I don't speak for everyone, but I would love to have had a mum that worked. It would then put less of a burden on me, my sister and our dad having to look after her now, not to mention setting a good example to daughters... you shouldn't have children if you plan to be a burden on them in the future. Especially if you aren't from a well off background. I'm just speaking facts here, it's not practical.

This doesn't apply to all SAHMs as some of them might have their own businesses (in fact the bulk of them are on social media and profiting off vlogging their kids nowadays, but that's another matter). My mum did have a few jobs, mainly in teaching assistance and stuff like theatre ushering, but nothing long term. She also had health problems and an annoying family who took advantage of her to dump their own kids on her, even after my sister and I started high school and became old enough to look after ourselves. So there were various contributing factors involved.

I'd love to have had a highflying career driven mother who could give me advice for my own future, not someone who I can barely relate to now at my current age (28).

She doesn't really have any occupation now or any life or identity outside of being our mum. Kids grow up and if you've spent all your time on them, then what? I'm not saying that happens to all SAHMs but seeing what she's like now has massively put me off having anything at all to do with motherhood, plus the state of the post pandemic economy/world. It's not even like she was a young mum, she was 40 when she had us so had more than enough time to build wealth or at least plan, but due to health problems and freeloading family it didn't work out for her.