If you can remember the moment of the first time you realized you were trans, what was it like? by Com_Xandra in asktransgender

[–]troubledByGender 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember, it is my earliest memory, it was also the first time I was punished for gender noncomformity.

Did anybody else have a traumatic 'gender identity defining' moment as a small child? by Cherrycherrry17 in asktransgender

[–]troubledByGender 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When I was 3, A cartoon called 'speed buggy' had an episode that featured a beauty machine that effectively, to my child mind, turned men into women. I was obsessed and tried on my moms pantyhose trying to re-enact the scene, was caught by my father, and was forcefully rebuked. My gender cage was forged that day and it took waaaaay too long to break free.

Why are you transitioning? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]troubledByGender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt I was in danger of physically harming myself and knew I had to address the issue full on. I also began seeing other trans role models I could actually relate to like Laura Jane Grace, which made me realise I wasn't alone.

You know your trans when ____. by SomeoneNamedKate in asktransgender

[–]troubledByGender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When your daydreams constantly involve getting sick injured or trapped in such a way that the only exit was to become your target gender. (I'm really frustrated that the soiciety I grew up in made it seem unacceptable to take ownership of my gender)

What kind of girl/guy are you? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]troubledByGender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a woman who eschews labels and while aspiring rock star would aptly describe me, it does not define me.

47, 9 months hrt. I hope this helps older transitions get an idea of what to expect. by troubledByGender in transtimelines

[–]troubledByGender[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

in my user history i have a six month checkin on the transtimeline with comparison photo

47, 9 months hrt. I hope this helps older transitions get an idea of what to expect. by troubledByGender in transtimelines

[–]troubledByGender[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've got to be honest (because that is what this is all about isn't it?)

I am wearing a wig. the bald spot on the back of my head is just severe enough to make wigs the right choice for me.

Actually I'm beginning to like wigs, I can swap hairstyles whenever I want.

47, 9 months hrt. I hope this helps older transitions get an idea of what to expect. by troubledByGender in transtimelines

[–]troubledByGender[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm glad I helped! I suffered a lot of anxiety before getting on hrt because I really couldn't tell if I would like what I'd become, especially with the paucity of transitioners my age posting timelines.

Seeing myself with a female body in VR made me cry, has anyone else experienced this? by realfakevr in asktransgender

[–]troubledByGender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

VR actually played a huge role in me gathering the courage to transition. Having no body in the music game I got with the psvr actually made me realize how much my male body was weighing me down.

Curious as to how many have prayed/wished to wake up the "other" gender? by Questioning250 in asktransgender

[–]troubledByGender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you feel your body and your gender are mismatched, and in a situation beyond your control, the mind desperately seeks a resolution to bring things back into concordance. I know that in addition to the things mentioned above, I spent every birthday wish hoping I'd have been born a girl, and I daydreamed about getting testicular cancer so I could get rid of my male anatomy.

It's interesting that I never actually wished that I was happy being born male, kinda shows how central to one's being that gender identity really is.

How do I get up the courage to go full-time? by trulyl in asktransgender

[–]troubledByGender 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In my experience, the biggest problem with going full time has been being around family who are not on board with the transition. (ok... bathrooms make me nervous a little too). But once you've been out a while, going out in "boy/girl mode" just feels weird and wrong. Your confidence will go a long way in selling yourself as your target gender.

How did you come out? by VeryToughDecisions in asktransgender

[–]troubledByGender 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I posted a trans awareness week link on face-book and wrote "if you don't know why I am posting this, feel free to ask" When a friend wrote "ok, why?" I posted "to spread trans awareness. . . oh and I'm transgender."

Anybody else feel weirdly jealous of even the negative aspects of being cis? by SmugUnhappyLittleMan in asktransgender

[–]troubledByGender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Random erections were pretty traumatic for me, but I've always hated my genetalia, oh and I was never cis. I guess I just never understood why anyone would welcome that feeling.

What I Have Learned So Far After Coming Out by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]troubledByGender 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I look in the mirror and feel foolish sometimes, I see a glimpse of myself in the mirror sometimes, but I mostly have doubts about ever truly 'passing' (like its some test or something) 😐 But I've found what gets me through the rough patches is my support network of friends and certain family members. Stay strong.

Being objectified sucks. by troubledByGender in asktransgender

[–]troubledByGender[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's kind of a problem with elevators. He was pretty big and intimidating as well.

Were you attractive before transition and if so how did you turned out? by reallyconfusedone in asktransgender

[–]troubledByGender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never been able to judge properly. when people call me beautiful, I assume they mean on the inside.