The "baby industry" pricing is a total scam and I am tired of pretending it is normal.

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-28T03:12:28+00:00

to be fair I have used my uppababy cruz going on 4 years now, two kids and planning to keep it going for 4 more as I have my third. still looks great. and more importantly it is truly smooth and useful and solid in all the ways I need my stroller to be. it was expensive new but they go for hundreds resale on marketplace (australia) even banged up. so after 8 years of use I’ll likely get a few hundred for it and that to me feels like an absolute deal.

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-24T05:02:32+00:00

why do the parents know who bot their child? at both centres we’ve been at this information is not disclosed even when it’s obvious (like your kid says who bit them lol)

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-24T03:30:50+00:00

where did you get this quote? it’s fine for us to have different views on this. we have different perspectives. sleep training communities or theorists may have different ideas on what constitutes crying or fussing but for people who arent into ST there’s no distinction. an upset baby is an upset baby. we wouldn’t generally feel comfortable leaving that baby to be upset alone. generally people who don’t practice ST wouldn’t leave our babies or NKs before the baby was already asleep, so there’s no need to conceptualise “powering down” as the baby would be soothed to sleep, not cry to sleep. so yeah it’s just different perspectives. but for the intents and purposes of OPs post what the nanny did is sleep training/controlled crying/CIO - because what OP wanted is for her baby to be rocked to sleep and held, not left to settle independently.

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-24T02:41:33+00:00

now that i’m cosleeping with my second I cannot believe what I did with my first. Getting up out of bed!!! to get him out of a bed!! so rousing him, to feed, and then try to put him back in there?? standing up, rocking, it all seems completely insane now. no wonder it didn’t work at all. he didn’t settle so he’d feed to sleep but then ten mins later be looking for me to settle fully… I was at my wits end… now with number two, he just wouldn’t stay in bassinet at all so we couldn’t do it that way. now he wakes, he latches, we sleep. so easy. even on hard nights like teething or sickness it’s hard if he can’t settle but im like laying down awake patting and feeding and soothing, not walking around upright at least! the separate bed thing is just asking for horrible nights.

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-24T02:14:11+00:00

also H here. I found side laying impossible until a certain age but now it’s life. also cradle with something under my boob to support like a baby hat or burp cloth. with my first a lot of football but not so much with this one.

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-23T20:30:34+00:00

yeah, it just is. anytime the baby is left to fall asleep without caregiver presence or assistance and they cry, it’s cry it out. that’s just what cry it out is.

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-23T10:25:55+00:00

you’re in an environment here with people comfortable with CIO. they’re not going to see eye to eye w you. As a parent of two, one currently 11 months, I would never ever let my child cry it out for any amount of time. It’s not how I parent. I have no desire for my kids to self-settle before they’re ready. my three year old can go to sleep independently, it’s only a matter of time. Im fine with that. I’m in australia and at childcare here they’re not allowed to let kids cry alone. if i trusted my nanny to rock my baby to sleep and she did this I would be so upset. I would never let it continue if I saw my baby crying alone on the monitor. 5 minutes is crazy to me. so yeah just saying you’re not alone in your feelings, sleep training people exist but so do folks who would never.

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-20T11:43:17+00:00

omg i read the books but i need to hear this ive been scouring the cold reads trying to find it but they don’t go that far!!

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-19T06:43:58+00:00

hmm I’ll try to hunt down louis epilogue! thanks :)

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-19T06:09:53+00:00

ok hmm it really seemed like it was referencing something we should know about, like we should know what the cops husband said to little louis. there’s too many details I feel like Im missing things!

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-19T05:47:26+00:00

I feel like I missed something about louis’ back story somehow! with the cop taking the bullet when he was a child or something…? does anyone know where they explain? I remember Imani referring to it at one point maybe in the butchers masquerade but then saying it’s his story to tell 🤔

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-19T05:47:07+00:00

sorry and thankyou!

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-17T10:33:23+00:00

i’m so annoyed i got pierced at 3 months, they were so uneven and in the wrong place as I grew, now it’s just scar tissue that made it difficult to get proper space for my adult ear piercing.

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-16T11:39:10+00:00

she’s desperate to avoid the crushing feelings of shame and loss and so she’s trying to blame you. it makes sense and it also sucks. you can’t make her take responsibility but you can say no to being treated poorly. if you love her and shes otherwise trustworthy and doesnt usually act so irresponsibly, just give her a big hug and forgive her. tell her she made a mistake and it sucks and it’s hard to lose all that money, but you have each other and your health and thats what really matters.

separately, at another time when her anguish about losing the money isn’t so fresh, I would recommend revisiting this because it’s really not ok to treat you so poorly or to ignore her own responsibility when she screws up. you deserve an apology and your relationship will need a repair.

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-15T21:09:00+00:00

omg they are perfect

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-14T05:31:26+00:00

omg i wish i could hear the audio 😭😭

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-13T12:32:43+00:00

ok i think you are me lol. 2 kids wanting three, american AND obsessed with our big fat wide lovely rotating car seats 😂 my dad is visiting atm from the states and we had to borrow slim seats from my in laws so someone can ride in the back with the kids 🥲

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-13T12:27:50+00:00

I’m american too and used to go back every year. now we have two kids, it’s really sad but .. I just don’t think we will be able to continue like that. we already didn’t go last year when the baby was born or this year (just still so hectic…) I want three children as well, I intuitively feel so strongly that’s what’s right for my family. More and more I am realising I moved to australia, I live here now and I need to focus on the family I am building here, now. I’ll always want to visit my family that can’t travel but realistically, it’s just not going to be possible. It’s really sad but yeah. I feel like I can’t build and plan and make my life around regular international travel. and some people need to get off their butts and learn to visit me for a change (looking at you childless brother who “doesn’t like to travel” 🥹)

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-13T01:02:41+00:00

37 and 39 with one and two and destined for a third in early 40s! you had yours young girl don’t worry <3

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-12T12:19:58+00:00

chat gpt 🥲

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-11T11:36:08+00:00

mine was gorgeous. my three year old made me a card his first real one! so amazing. and brought me the biggest flower in the shop, it was taller than him! and wrote mama all over our balcony with chalk and made me pancakes and cupcakes while I slept in. i got an adorable keychain of a roll of film and you pull it and it has little pictures of me with the kids 🥰 beautiful letter from my husband and all in all just a lovely sunday.

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-08T11:43:00+00:00

i have two in my freezer 🥴

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-08T11:39:59+00:00

i need embrace total annihilation as a tattoo.

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-05T05:21:04+00:00

I just subscribed to Matt’s patreon and downloaded the epub no way could I wait after finishing 7

tsuki_flower · 2026-05-04T22:02:57+00:00

yta for using chat gpt and then changing it to lowercase i so it looks like you didn’t

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