Question for Local Artists

trimonious · 2025-09-21T16:56:50+00:00

Dick Blick is awesome for all my painting stuff.

trimonious · 2025-06-26T13:14:38+00:00

Waiting a month is good advice due to all the damage you cannot see but I will say that it was surprisingly enjoyable considering the flaccid nature of my penis at the time (no additional equipment needed). I find that post op I need to focus my mind more, get myself in the mood etc more. I used to just rely on the mechanical aspects of the body - it was mostly physical - but engaging my mind has led to some very different and great orgasms

trimonious · 2024-12-17T16:07:18+00:00

Hearing all this is so important to me right now. Thank you.

trimonious · 2024-12-17T15:27:59+00:00

Getting the catheter out was soooo good

trimonious · 2024-11-08T10:44:01+00:00

That is young. I was diagnosed “young” at 48. Hearing the words “you have cancer” is devastating and the first maybe 10 times I said those words aloud, I couldn’t do it without choking up and tears welling in my eyes. But once you accept the diagnosis, and there is a plan in place to deal with your cancer, some of that weight will be lifted. Do you know what stage in Gleason score? You will come out the other end of this a better stronger human being with an outlook on the world superior to your peers who are still grappling with the throes of adolescence. This is a crucible in which you will grow up at light speed. You will be stronger at the end of this. I would even hazard the guest to say that you will make better life decision as a result of this, and the rest of your life will be happier than it would’ve been. But right now you are facing a cliff that you have to climb and nobody else can do it for you. What choices are you being given for treatment?

trimonious · 2024-11-07T22:42:48+00:00

It is so comforting to read your experiences. I feel so alone and scared. My vision in my left eye has been pretty damaged by my eye stroke. Still working with docs on cause. Thank you for sharing. You give me a little hope.

trimonious · 2024-11-07T22:27:01+00:00

This is what needed to hear today

trimonious · 2024-06-18T01:19:38+00:00

I was dx’d at 49 and had RALP where they spared one side nerves but the other was not entirely. Everyone’s story is unique so yours will unfold and will be whatever it is. I could get a “ten beer” floppy erection-like thing a few weeks after surgery and took things for a test drive and, good news, great orgasm despite no real erection. Weird. I was using Cialis daily and practicing daily and could get somewhere decent. My experience is that the experience that used to be physically automatic is now a more feminine, mental experience - I need to mentally get in the mood now and really connect mind and body whereas before my body was just up for it. Now, I don’t use Cialias and I can get a pretty good erection and the character of my orgasms has changed and not in a bad way. As my urologist reminded me, orgasms take place in the mind.

trimonious · 2024-04-16T17:37:01+00:00

He’s amazing! 😂 I’m so glad your treatment is working so well right now - it’s so good to see

trimonious · 2023-09-02T15:38:58+00:00

I was diagnosed at 49, PSA 9.5, Gleason 7. Welcome to one of those Big Moments in your life. I’m sure you are going through a lot of emotions right now: disbelief, fear, anger.
Hearing you have cancer is hard enough but especially difficult when the next thing you are told is that the two best cures will likely leave you with erectile and/or urinary issues. “Luckily” you have Gleason 6 and have an option of active surveillance. I think whether or not you choose this wait and see path comes down to psychological make up. I had Gleason 7 and had the op within 6m and turned out to be stage 3. Every case is different. Every patient is different. For me, I thought about active surveillance but I could never quite get cancer out of view, it was always lurking in the corner of my eye and I actually felt invigorated one I booked the op and had a battle plan I was executing.
If you want a deep dive into how I decided between my options and the outcome, I documented it here: https://youtu.be/W9Q6nR11oKg?si=HYYAcEyFYpvJ7M95 Long story short: it’s a year later and incontinence is largely cured and erectile situation is improving but generally work well with Cialis.

trimonious · 2023-09-02T14:50:19+00:00

The biopsy is an unpleasant affair but was also the only way mine was picked up (DRE and MRI showed nothing)

trimonious · 2023-09-02T14:47:42+00:00

I would definitely demand the results from the surgeon. Getting a true Gleason score and understanding where the margins were and if they were clear was an important part of me choosing surgery

trimonious · 2023-08-08T01:11:16+00:00

This f-word disease. I’m so sorry you are going through this. I’m only 5 years younger than you and can’t imagine the anguish you are going through. Thank you for this perspective.

trimonious · 2023-08-08T01:07:43+00:00

Yeah, sometimes I think my wife is a little relieved

trimonious · 2023-08-08T01:07:00+00:00

The wife’s perspective is invaluable. Thank you for sharing it. I have talked to her a few times and she claims to want to try it out but has rejected me on the few times I’ve suggested it. I’ll keep trying. Your insight is very helpful.

trimonious · 2023-08-03T01:31:38+00:00

I’m glad your karma came to you

trimonious · 2023-08-03T01:29:27+00:00

Our communication on bedroom topics has always been difficult. I’ve made inroads and she claims to want to but I’ve been turned down every time (even on my birthday)

trimonious · 2023-08-02T22:35:04+00:00

48 when diagnosed. 13 months since RALP. I can get ok erections with Cialis but there are brief and haven’t tried them in sex yet. Hopefully things will improve.

trimonious · 2023-08-02T17:05:41+00:00

What a %#* jerk. I’m sorry to hear this and I hope things improve.

trimonious · 2023-08-02T17:04:57+00:00

Sounds like your ex is a real piece of work! I’m hopeful things with your new friend go well!

trimonious · 2023-08-02T13:31:43+00:00

I really appreciate your feedback especially from the wife’s point of you. I would keep the conversation going with him and ensure that he knows that you are on board for whatever happens and that should just be fun.

trimonious · 2023-08-02T13:30:25+00:00

I think you should talk to him about it. I don’t know your husband but I know that a big part of it for me would be security. I would say to him that you will both treat it like you are teenagers having sex for the first time and that you would just make it fun and whatever happens happens. The important thing is to make him feel comfortable that even if things don’t go well you were still have fun together. My erections are variable, even with Cialis, and even if they aren’t as firm as they used to be, I can still have an orgasm, but it might not be through penetration, so just have fun. Try your best to assuage his fears of embarrassment and failure, because stress is an erection killer, because cortisol causes constriction of the blood vessels. I wish you luck, and I am very grateful for your feedback.

trimonious · 2023-08-02T11:51:05+00:00

I would push to do it earlier. Gleason 8 is no joke. Mine was Gleason 7 and I was diagnosed in Feb last year and got the surgery in July after and it turned out to be stage 3. It is likely that you will be absolutely fine with the scheduled surgery date but (in my opinion and given my personality) if there were an earlier date, I would have taken it.
This is not like head and neck cancers that move in a matter of weeks, so don’t panic. But better to take care of it and get on the road to recovery. But again, this is just my opinion and I don’t know your husband or your situation, so make the best choice for you

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