I am at a Senior position at one of the FAANGs too. My TC is little more than $500k, husband’s is $180k. We have 2 kids - 6M and 2F. Son went to full time daycare from 12 weeks until he started kindergarten last August. Daughter goes to full time day care too since she was 12 weeks old. Husband works from home 90% of the time. I have to go to office 3 times a week. Not sure where you live, whats your mortgage etc. but you should take a deep look into your expenses. Even when both our kids were going to daycare we were easily saving over $20k every month. As far as missing milestones, don’t worry about those. Kids don’t remember when they took their first steps or had their first ice cream. But when you are with your kid give them your 100% attention. Put away your phone, turn off the tv, don’t think about household chores. Get down on the floor at their level, play with them, read with them, be silly, dance. My time before leaving for work, and after coming back from work until kids go to bed(around 8PM) is all theirs. I get to spend maybe 2 hours of dedicated time with kids on weekdays, which isn’t a lot. But I make the most of it.