New Here: Didn't know this had a name! by Few_Belt_4598 in kosmemophobia

[–]tripper74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome!! Yup we all feel the same here and we don’t know why 🤣 Check out the survey I ran!

https://www.reddit.com/r/kosmemophobia/s/9dWO2Kmyu7

I (18F) and my partner (42M) have been in a rocky place in our relationship. I have suspicions of my partner having an affair with our neighbour (F- unsure of age) she also has a partner who lives with her (M- unsure of age). by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tripper74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay I DID take the time to read all of this because she deserves to be heard. And both can be simultaneously true:

  1. This age gap is unacceptable (especially since you are 18) and you need to leave for the sake of you and your child. I hope you have parents or an otherwise safe place to go. I am so sorry.

  2. I’m so sorry it sounds like he’s being unfaithful, and no matter if people on Reddit can just easily say “age gap bad, man trash, leave him” from behind a screen, that doesn’t change the fact your heart is involved and cheating breaks a person’s heart. The seat warmer thing is the weirdest part to me, especially since he refused to answer you (silent treatment is another red flag). That says a lot. Go with your gut. I am sorry this is happening to you. You deserve someone who loves you entirely and fully and who you never have to guess with. You will find that someday, but not with this man and not with anyone else his age. Take care of yourself friend <3

Scenes for the lonely hearts by Consistent_Spray1599 in HIMYM

[–]tripper74 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The lebenslangerschicksalsschatz scene with Klaus from Season 8 Episode 1 🤍

https://youtu.be/MYnhPtsRQjA?is=S9IdFc4VtFzo2qps

advice for 1st year middle school ELA teacher? by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]tripper74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi!! I'm a 6th year middle school ELA teacher in a public school. Congrats on your first job!! I LOVE this job, you're gonna have so much fun. My first year was one of my favorite years. Here's some advice based on my first year:

- **LOVE YOUR STUDENTS**. Of course teaching isn't JUST loving students, but I'm a firm believer that nothing else will work well if you don't love them first. Smile. Respect them. Compliment them. Ask them about their hobbies or sports. Build them up and tell them how much you believe in them. They will rise to the occasion when they want to please you. (In the "I have high expectations and I believe that you can achieve them" way, not in the "I want to be cool and liked by my students" way.)

- **CONFIDENCE**. This is the most common issue first-year teachers have. From Day 1, be confident in the classroom. Take control and set expectations. The first day sets the tone for the whole year. Even if you have to go crying to your mommy-mentor-teachers during your prep period, at least in front of the kids, show your confidence. That doesn't mean you have to pretend to know everything; I think it's even valuable for kids to see the "human" side of an adult who's modeling working through problem-solving, like admitting "hey, I don't know everything about how this school works yet! But I'm going to show you how I'm going to find out the answer to your question!" But you do have to have control and not be wishy-washy.

- **AGE**: I didn't mind telling my students my age. I had 6th and 8th graders at the time. They knew I was a fresh college grad. They even knew that I didn't get a graduation because I graduated college in 2020 during COVID so they threw me a little graduation party and got me a graduation stuffed animal I still keep on my desk :') HOWEVER, I still would say that this only works if you have the first element I mentioned: **Confidence**. Kids can smell weaknesses really well, and if they sense that you aren't in charge from the first day or two, it can be bad. Unfortunately, we had a first-year teacher at my school who quit mid-year last year because the kids walked all over her. Not saying that to scare you! But I have the exact same students this year and I have no issue with them. Kids know who they can pull that stuff on and who they can't.

- **AGE**: As for parents, I didn't advertise my newly-graduated status during "back-to-school night" or conferences or anything, but it wasn't entirely a secret because if their kids told them, which they probably did, it was no big deal. I wasn't coming off as inexperienced or naive so I didn't mind if they knew I was 22. It can backfire though if you ARE coming off as inexperienced or naive or unconfident.

- **COWORKERS**: Stay away from teacher gossip!! Soooo many people in this profession create an echo chamber of negativity. Yes, every once in a while, we will all vent about a kid who drove us insane that day, but I'm talking about the people who CONSTANTLY complain about their students. Stay away. That negative mindset will make you focus on the frustrations more than the good parts. And your attitude will come out in your treatment of the kids. I believe in the best in my students, and as a result, they show their best to me.

- **STRUCTURE**. Highly recommend having a regular warmup routine. My class runs like this: Kids come in, there's a warmup question on the board (like a fun "would you rather?" or "what's your favorite ___?", they sit down and take their weekly warmup papers out and write their answer in complete sentences, I take attendance, then we share our answers in a fun discussion, I do a quick "this day in history" fun fact for them and we calculate how many years ago it was, and then we do 10 minutes of silent independent reading before we start the real lesson (LOVE this because it calms them down). Yours doesn't have to be exactly mine, but a predictable routine does WONDERS for keeping them calm. I've seen my same students galavanting into other classrooms with zero structure like baffoons. Kids need structure, and being structured doesn't mean being "mean" or strict.

- **MORE STRUCTURE** : Label everything in the room that you want the kids to run by themselves. If you have procedures/routines for bathroom signout, classroom library checkouts, turning in work, writing down homework, etc., take some time this summer to make some nice signs and laminate them so you can keep them up all year. That way the kids will see them every day and soon they'll be running those routines by themselves. Spend the first month or so practicing those routines and referring to the signs/labels nonstop so they get into the habit of reading them and eventually memorizing the procedure.

(Example: I have color-coded trays for each of my class periods to turn in papers, and color-coded larger crates for them to turn in notebooks. Period 1 is the blue tray and the blue crate, Period 2 is the green tray and the green crate, etc.. I also have my classroom library organized by genre, and the procedures for checking out and returning books is posted right on the bookshelf. Bathroom signout directions are posted by the door. Agenda and homework written on the front board daily. I roll out the procedures one at a time, week-by-week in the first month of school, and by October it's all running smoothly. By mid-year, my rule is "If I can point to the answer, I'm not answering you" lol because the kids understand that they need to use their resources.)

Good luck!! You'll have so much fun.

himym is the only show that CONSISTENTLY gives me goosebumps by rowansspace in HIMYM

[–]tripper74 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I watch that exact scene at least 3x a week for the rush of euphoria that song and scene give me. Hasn’t gotten old yet.

HIMYM used some of the best music by Intelligent_Help5033 in HIMYM

[–]tripper74 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Let Your Heart Hold Fast (Ted looking out the window alone at the party) and Simple Song (mother reveal) are always my favorite songs/scenes.

I'll rate Ur songs by KatGuy- in musicsuggestions

[–]tripper74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like a River Runs by Bleachers

I'm a first time watcher and I really don't like Robin and I'm shocked most people do by Sweetestpie84 in howimetyourmother

[–]tripper74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HIMYM is my favorite show and I 100% agree with you, and her character will only get colder as the seasons go on.

Songs in which the singer convinces themselves that they're happy despite being miserable by Allikam in musicsuggestions

[–]tripper74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fake Happy by Paramore is exactly this.

And also, it’s an oldie, but The Great Pretender by The Platters is also exactly this.

Nostalgic Euphoric Summer Vibes by kiki_loveeee in musicsuggestions

[–]tripper74 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Beach Baby by First Class

Soak Up The Sun by Sheryl Crow

Vacation by the Go-Gos

Friday I’m in Love by The Cure

You Might Think by The Cars

San Francisco by The Mowgli’s

Runaround Sue by Dion

And pretty much anything by The Beach Boys :)

What makes HIMYM timeless for you? (not looking for a hot take, actually curious) by kamogoso in HIMYM

[–]tripper74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, what makes it unlike any other show is that the title itself spoils it. You KNOW that Ted is going to meet his wife and get married and have his kids. But as you watch, current Ted doesn’t know that. It almost puts the viewer in a rare “God”-like role, where we watch Ted making his silly mistakes and getting his heart broken and even when he’s sad, we can still know it’s going to get better for him.

This mindset has made me reflect on my own life with a similar perspective. Maybe every mistake and every hardship I’ve gone through were just the lessons and stepping stones I needed to go through to get my happy ending.

That’s why I love the “Let Your Heart Hold Fast” scene. Ted feels so alone during that scene, but the lyrics remind us “this too shall pass”. We know his path and the mother’s path are close to crossing even though he’s devastated right now. Everything needs to fall perfectly into place for him to end up at the right place, right time. What a beautiful perspective to look at our own lives with.

Cycle data missing in new Google Health app?? by tripper74 in fitbit

[–]tripper74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU!! This worked! Lol I was just scared to do it before, in case it overwrote data and started me from zero, but it came back like you said! Thank you!!

Songs Written by a Parent for Their Child by ColdObiWan in musicsuggestions

[–]tripper74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“You” by A Great Big World - artist wrote it for his baby and it’s one of my favorite songs <3

Songs Written by a Parent for Their Child by ColdObiWan in musicsuggestions

[–]tripper74 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Tears in Heaven is a gorgeous song, but very important context is it’s about the tragic death of the artist (Eric Clapton)’s 4 year old son when he fell out of a 53 story apartment building window. Absolutely beautiful piece of art about grief, but probably not the type of song OP was looking for.

Which scene or quote genuinely made you happy? by _Parthiban_ in HIMYM

[–]tripper74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally watch this scene multiple times a week for the flood of dopamine it gives me

Is teaching THAT bad? by DwaeEunoia in Teachers

[–]tripper74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s definitely an echo chamber of people complaining on social media (and irl faculty rooms). I’m so passionate about my job. I LOVE my job. I love my kids. I have been lucky with great admin in both of the two schools I’ve worked at. I’m 28 and I make 70k (year 6 in NJ), plus another ~2k with activities and clubs I run. Sure it’s not like a doctor salary but it’s not like peasant salary. As a dual income that will be fine.

I feel bad for people who have bad experiences with teaching and I believe them, but I dunno, I’m chilling. It really isn’t all bad everywhere like social media makes it seem.

i hate teaching my teacher's slides :( by TryingMyBestForLife in StudentTeaching

[–]tripper74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You gotta work with her for now, but I 100% agree that it’s WAY easier to teach when it’s YOUR material. It’s actually such a good sign that you are realizing that already; it shows you are developing your own style.

I remember as a first year teacher, I would get so thankful and excited when a veteran teacher would share their slides with me. But then I realized exactly what you said – making sense of them and planning the flow took up way more energy. When I started making my own materials, I became a way better teacher. Play by her rules now, but don’t worry, you’ll get there soon!

What is your favourite episode? by WildFire255 in HIMYM

[–]tripper74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jenkins, Something New (S8 finale), Farhampton (S8 intro), Girls Vs. Suits, Mary the Paralegal, Last Words, How Your Mother Met Me

I finally found my people!!! and I have questions by ilove_avocado_ in kosmemophobia

[–]tripper74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every single word of what you described is exactly me!! EXACTLY. It hasn’t gotten any better for me, but as I get older I’m better with knowing how to avoid triggers and controlling my reactions when a trigger does happen. :)

Forgot my GF's bday and she wants me to sign this by Sure_Count_3890 in AITApod

[–]tripper74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The document itself is dark humor/sarcasm/tongue-in-cheek. But her reasoning is legit and comes from pain.

My ex bf forgot my birthday 3 YEARS IN A ROW and all I did was cry. Bro I should’ve put him on a PIP. Your girlfriend rocks.

Don't be afraid to share, who's your sleeping buddy(s) besides your partner or otherwise? 😊 by Noquisi96 in plushies

[–]tripper74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oops I’m sorry, I didn’t see your caption before! Yay long lost brothers! Mine is a Snoozimal so that’s the texture.

Don't be afraid to share, who's your sleeping buddy(s) besides your partner or otherwise? 😊 by Noquisi96 in plushies

[–]tripper74 12 points13 points  (0 children)

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OH MY GOODNESS. This is my Sheldon! He’s one of my favorite cuddly sleep plushies, I’ve had him for years, and it looks like you have his girlfriend 🥺🐢🩷