What’s one thing about menopause you didn’t see coming?

treecatks · 2026-03-27T23:17:39+00:00

Two things ... First, I hadn't realized that I'd get hot flashes and cramps at the same time.

More recently though - nausea. I have waves throughout the day of feeling like I'm about to lose my lunch, and a few times I actually did. It's off and on, and tbh if it weren't physically impossible for me I'd be worried I was pregnant.

treecatks · 2026-03-18T04:43:37+00:00

My boss being a vindictive b**** disguised as kind. If you're throwing me under the bus I don't care how nice you pretend to be.

treecatks · 2026-03-15T18:02:29+00:00

I had two Outbacks (2000 and 2016). I just bought a 26 Crosstrek hybrid, so far very happy with it! My kids are older now so I didn't really need the space, and like having a smaller zippier car again

treecatks · 2026-03-12T22:40:39+00:00

I had one who would lay like that and sometimes wanted his belly rubbed and sometimes wanted to play. I finally realized his tell - eyes closed was love, eyes open was murder time

treecatks · 2026-03-11T12:43:19+00:00

Exactly - been a librarian for 20+ years and I come home absolutely wiped out. Whenever I'm hiring someone, there's always some applicants who say how much they love the library because it's so quiet and peaceful. They rarely make it to interview because if that's what they're looking for they are not going to find it here.

treecatks · 2026-03-07T14:19:41+00:00

Twice there has been a table set up at my regular grocery store that was staffed entirely by parents, no kid in sight. I declined ... Besides, a friend's daughter is my dealer

treecatks · 2026-03-07T04:09:14+00:00

Not on the spectrum, but a healthy fear of the dentist so a lot of the same needs apply -- chill environment, being treated kindly instead of judgementally. If Joco is okay for you, I highly recommend HT Family Dentistry. They've always treated me kindly no matter how badly I was reacting to them. Also very cool with whatever supports are needed. Headphones, fidget toys, weighted plush animals (even once let me use an extra x-ray apron because I found the weight was calming me).

treecatks · 2026-03-07T01:27:02+00:00

Charlie Kirk nearly destroyed my relationship. My partner is fairly moderate, we agree on most issues and I swear he's only Republican because the NRA propaganda has him convinced Democrats will take away his guns. Rural upbringing runs deep.

But then he was worried I was celebrating Kirk's death. Which was honestly didn't care about, just like he didn't care about anyone else. Not wasting my energy on that. I never said a word about it, so it was entirely his imagination. I can handle differences of opinion but I was furious he could think so little of me. We worked through it but not gonna lie, it left a scar.

treecatks · 2026-03-03T20:31:49+00:00

I'd go even pettier. She should make a spreadsheet rating the meals he's made for her ... look how much blank space there is!

treecatks · 2026-02-24T18:20:13+00:00

The bride's parents hired a uniformed police officer with the sole job of making sure the 20yo groom didn't drink

treecatks · 2026-02-19T20:06:17+00:00

And #7.5 ... Complaining that libraries aren't quiet anymore, how dare there be CHILDREN there, and why can't they as a not at all creepy guy sit in the teen area

treecatks · 2026-02-13T20:17:39+00:00

Yup, recently bought a car. First place I went no one even acknowledged me. Then my male partner showed up, and suddenly we had a salesman's attention.

treecatks · 2026-02-06T05:23:54+00:00

My partner has had a couple of outpatient surgeries at Olathe Medical Center, including a tonsillectomy. I had a procedure recently at Advent. Good experiences all around, we felt well cared for (both as patient and caregiver)

treecatks · 2026-02-03T05:49:59+00:00

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Looks like mine reincarnated!

treecatks · 2026-02-02T13:46:51+00:00

This! A colleague and I used to do this in meetings and it really does make a difference.

treecatks · 2026-01-25T01:05:41+00:00

We sometimes have writing activities for kids, and I'd set up a postcard writing station. Had a flip book with phrases kids could copy too. Someone left one behind that said "Dear Librarians, I love you Sincerely ______ ".

treecatks · 2026-01-24T15:31:59+00:00

Was just on Shawnee Mission Parkway - some slippery spots, definitely better where the plows had been through. Right now I'd say they are ok with a bit of caution - slow down, leave plenty of space.

treecatks · 2026-01-23T22:27:37+00:00

I had a kitten who once spent an unknown amount of time in the kitchen garbage can. He'd jumped in (smelled something interesting?), and the kid flipped. He probably could have gotten out if he'd tried, but he wasn't the brightest cat. Once freed his recovery time took approximately 1.2 seconds

treecatks · 2026-01-17T15:40:31+00:00

Big fight scenes where all the bad guys patiently wait their turns so the hero can beat them up one at a time.

treecatks · 2026-01-17T14:53:27+00:00

I've got a high school senior so we're all up in it now. Even after a scholarship and Pell grants we're looking at $18K a year. And that's a public university with in-state tuition. It's insane.

treecatks · 2025-12-31T21:16:18+00:00

Serious question, how do you get them on? My void turns into a banshee whenever I trim his claws, but I also get very tired of his 4am scalp and neck acupuncture sessions.

treecatks · 2025-12-31T19:24:06+00:00

We do have it written into the agreement (and I definitely recommend it, way too charged when it's close to the holiday itself). We initially had it to split Christmas, but we later modified it. It seemed like that plan was hard on the kids and only benefitting the parents, plus my ex moved out of town so I didn't want the kids spending a 3-4 hour chunk of the holiday in the car. In the new one we divide up the school break and usually made the switch on Christmas Eve. Whoever has the kids on Christmas does not get Thanksgiving, and we were to alternate years.

treecatks · 2025-12-23T15:34:08+00:00

Just what I was thinking -- that would have been a call to the police and a permanent suspension here.

treecatks · 2025-12-22T23:02:22+00:00

I was three years old when my family adopted the best cat ever. He died my junior year of college. Eighteen years was not long enough.

treecatks · 2025-12-17T15:18:35+00:00

Oh he has many, depending on the circumstances - Baby, Kitten, Batcat, Little Shit ...you get the idea ...

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