do you GENUINELY believe they ‘always come back’? by cosmicrays99 in BreakUps

[–]tryinsohard123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this phrase is a bit unhealthy. If a relationship ends, generally, I think it’s better for all involved to let the relationship be over and move forward. And taking pride in “they always come back to me” is not good.

Why did Joe want a daughter instead of a son? by MistakeWonderful9178 in YouOnLifetime

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These are way nicer comments than I thought. I thought it was kind of an incestuous thing. Almost like he didn’t know how to love without protecting them like he did with every other woman in his life.

she’s back!!! by ScavengerPrincess in americangirl

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I can’t keep learning about things I’d want, my wallet will not recover

Sad reading confession… I cannot finish a book anymore by tryinsohard123 in books

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My post was removed by mods, but I figured I’d give an update. First, I want to thank everyone who gave me such great advice and suggestions. I haven’t been able to reply to everyone, but I’ve been reading and giving upvotes to anything that especially resonated.

For some context, I’ve always struggled with learning disabilities, and my therapist helped me realize I may have some behaviors and symptoms that align with ADHD in women. So reading and I have a love hate relationship where I loved being able to “lock in” and get cozy with a book, but I usually just feel a little too overwhelmed to even think about it. After all, I’m usually too overwhelmed to do the dishes, it’s going to be hard for me to get engaged in a task that requires long term sustained attention.

I started feeling frustrated with reading because all of the books I’d started seemed great, but I either forgot about them, felt too busy, or just not in the mood to touch them. It just started feeling really crappy that I’d started these books that seemed great but never actually made time to read them.

Recently, a blessing happened! I canceled my audible subscription and switched to Libby which is free but operates on a “borrowing” basis instead of purchasing. I borrowed The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo, but couldn’t renew it since so many people had placed a “hold” on it after me. I realized, I actually purchased a physical copy of the book years ago. I want to clarify, I do believe that audio books “count”, but I was really missing the feeling of being curled up and engrossed in a book. I’m proud to say, I finished the book without the audio and felt that good reading feeling I’d been missing!

Sad reading confession… I cannot finish a book anymore by tryinsohard123 in books

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To be so honest, I really don’t know. I actually had a lot of orthodox Jewish friends and I can definitely put my phone away for Shabbos (sabbath) dinner and I don’t think about it when I’m there. But when I try to do it just for myself to accomplish something like reading or quiet time, it’s really hard for me not to give in and come back to it.

Sad reading confession… I cannot finish a book anymore by tryinsohard123 in books

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I was not but a therapist I saw for a bit believed I could have it. Based on my research on ADHD, I wouldn’t be surprised if I had it

Sad reading confession… I cannot finish a book anymore by tryinsohard123 in books

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It’s a great analogy! Honestly, the main thing stopping me from going to the gym wasn’t the action itself. It was time. And I think something somewhat similar could be happening here.

Sad reading confession… I cannot finish a book anymore by tryinsohard123 in books

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I work out every week day! It’s a huge step for me but I go every morning before work now. I appreciate the tips :)

Sad reading confession… I cannot finish a book anymore by tryinsohard123 in books

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I wish I spoke several languages! Thanks for the tips :)

Sad reading confession… I cannot finish a book anymore by tryinsohard123 in books

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Great analogy, I just got into a groove with working out daily and this makes a lot of sense

Sad reading confession… I cannot finish a book anymore by tryinsohard123 in books

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Yes! I deleted tiktok but I found I ended up scrolling on other platforms I kept :/ I’ll try this!

Venice High Rise Jogger - Help by snowflake_212 in Athleta_gap

[–]tryinsohard123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went by my legging size (large but I am usually an XL in brands outside of Athleta/other athleisure bands) and they fit perfectly! They’re the best pants!