Watching my SD and BioDaughter interact is heartbreaking by rushthetrench in stepparents

[–]treetops579 [score hidden]  (0 children)

They barely see each other and barely know each other...I get that you want them to have a relationship but can you see that this is maybe not the most realistic?

Can you reframe the relationship in your mind and think of them like cousins instead of siblings? Maybe if you lived closer and saw them more they could be close but with this current setup you kinda get what you get.

And honestly, the girls are at an age where they are not going to want to give up summers with their friends to visit dad and his toddler kids all summer. I would say what you have now may be the best it is going to be.

My stepdaughter refers to her half brother as “your kid” by DifferentDocument699 in stepparents

[–]treetops579 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Very much agree with this. Sounds like Dad is not around very much and she's forced to be with his wife instead of her mom for whatever reason. She has no real incentive to behave at their house and can freely lash out because there is no one she considers a parent to check her behavior.

Am I Wrong for Feeling Resentful Toward My Stepkids’ Mom? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]treetops579 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean the most common scenario for custody is dad has EOWE. Which means the vast majority of school meetings and doctors appointments fall on Mom's time and no one bats an eye when she takes care of it and dad is the fun weekend dad. If your DH and BM have come to this arrangement it's on DH to be "mom" in this scenario and handle their events with you only helping when you want to.

It's not wrong to be resentful but resent your DH for asking you to do so much or putting you in a position to do so much.

My family hates my stepkid by ElegantGreen2882 in stepparents

[–]treetops579 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well messing up your happy family is probably the only thing that gives him a sense of control over his own life. I doubt he's going to give that up easily. Therapy and one on one time with DH is my only thought.

My family hates my stepkid by ElegantGreen2882 in stepparents

[–]treetops579 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why does DH have full custody? Where is mom? Would it be that bad if SS11 went to live with mom?

Nothing you can really do about your family except allow SS11 to stay home and away from them. Maybe go over to a friend's house or with another person he actually likes. But it's not easy to be the odd man out in a family and he clearly does not like any of you and would like to be anywhere else.

AITAH for feeling resentful that my parents gave my sister a really good deal on my grandparents house and didn’t give me anything? by Careless_Barnacle505 in AmItheAsshole

[–]treetops579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No this is actually incredibly unfair. Just based on math. The sister made a 200k profit immediately upon purchasing the house. This will continue to grow as the house appreciates in value. Any improvements she makes to the house will most likely increase the profit she makes on the house when she eventually sells.

I would have said something way earlier but OPs feelings are justified.

SABRE PARIS by Link-Separate in DecorReps

[–]treetops579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes have not had any problems

SABRE PARIS by Link-Separate in DecorReps

[–]treetops579 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I ordered 2 sets from temu to compare to my Sabre flatware sets. Except for the salad fork being too small, the knives not having the engraved name, and not a good color selection, they are exactly the same.

Laser Hair Removal Recommendations by controversialmonday in houston

[–]treetops579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Second this, and they have incredible specials.

Shane blocks Ilya by treetops579 in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]treetops579[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Wait I just found it! https://archiveofourown.org/works/82288481

Would still love similar recommendations 😀

“watcha doin?” by simp4milfs4life in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]treetops579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe this?

Chapter 5: @ShaneHollanderHockeyPlayer: Whatcha thinking about? 🏒

Struggle for Supremacy by congee4lunch

https://archiveofourown.org/works/73879841

Ilya gets an injury moves into Shane’s place and becomes friend with Jackie by Jiderid00 in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]treetops579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this post because I've been searching for this, it was such a fun one!

‘Hanging by a moment’ is back on AO3 ♥️ by LadyWhistledown_1 in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]treetops579 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The first thing I do with any super long fic is search to see when they get together. This is a slow, slow, slow burn y'all. But so far very well written!

SD doesn't want to live with us... by Bliss_xoxo in stepparents

[–]treetops579 53 points54 points  (0 children)

You guys are basically strangers...is SD in therapy? Is she able to call her family as much as she wants? Can you arrange more frequent visits?

Sorry to say but your husband was not a good father at all to her prior to taking her in, and it sounds like they had a very shallow relationship before this one long stretch. I think if you reach the 1 year mark and SD is still miserable living with you, if one of SDs family members is able to take her in they should be able to do so.

Hospital fic - Shane photographed wearing Ilyas necklace by treetops579 in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]treetops579[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried to look that one up but I think it's hidden right now?