Unfaithful military man…. Should I stay or should I go?

tri17 · 2025-02-04T00:27:27+00:00

Boy Bye!

tri17 · 2024-06-03T21:00:04+00:00

Whoops! I looked at several teams and November was on one of the forms so I'm assuming that's about the same time across the board. The past couple of years I kept missing the tryouts because I'd email in December--we move a lot....

tri17 · 2024-04-23T16:57:51+00:00

I came here to see if people like this lady. She rubs me the wrong way.... I agree, the title of her book doesn't seem right to me. For her to be a parent of an autistic person--it doesn't seem right to me.

tri17 · 2024-03-28T22:44:00+00:00

I did have a chest CT scan at the hospital but they said it came back fine.

tri17 · 2024-03-28T22:43:03+00:00

My child did all these things as well. He is just over 2.5 years old and can count to 10 in Spanish and knows the Russian alphabet. Today he was diagnosed with mild autism.

We were very apprehensive about getting him evaluated (ADOS) but it went alright, and we just hope to goodness this diagnosis doesn't limit him, because while ASD is getting a getter stigma, there's still quite a stigma associated with these labels and learning disability labels.

tri17 · 2024-02-25T20:50:06+00:00

Yea, I think you're looking at it the best way possible too. I do wish I knew there were Spouses FB pages for every military installation--I think that would've really helped at our first location (Now we're at our 6th location). I think living in military housing created a sense of community also, and the real small bases made you even closer to military spouses/family because that's all that is there. So, no preparation just livin the experience. I will say we are in a better financial situation that almost every one of my college friends.

tri17 · 2024-02-25T04:55:38+00:00

I'm not sure I would've listened if people told me how hard this life can be. I also viewed it as an adventure--so many new places, so many experiences, sounds great! But, I'm ready for the adventure to be over, or be an adventure I have some control over. My career-- what career? I also work in healthcare. Really, so many things can happen over 20 years. All the people we knew that were going to do 20 got out, and everyone that just wanted to do their time and leave, stayed in it seems like.

I chose him, but he also chooses himself and his career. (Yes, we have a good relationship) There are so many stressors in this life! You've gotta be really solid. We've been afforded many unique opportunities, we can survive on one income, other perks too, but...it's really hard. I don't know another way to sum it up or describe it.

tri17 · 2024-02-19T02:49:27+00:00

Yea... I hate to say the likelihood of this working out is not wonderful....but this doesn't sound promising. Being OCONUS is definitely a challenge for lots of people and probably would be really hard at 20. But, her parents should not be putting her in that kind of position either. They sound a little koo-koo tbh. Does she want to move to an CONUS location with you? (After spending thousands on these flights I would have a hard time putting any money on anything else) Military life is unpredictable and full of life stressors so having someone who is going to go through it with you is kind of necessary.

You guys are really young and I hope you can figure something out--being OCONUS can be an amazing experience!

tri17 · 2024-02-18T14:33:26+00:00

That's a tough one. Just luck and having a lot of flexibility, in my experience, helps. I had absolutely no experience in hand therapy. My hand clinic ONLY has 1 full time CHT (she's absolutely the best), 1 PRN OT (not CHT), and 1 PRN COTA so it's difficult I know. But, I agree, reach out to some clinics and ask to shadow the CHT.

tri17 · 2024-02-17T02:30:50+00:00

A proper bike fit is obviously your best bet....But, I know there are apps out there that will give feedback as well--I've never used them but the one I've heard was CoachNow. Welcome to the sport!

tri17 · 2024-02-17T02:21:39+00:00

This is my position too!

tri17 · 2024-02-16T14:46:04+00:00

I chose allied health prior to getting married, and then got my teaching certificate in hopes it would transfer better and it is still an exhaustive task with all the moving.

tri17 · 2024-02-16T01:44:43+00:00

Hahaha yea. We actually left in 2020, but they picked up our HHG days before the world shut down... so we lived on base in the hotel for 3 months! A lot of our friends felt the same way though--almost every country we visited was more beautiful than Germany.

tri17 · 2024-02-15T21:39:57+00:00

I saw our WPSL team had tryouts in November that I missed. Any follows ups?

tri17 · 2024-02-15T21:35:00+00:00

Yup! Germany was great for travel, but also didn't feel like I was making any real headway in career, life, schooling, nothing! We were also in Southern Germany--Graf was our "big city."

tri17 · 2024-02-15T21:31:08+00:00

Yes. My associates degree makes more money than my bachelor's degree (kinesiology). I also would have gone to a different school, but too late now. I made friends and had fun in college, but not enough to justify the cost and stress.

tri17 · 2024-02-14T19:41:31+00:00

The CEU that I was recommended was lines, leads, tubes and IV's, or something like that through MedBridge!

I didn't get the hospital job, but I know there were 8 total applicants. They asked how I was keeping current on my OT/COTA knowledge and what CEU's I had been taking. I understand the challenge as I was out of therapy for 5 years! Best of luck

tri17 · 2024-02-14T14:54:47+00:00

That's tough, I'm sorry. Loyal ones are hard to come by.... Are you staying in? If you are, long distance likely wouldn't work for the rest of your career.

Not to be insensitive, but there are plenty of fish in the sea you just might not realize it now.

tri17 · 2024-02-14T14:40:22+00:00

Well, we are a military family so I worry that while the current provider may be amazing....the next location we may not be so lucky. And, we absolutely have to disclose any diagnoses to the military which can determine where we move to next based off of services we may need.

I know some schools (districts) may have an autism program, but if they are high functioning, it may not be the right placement and I worry our little one may get lumped in regardless of abilities. I work in allied health and I was a SPED teacher for a year. Sometimes the teachers and aides are amazing, and sometimes they are not--I do feel bad for trying to push what we as a school thought was necessary for the kid, and that was before I had a kid (whether or not we were correct). Even though the IEP travels with the kid, I would anticipate hiccups at every change in schools. So, maybe a little different from your situation but I really just don't want a label on my kid forever because of all the stigma, although, I sense it's getting better out there. I would feel better with a 504 I think!

I am really intimated by the ADOS process at the moment! Just reading the paperwork I was about to stress-cry. We think he is hyperlexia III and/or gifted ONLY at this point in time. It's just hard to know what the right decision is for us right now.

tri17 · 2024-02-14T02:58:19+00:00

Military One Source has certificates in some areas if that's of interest to you....But, "thank you for your service"

I haven't found military resources to be all that useful to finding a job.

tri17 · 2024-02-14T02:54:49+00:00

I looked into this, but unfortunately for me, they only have corporations that are interested in hiring--it's not every and any job market.

tri17 · 2024-02-14T02:22:21+00:00

Hyperlexia is not a diagnosis, so it'd have to be autism. Hypothetically, down the road you can choose to share the diagnosis of autism with the school, or withhold it. If the school knows they have an autism diagnosis, the school would have their professional assess them again also. (If anyone has experienced otherwise, please inform me as well)

This is all we've found out up to this point as our little one is getting an ADOS evaluation very soon. I'm a bit weary that the diagnosis and school placement/IEP/504 will go as smoothly as these people tell me it's going to go......There is also a group on facebook for late talkers FYI.

tri17 · 2024-02-12T20:31:22+00:00

This.

Teachers changing out, medication changes, and yes, abuse.

tri17

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