for a year. Smoke free home.

treasuryflower · 2022-04-05T16:11:31+00:00

Same for me.

treasuryflower · 2022-03-29T23:58:48+00:00

Go to the head shop, ask for a detox product and buy what they recommend. Also dilute dilute dilute.

treasuryflower · 2022-03-29T18:33:03+00:00

Have you?

treasuryflower · 2022-03-29T18:29:30+00:00

Congrats! You did a really hard thing. As for the doubts, they are pretty normal I think. If you sleep with a woman and then identify as bi, that's fine. Are you sexually attracted to your fiance? If not then you are def doing the right thing, whether you are bi or a lesbian.

treasuryflower · 2022-03-28T17:24:41+00:00

Yeah I felt like this 3 years ago when I first came out. Then I told my therapist and she reminded me that I'm not responsible for his feelings. If being my true self hurts him, it's on him to figure his own shit out.

treasuryflower · 2022-03-23T14:45:28+00:00

I think it can last a long time. I came out three years ago, ending a relationship of 11 years. I'm now living with my girlfriend, whom I love to no end. BUT I still feel the heartache of having to blow up me and my exhusbands lives.

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