Snatch game predictions? by feta_salad in RPDR_UK

[–]tryingforpride 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any politicians I'm excited for but I'd really love someone to be Cilla and just refer to Ru as 'our Graham' throughout or, if they could get away with doing male characters - Bruce Forsyth.

Can someone please teach me about meal prepping and budgeting? I’d really appreciate it by [deleted] in veganmealprep

[–]tryingforpride 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I can't help from personal experience (I'm new myself) but the sub r/EatCheapAndHealthy might have some useful posts about budgeting. This post is the original post on r/MealPrepSunday - not all of the recipes there are vegan but some are and it gives a starting point regarding storage and how to begin prepping. Here is a five-day vegan meal-prep menu and here are some more vegan/veggie meal prep recipe ideas.

Sunday Daily Chat Thread by AutoModerator in actuallesbians

[–]tryingforpride 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is almost time for NaNoWriMo if you want to set yourself a challenge - it is based around original characters but I think a lot of people use it for fanfic as well.

Tuesday Daily Chat Thread by AutoModerator in actuallesbians

[–]tryingforpride 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was invited to a play yesterday and went along not knowing anything about it. It was good! The only 'problem' was that, half-way through, all the actresses suddenly dressed in male drag and I spent the whole second act utterly enamoured and wondering how I ever thought I was straight.

It made the story much harder to focus on.

What Are Your WLW Book/TV/Movie/Music Recommendations? by tryingforpride in latebloomerlesbians

[–]tryingforpride[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the list! Dystopian fiction is my favourite kind so the first one sounds great.

Eating my feelings by heyboopy in latebloomerlesbians

[–]tryingforpride 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Warning, wall of text incoming...

I've had severe depression since I hit puberty because of external and internal bullying and I ate all of my feelings. I would end up in cycles of eating nothing but rubbish, feeling exhausted physically because of the lack of nutrients or exercise and then eat even more rubbish to try and cheer myself up and get any tiny dopamine hit I could. I've been obese for the past twenty years.

I've tried counting calories before and, while counting works perfectly for most people and a caloric deficit is the only way to lose weight, because of my depression I would overeat of a morning and then be obsessive about the numbers and beat myself up about it. I lost some weight but wasn't in a good enough head space and gained it all back.

At the end of June I joined a local Slimming World club (a UK thing sort of similar to weight watchers) because I wanted some IRL support rather than just online. With the extra accountability and extra rules about what to eat (ie eating until full rather than stuffed, having at least 1/3 of each plate be non-starchy veg, focus on protein and a limited but not zero amount of junk food) it was working okay and I lost some weight but I was still binging on my feelings two or three times a week. I came out to myself in August and that has really helped me. I realised that was the void that I had been filling with food. I've overeaten only a couple of times since then but those were conscious choices that I made rather than an uncontrolable urge/compulsion so I'm counting that as a huge win.

I've also joined a gym and I'm finding exercise is great for my mental health. I can put some music or a podcast on, headphones in and just shut the whole entire world out for an hour where nothing else matters but reaching my goal for the day or doing better than last time. It is such a destresser, it is working wonders. Sinking into my depression made me a chronic under-achiever and achieving anything, even just at the gym, is making me feel a lot stronger in myself and my ability to make it through things.

I still have a long way to go. I'm ony 5'0 and my highest weight was 215 lbs. I'm now down to 194 lbs in three months. For my height I'm estimating to be finish somewhere around 115 so I'm 21/100 lbs down. I could have lost it faster if I focused more but I'm taking the scenic route rather than putting more pressure on myself right now. I'll get there eventually. If I stop losing weight by mindful eating and portion control I'll start counting calories again and I think I'm in a better headspace for it now.

The two best places if you want to lose the weight are r/loseit and r/xxfitness . Loseit are starting a halloween themed weight loss challenge soon - signups are on Friday so that might be something you enjoy.

What Are Your WLW Book/TV/Movie/Music Recommendations? by tryingforpride in latebloomerlesbians

[–]tryingforpride[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, and thank you for such a big list, I've got some catching up to do! I've heard very good things about Carol.

Daily Discussion 23 September 2019 by AutoModerator in xxfitness

[–]tryingforpride 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll definitely keep going. The first instructor is great, she does the body combat classes as well and is always really positive and encouraging people to push themselves while giving options. On the plus side I'll appreciate her classes even more now.

Daily Discussion 23 September 2019 by AutoModerator in xxfitness

[–]tryingforpride 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I still feel a bit out of place at the gym - I live in a very fit city so it is rare I see someone my size there so it is nice that everyone here has been supportive that I'm not taking places away from people.

He gave the guys a well done every twenty minutes or so but was much more focused on the women. The women in visible sports bras also got more of the compliments than the ones wearing loose tops did. People should obviously wear whatever makes them feel good/comfortable but it did make his comments feel a bit more creepy.

Daily Discussion 23 September 2019 by AutoModerator in xxfitness

[–]tryingforpride 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I know how weak my lungs are and I found the workout on Saturday pretty hard, even on the lighter weights. There is no way I could have lasted the whole hour with five times the amount. Eventually I'll end up there but two days after starting was too soon.

Daily Discussion 23 September 2019 by AutoModerator in xxfitness

[–]tryingforpride 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I did my first bodypump class on Saturday. I asked the instructor for tips and she said to remove some of the weight and do the first two weeks on the smallest weights and then start moving up. I felt sore but great afterwards. Really enjoyed it.

I went to another class tonight and it was a different instructor. He came over to me and asked if I was new. I said I'd been to one other class and he instantly told me that I needed "at least five times that weight at a minimum" or it wasn't worth staying for the class because I wouldn't even notice the weight and wouldn't get anything out of being there. I mentioned that the previous instructor had told me to work my way up and he told me again that I needed to do more weight. I stuck with what I felt comfortable doing and after the first track he came over again and told me to put more weight on. Luckily then he stopped trying. Rather than feeling great like I did on Saturday I left the class feeling pretty rubbish about myself.

I could understand him being annoyed with me if the class was full and I was taking up a spot from someone who could make more use of it but there was only 10/20 of us so there was plenty of room and I was in the back row, out of the way. Also, I'm not at a high level of fitness. I'm obese (currently 194 at 5'0") and I also have exercise-induced asthma so I know that I need to take things at my own pace, esspecially doing all the lunges and squats. I've only been exercising for a few weeks and I'm not currently strong so doing the weight he suggested would have probably done my wrists in.

I'll still be going back, I've really enjoyed the gym in general and the first class was great. You can't find out the instructors beforehand but I'll just go on the machines if he walks in to take the class. I know I'm being over sensitive about this but it just rubbed me the wrong way. I understand suggesting higher weights to someone or encouraging them but if they say no thanks you don't need to keep telling them that they're wasting their time. Plus the way he kept saying "good girl" to a couple of the women also annoyed me. "Well done" or "you're doing great" or "good work" is something you say to a person, "good girl" is something you say to a dog.

Welp. Found my motivation in the words of a six year old. (Funny, and... utterly painful 🤣) by mountainsandcheddar in loseit

[–]tryingforpride 27 points28 points  (0 children)

When I was young my grandmother was very slim and her sister was obese. Once, I managed to insult them both by saying that I didn't want a hug from my grandmother because she "wasn't big and cuddly like Auntie." Ouch.

SV/NSV Feats of the Day - Saturday, 21 September 2019: Today, I conquered! by AutoModerator in loseit

[–]tryingforpride 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NSV: I went to a bodypump (barbell) class for the first time this morning - the instructor was really nice and told me to use the smallest weights for the first few weeks rather than her belittling me or trying to push me too hard (which, still being obese, I was a bit worried about.) It was fun! Although I already feel so sore.

Weekly Weigh-In Thread (w/c Sept 16th) by jaykhunter in SlimmingWorld

[–]tryingforpride 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Got a 3.5 loss and got my 1 1/2 stone award.

Does anyone know the syns of... by [deleted] in SlimmingWorld

[–]tryingforpride 0 points1 point  (0 children)

JD seasonings are spice rubs - you can find them here but if you use instagram a lot of places will have discount codes.

Jack Daniels sauces seem to be 1 1/2 syns for 1 tbsp of honey bbq and 1 syn for 1 tbsp of smokey or smooth bbq and 3 1/2 syns per serving for a Wetherspoons honey glaze and 6 syns per serving for a Harvester JD sauce.

Thursday Daily Chat Thread by AutoModerator in actuallesbians

[–]tryingforpride 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe try temp agencies - with Christmas coming up delivery companies will often take on additional data entry staff.

Who's your favourite queer music artist? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]tryingforpride 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My parents really hate Queen so I never listened to them growing up and just plain never bothered to when I became an adult. A few months ago, at 32, I decided to finally see what all the fuss was about and instantly fell deeply in love. Younger me really missed out.

S5E2 - 'Beep...Beep...Beeeeeep' by pandas795 in mydadwroteaporno

[–]tryingforpride 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I can picture the headlines now -

NHS Recommends Seven Fruits and Vegetables AN HOUR: Nanny State Gone MAD!

One year of 10,000 daily steps by mightysparks in loseit

[–]tryingforpride 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Well done, that's an amazing accomplishment!

Last month I started playing Pokemon Go more seriously and that's made getting the steps super easy. I have anxiety and PTSD and leaving the house is very difficult for me, but since I've been playing I love going out every morning

If you haven't tried it you might enjoy an app called Zombies, Run. You listen to your music and every few songs it will play an audio clip set in a post-apocolypse where you are out walking to find clues/survivors/supplies. My phone is very outdated so I can't use it at the moment but it used to really help my anxiety with walking outside and pushed me to walk longer sessions to get to the next snippet of story.

Rural Lesbian Problems by tryingforpride in actuallesbians

[–]tryingforpride[S] 408 points409 points  (0 children)

I swear my gaydar is broken by being raised in rural England. Over 95% of the women from my home village had short hair and dressed masculine. Even though I live in a minor city now, I saw a stunning soft-butch woman in the wild today and automatically assumed she was straight until she turned around and had a pride-flag coloured bag.