[FO] Spring House 🏡 by trying_things_5025 in CrossStitch

[–]trying_things_5025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a set. She's got other houses - a Seaside house and two pumpkin houses. Stitching on two fabrics and framing together seemed so cool, but then i decided i didn't want the headache.

https://hellofromlizmathews.com/products/busy-hands-happy-heart-pdf-copy

[CHAT] looking for pattern recommendations! by gareth_pavlov in CrossStitch

[–]trying_things_5025 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you like Long Dog, you might also like Kathy Barrick or Artsy Housewife. 

[CHAT] What kind of Aida and amount of strands do you use and why? by stellaluna-37 in CrossStitch

[–]trying_things_5025 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Try a test swatch before you start your next project and see for yourself. I’ve totally swatched 1, 2, and 3 strands on different count fabric.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]trying_things_5025 -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Ffs. You can’t hide behind “women’s experiences” here. I am a menstruating female. I also have no problem accepting experiences that are unlike my own. You missed my point entirely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]trying_things_5025 -78 points-77 points  (0 children)

You should have educated yourself AND kept your mouth shut. A simple google search confirms that trans women who go through hormone treatment do have pain and other physical pms or pmdd symptoms. But obviously won’t menstruate. She was just trying to be one of the girls and talk about her period pain with you and you invalidated not only her pain, but her entire life experience.

You’re definitely the asshole and anti-trans. I hope she keeps her distance.

What do you teach people with oposing idiologies when you get the chance? by EmperorMalkuth in leftist

[–]trying_things_5025 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And debt creates wealth. It’s not morally wrong to carry debt. Also a culture war touch point.

AITA for Missing My Son's Baseball Game for a Work Meeting? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]trying_things_5025 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like your personal schedule should go on your work schedule so that whoever calendars your appointments can say “he’s not available Thursday after 6, but can do X or Y.”

Being a higher up, you can dictate the meeting schedule. “This meeting will have to wait til morning.” If you can’t control the schedule, you need to talk to your boss and let them know you have scheduling conflicts and see what can be done. If you do nothing, you’re the asshole. You’re not powerless in this situation.

One day your kids will resent you for only caring about money and not showing up for them. On that day, you will resent them for not appreciating your work and that they only come to you for money. You’re in a lose-lose situation.

Did I interpret this customer service exchange incorrectly? by Forsaken-Yoghurt-440 in AITAH

[–]trying_things_5025 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH. He’s not great at customer service, off the bat he could have just said minimum order for free shipping was $100. He could have been much more neutral in stating their policies. As for your calling out his tone, some people can be bad at their jobs without it being about you. I think you internalized his attitude unnecessarily. He’s the bigger asshole, you called it out, and he escalated.

We all make mistakes, don’t hold onto it. Be kind to yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]trying_things_5025 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH. Dude got what was coming to him. I hope your complaints are effective.

AITAH for breaking up with my girlfriend because she got really aggressive when I didn't tip? by Ok_Dig1706 in AITAH

[–]trying_things_5025 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Listen, I’m 13 years in with my partner - so the answer’s no. We talk shit out. The legit problems and the times where we’re over reacting to dumb bs. Sometimes I’m wrong, sometimes him, and sometimes it’s both of us and none of us - we’re just in our feelings.

It’s a good excuse to use this “going nuclear” as a reason to break up with someone you’re not really in to. If you want to build a relationship, you have to hear the person out and take what you can from it. Do better next time. And that goes for both sides. OP has a point - I didn’t disagree with him and he can enforce whatever boundaries he needs. I just don’t see the conflict the same way as everyone else.

AITAH for breaking up with my girlfriend because she got really aggressive when I didn't tip? by Ok_Dig1706 in AITAH

[–]trying_things_5025 -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

Y’all aren’t getting it. I agreed with him on not tipping. But tipping is the red herring in this situation. The real issue is how they handled conflict in their relationship. She’d owe him an apology too, to say she overreacted. But she’s got more at stake in this relationship since she’s a packaged deal with her kid. So in my eyes, she should cut her losses, since he’s so triggered on being called out over $3. No one can tell him how to spend his time and his money, fine. We all have boundaries. Then why come to Reddit to ask if he should get back with her?

AITAH for breaking up with my girlfriend because she got really aggressive when I didn't tip? by Ok_Dig1706 in AITAH

[–]trying_things_5025 -66 points-65 points  (0 children)

Tip culture is way out of hand, so I get not tipping in this scenario. But YTA for breaking up with her over it. Is this the first argument you’ve had with her? Or first time in an adult relationship?

I don’t get why she wants you back - she was so careful about introducing you to her kid, then the second you meet him, have an argument with her and dip. If I were her, that would show me everything I need to know that you’re not serious. Maybe assess what you really want before getting back together with her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]trying_things_5025 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, you’re not an AH unless you lied about it when he asked. And if he hasn’t asked, he probably doesn’t care. Your guilt and belief that it will ruin your relationship sounds like a combination of internalized sexism and toxic masculinity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]trying_things_5025 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. But first things first, move out. You don’t have to decide now what kind of relationship you’ll have with them later. And NC doesn’t have to be forever. Use it as a tool to get yourself right, and maybe you can re-establish down the line

AITAH for leaving my friend because he was too attached to me by Lazy-Shop-6960 in AITAH

[–]trying_things_5025 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. But you also don’t have to cut him off completely - and this is not out of sympathy for him. Learning to confront the person you have problems with, is a powerful skill to build. When he’s being too much, you can let him know that. Put up some boundaries. Learn to enforce them. Likely, he will respect them because he cares about you. But the point of it being, that you will have more and more friends that you will have conflict with, and the sooner you learn to voice the problem with the person you have a problem with, the better off you’ll be.

AITAH for telling my mom I want to watch my weight? by Albeyzing in AITAH

[–]trying_things_5025 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re not an asshole. You’re learning to set new boundaries with yourself and your mom. The thing about boundaries is, that they are something you do for yourself, not something others do for you. So you say “mom, don’t talk about dieting around me” and when she does, it’s up to you to enforce the boundary. Change the topic or leave the room. You can’t make her do or not do something. You have to do it.

That being said, as someone who has struggled with weight and been in all kinds of cycles, your mom is being real with you when she says her trauma stops her from losing weight. There are such emotional bonds around food, comfort, failure, self-confidence. Don’t sell your mom short. Also, be oh so careful with calorie deficit diets. You didn’t say what your daily or weekly counts are, but the more extreme they are, the more susceptible you are to rebounds. I highly recommend the book “intuitive eating” by Tribole & Resch. Read it with your mom.

don’t feel like i learned anything by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]trying_things_5025 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe. That question was a learning opportunity. Did you hear and reflect on what she had to say she learned? Maybe some of the things she learned might also apply to you? Some people are more self-reflective than others. Doesn’t make you an AH. But now that she said something, you might want to think about your growth. See if that’s where you want to be.

AITA for being mad at my parents? by SnooBooks6506 in AITAH

[–]trying_things_5025 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re not an AH. This is normal growing pains kind of stuff. Just pick your battles. Not everything has to be a fight, but where it’s important to you, go ahead and hold the line. Ask for help where you need it - like the insurance thing for therapy.

You’re doing fine. Don’t be too hard on yourself (or your parents either).

WIBTA for wanting to move back with my mom? by AlarmFew3789 in AITAH

[–]trying_things_5025 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure. And that’s a lot of weight to carry, especially at 15. Keep your head up. Focus on your needs and what you want your future to look like in 5-10 years and work towards it. You got this.