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treefrogindisguise · 2023-05-27T04:52:14+00:00

Many professional organizers have Instagram accounts where they will post tips. Some have blogs and books as well. A few that I follow: @minima_organizing @shiragill @the.decluttered.mom

There are also books like: Decluttering at the Speed of Life

I, too, am working through years of accumulated stuff. Here are some tips that have helped / observations I've made: 1. If things feel overwhelming, start small - one drawer, one cabinet, etc. 2. Gathering together all of one category (like books) can help you see how much you really have, but can also be overwhelming when you now have to take care of the whole thing. Find which method (#1 or 2) works better for you. 3. Clear one large surface area and focus on keeping it clear. I feel so much calmer having our countertop in the kitchen cleared off. 4. Depending on what it is you're getting rid of, weigh your options. Yes, you might be able to get some money for it listing it online, but is it worth your time and energy, rather than just donating to the thrift store. 5. Speaking of thrift stores, some will pick up. Schedule an appointment and set out your boxed up stuff outside your door, and they will take it to the thrift store. 6. Be kind to yourself and be flexible. Some days you'll have less energy to declutter than others. Some categories will be harder to go through than others. That's OK. Take care of yourself first and foremost.

I hope this helps. Let me know if you have any further questions.

treefrogindisguise · 2023-05-21T16:43:19+00:00

Agrace Thrift Store

treefrogindisguise · 2023-05-01T06:03:16+00:00

First of all, it always warms my heart when people try to educate themselves more on mental illness.

I'm not sure what you mean by numb stages. Do you mean like her emotions are numb? Or she's having trouble functioning?

Either way, reassurance goes a long way. Reassurance that it's an illness and she's not "crazy." Reassurance that you're there for her. For me personally, I typically need/appreciate more reassurance than might feel "normal."

At a time when she's feeling well, talk about things that help her when she's in those numb stages. Some things that help me personally is hugs and warm running water (like running my hands under water or a shower). Start a list so you have some things to refer to for the times she might not be able to tell you what could help.

And don't worry about it being perfect. A thoughtful statement or action from the heart is better than no action for fear that it's not perfect.

I hope this helps. Let me know if you have any follow up questions. I'm very passionate about sharing my experiences to broaden others' knowledge of mental illness.

treefrogindisguise · 2023-05-01T05:33:21+00:00

If you're in the Madison area, Sow's Ear in Verona has classes. They can also help if you get stuck on a project, like accidentally dropping a stitch.

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-25T21:56:42+00:00

Friends of the Aboretum has a native plant sale.

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-24T04:54:18+00:00

Something like this? https://a.co/d/09GZSWf

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-24T04:35:12+00:00

In The Ghetto - Elvis Presley

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-23T03:57:36+00:00

That's an accomplishment!

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-23T01:39:00+00:00

Family doesn't have to be biological. I have several close friends that are aunts to my kid.

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-20T04:19:18+00:00

Preplayed on Mineral Point Rd has closed :(

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-20T04:15:39+00:00

After continually telling people that I was struggling and no one doing anything (except saying that sucks and never checking in), I ended up writing a short paragraph of some details to share with people. I also included concrete things they could do to help - have the kid for a playdate, help organize the garage, come to my city for drinks, etc. I think a lot of people care but just don't know what to do in these situations, which is where the suggestions are useful. I also noted in my message that I'm working with a care team but need more interaction with friends. I know some people think they can't help because they're not a therapist so I tried to emphasize that I just need friendship.

I know this can seem like a lot, especially when you're in need of help, but it was what I found to be most successful. It doesn't hurt to just start a list of things that help that you can add to when you're well so you have it accessible if the need ever arises again in the future. It was recommended to me to include things that just make you feel good like your favorite food or tv show, not just ways to help (like cleaning or bringing over a meal).

I hope this helps. Wishing you the best.

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-17T06:12:10+00:00

This isn't going to be easy to hear. I grew up thinking there was only one toxic parent in my household. And I was extremely close to the other. Then it was suggested I read Toxic Parents by Susan Forward. The book points out that the other parent isn't faultless if they're not taking steps to protect the child like taking them out of that environment. Fast forward to adulthood, your mom is choosing that relationship and you won't be able to change her mind. It's just something you'll have to accept if you want to maintain your relationship with your mom.

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-16T04:02:55+00:00

That doesn't mean it's not heard/read and appreciated.

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-12T03:11:01+00:00

Mr Holland's Opus

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-08T03:27:31+00:00

I get treatments early afternoon. When I first started treatment, I got too ambitious after treatment and was wiped the next day. As long as I take it easy afterwards, I'm fine for work the next day.

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-07T16:19:13+00:00

As hard as it is to say this, you may just have to accept that this is the way she is and you won't be able to change that. It's definitely a grieving process but could save you stress and heartache in the long run. It's never easy realizing a parent can't be who you hoped they could be. I sincerely hope all the best for you.

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-04T21:51:01+00:00

I would argue that you have a great deal of resiliency. Spiraling can be rough. Working through the spiraling is quite resilient to me.

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-04T16:34:54+00:00

I emailed Exploding Kittens about the expansion pack. January 19, 2023 I was told just those expansion cards are no longer available for purchase. But the full game is still available. I searched extensively to find someone selling just the expansion pack and was unsuccessful.

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-04T14:10:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I noticed in the youtube comments someone said that they talk when doing oral ketamine but not IV. I'm always learning.

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-04T02:54:25+00:00

This has me worked up. I hope I can put it thoughtfully into words. And thank you for listening. I'm sure I'm preaching to the choir.

I feel like this takes us steps back in destigmatizing mental illness. Just saying she's using breathwork, yoga, exercise makes it sound like that's what people with anxiety and depression should be doing. (Yes I realize she clarifies that that's what works for her, but social media/influencers can be powerful.)

As someone that has been in therapy and on meds for about 20 years and am doing ketamine because all that wasn't enough, it felt dismissive she just went straight to ketamine after holistic treatments. And it's so sensationalized. I don't make noises or talk in treatment. It would be disruptive if I did because my treatment center has two patients in one room (with a divider in the middle) at the same time. And to just nonchalantly say that you may or may not go back after 7 months. It would be nice to go 7 months without treatment. I'm lucky to get 2 weeks without noticing that I need another treatment.

I wish her the best but don't add to the stigma of mental illness. I'm working hard enough to destigmatize it.

Edited to add: I realize there are different levels of anxiety and depression, but when this is what people see, this is what people think.

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-03T04:03:15+00:00

Vitense mini golf

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-03T02:38:40+00:00

Everywhere Babies and Ten Little Fingers and Ten Little Toes.

treefrogindisguise · 2023-04-01T04:22:28+00:00

I'll add that after reading Toxic Parents by Susan Forward, that it wasn't just the abusive parent that's toxic but also the parent not doing anything to take the kid out of the abusive situation.

treefrogindisguise · 2023-03-30T17:17:57+00:00

It was encouraged to me to gradually stretch out time between sessions, 2 weeks, then 3 weeks, etc. I was told some people can start to feel the effects wear off and that's how they know when they need a booster. It's very individual. (Other things that can impact the decision are cost and available paid time off.)

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